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gay guy wanting to become stright and not be Gay anymore

I am woundering if anyone knows how to go from being gay to being straight and being gay and to not find men or guys attractive or get hard for them and to be able to only get hard for female any advice on how to accomplish this is highly appreciated also note that I am not sure if I am gay or my mind is confused because I have kissed girls and men and I have gotten sucked by a guy but have no interest in sucking his and have no interest in men gay sex ways as in anel am I just confused and I have to make the first step with my mind ?
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You can try "praying away the gay" but idk if even jesus could take away your innate want to choke on a ****.
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Original post by Jojo1989
I am woundering if anyone knows how to go from being gay to being straight and being gay and to not find men or guys attractive or get hard for them and to be able to only get hard for female any advice on how to accomplish this is highly appreciated


I don't think it's wrong to want to be straight. In many cultures they have concepts of third gender and the men are far more sexual with other men, but in western culture we don't have such a strong desire to want to be sexual with other men and masculinity is very important to males too, or that third gender isn't something most westerners are aware of.

So it's okay if you want to explore that option. It's not wrong to be a homosexual, but it's not wrong to be a full-blooded straight man too.
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Original post by Jojo1989
I am woundering if anyone knows how to go from being gay to being straight and being gay and to not find men or guys attractive or get hard for them and to be able to only get hard for female any advice on how to accomplish this is highly appreciated


I’m in exactly the same position as you. For most of my life I’ve only been attracted to men but the thought of marrying a man or being in a relationship with another men is a turn off. I’ve always wanted a wife and kids.

It can be done but it takes a lot of willpower. You need to stop watching gay porn and fantasising over men. You need to watch lesbian porn instead. Don’t even watch straight porn as then you’ll just be tempted to look at the man the whole time.

You need to masturbate over women and slowly make yourself find vaginas attractive. It will probably be very difficult at first, but you have to stick with it and hopefully it’ll work.

I’ve been doing this for a few months and while I’m not completely straight yet, I have noticed to my shock and delight that I am finding vaginas more attractive. I’ve been able to masturbate and orgasm thinking just of women and I have sometimes seen women on the street and felt a very sudden and intense attraction to them. This had never happened to me before, ever, before I started doing this.
Original post by Anonymous
I’m in exactly the same position as you. For most of my life I’ve only been attracted to men but the thought of marrying a man or being in a relationship with another men is a turn off. I’ve always wanted a wife and kids.

It can be done but it takes a lot of willpower. You need to stop watching gay porn and fantasising over men. You need to watch lesbian porn instead. Don’t even watch straight porn as then you’ll just be tempted to look at the man the whole time.

You need to masturbate over women and slowly make yourself find vaginas attractive. It will probably be very difficult at first, but you have to stick with it and hopefully it’ll work.

I’ve been doing this for a few months and while I’m not completely straight yet, I have noticed to my shock and delight that I am finding vaginas more attractive. I’ve been able to masturbate and orgasm thinking just of women and I have sometimes seen women on the street and felt a very sudden and intense attraction to them. This had never happened to me before, ever, before I started doing this.


Ur not gay dude
Original post by Anonymous

I’ve been doing this for a few months and while I’m not completely straight yet, I have noticed to my shock and delight that I am finding vaginas more attractive. I’ve been able to masturbate and orgasm thinking just of women and I have sometimes seen women on the street and felt a very sudden and intense attraction to them.


:lol: If you have to force yourself to like vaginas, you are not straight and you never will be. You're just going to spend years feeling miserable and end up in the same place all "ex-gays" end up; accepting that sexuality is pretty immutable and that there's simply nothing wrong with being gay, bisexual, straight or anything else.
Original post by Bobo344
Ur not gay dude


You really think someone who has to force themselves to like vaginas is straight? :lol:
Original post by Jojo1989
I am woundering if anyone knows how to go from being gay to being straight and being gay and to not find men or guys attractive


The best evidence suggests it is not possible. Sexuality is pretty immutable. All trying to change sexuality does is make people miserable (sometimes suicidal).

Being gay is not a mental illness, but being deeply dissatisfied with your sexuality to the point of wanting to change it can be. These days psychiatrists and medical professionals believe the far better option is to help people understand and accept their sexuality rather than undertake something which we have lots of evidence to suggest is impossible (i.e. changing your sexuality).

Why don't you want to be gay? Religious family or something?
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I don't want to be GAY because there is a girl I deeply love but if she ever wanted to do it in the bed it would not be possible if I am Gay so it is because there is a perfect relationship await me with a girl I don't believe in your none sense saying I would become Sucidle because I believe me being with a girl and being able to sleep with her in the same bed and cuddle with her would make me Sucidle I believe it is something that can be changed
Troll thread much?
Original post by Jojo1989
I don't want to be GAY because there is a girl I deeply love but if she ever wanted to do it in the bed it would not be possible if I am Gay so it is because there is a perfect relationship await me with a girl I don't believe in your none sense saying I would become Sucidle because I believe me being with a girl and being able to sleep with her in the same bed and cuddle with her would make me Sucidle I believe it is something that can be changed


You're clearly very confused, drop the labels for now and just be attracted to whomever you want .

If it is social pressure making you do this , I understand, but this is a thing you cannot change.

If you're putting yourself under oressgfe, you're just hurting yourself mentally and you may out yourself through a breakdown from which you may never recover , so be careful.
Try hypnotic therapy to gradually trick your mind into finding females attractive.
Or take a viagra pill before you get in bed with this woman you love, and you can fantasize about all the hard c*** you want and still get her off.
Or you could close your eyes and imagine she's the man of your dreams
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Original post by Bulletzone
Troll thread much?


Maybe, also maybe trying to annoy people with the lack of punctuation alongside it.
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Or you could tell her you have erectile dysfunction and so can only use your tongue and hands
Phone Robert Heath, probably long dead.
Original post by Bobo344
Ur not gay dude


What? I am gay and have been gay my entire life. I’ve only started to be sexually attracted to women since I’ve been strict with myself and decided to become straight.
Original post by Anonymous
What? I am gay and have been gay my entire life. I’ve only started to be sexually attracted to women since I’ve been strict with myself and decided to become straight.


Then you’re bi.
Original post by AlexanderHam
:lol: If you have to force yourself to like vaginas, you are not straight and you never will be. You're just going to spend years feeling miserable and end up in the same place all "ex-gays" end up; accepting that sexuality is pretty immutable and that there's simply nothing wrong with being gay, bisexual, straight or anything else.


The forcing part only comes in the beginning, obviously. If you’ve been gay all your life and want to become straight then the transition will require forcing at the beginning. But do it for long enough and it’ll subside
As I said, before doing this I had never been attracted to women, I had even been repulsed by vaginas. But since doing this there have been several occasions where I’ve felt an immediate, spontaneous attraction to some women, and this wasn’t forced at all.

So is it going to take work? Yes. But is it possible? Of course.
Original post by ProRoadman
Then you’re bi.


I’ll be bi while I’m transitioning but once I develop unforced, totally natural attraction to women I will then do work to make myself be not attracted to men, therefore I’ll be straight.

And the reason I’m doing that is because if I remain bi it’ll be too easy for me to still fantasise about men and be into them, so the only option for me is to go the whole hog.

Some of you people are so hypocritical. You fight for everyone to be able to express their sexuality, you’d live and die for LGBT people, but you don’t accept the perfectly valid position of gay people who want to become straight BY CHOICE. Yes, we probably quite rare, but we exist. Look up heteroromantic homosexuals, it’s a thing.

No one has forced me to become straight, no one know I’m gay. My family and community are perfectly accepting of gays, so if I wanted to I could come out to them and it would be fine.

But I won’t because it doesn’t represent me. I know it’s a crass analogy but I’ve always known or felt like I’m a straight guy trapped in a body that’s sexually attracted to the same sex.
Obviously, your confused. Why did you have another guy suck you off anyway? A girl could have done it.

Just take your mind off the idea of anal on both men and women.

This first step then help you

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