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    Hi. I met him online about 9 or so months ago. I recently turned 18. I know that the legal age of consent for physical sex is 16, although I would still send him lots of pictures and he would ask me to do things sexually and show him all whilst I was 17 (which would be classed as child pornography if I am not mistaken).

    This man also knows quite a bit about me. My name, my age, also what university I will be going to. I have always wanted to be a virgin until marriage (and he knows me) but i think now i don't care about when it happens (religious and cultural reasons were what really wanted me to wait until marriage).

    i just want to know, is there anyone else on here who has lost their virginity to someone so much older than them, and how was it? also, was i effectively somewhat groomed into all of this? he used to get mad whenever i would say no about physically having sex, although we hadn't spoken for several months and during this time he left me FULLY alone before messaging me at the end of exams, asking me how they went. and i do feel infatuated with him and i do want him.

    also, this is entirely my fault but i did meet him on a pornsite. at the time i used to post videos of myself, despite being underage, as it was a very unhealthy coping mechanism of mine (i was very depressed and lonely at the time). i don't do that anymore, although it doesn't matter if i did seeing as i am 18, but yeah, that's how i met him. and he knew from day 1 that i wasn't actually 18 as i did let him know.
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    It’s your choice if you want to have sex with someone that old. However, it doesn’t need to be that man. He sounds very controlling and that’s unhealthy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi. I met him online about 9 or so months ago. I recently turned 18. I know that the legal age of consent for physical sex is 16, although I would still send him lots of pictures and he would ask me to do things sexually and show him all whilst I was 17 (which would be classed as child pornography if I am not mistaken).

    This man also knows quite a bit about me. My name, my age, also what university I will be going to. I have always wanted to be a virgin until marriage (and he knows me) but i think now i don't care about when it happens (religious and cultural reasons were what really wanted me to wait until marriage).

    i just want to know, is there anyone else on here who has lost their virginity to someone so much older than them, and how was it? also, was i effectively somewhat groomed into all of this? he used to get mad whenever i would say no about physically having sex, although we hadn't spoken for several months and during this time he left me FULLY alone before messaging me at the end of exams, asking me how they went. and i do feel infatuated with him and i do want him.

    also, this is entirely my fault but i did meet him on a pornsite. at the time i used to post videos of myself, despite being underage, as it was a very unhealthy coping mechanism of mine (i was very depressed and lonely at the time). i don't do that anymore, although it doesn't matter if i did seeing as i am 18, but yeah, that's how i met him. and he knew from day 1 that i wasn't actually 18 as i did let him know.
    It sounds really unhealthy and you are letting yourself be groomed irrespective of age.

    Your choice though. I would say the probability is you will regret it, but its your life. Use protection and if you change your mind then dont do it.
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    hopefully this is a troll thread...
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    As someone has already said, he is very controlling. Someone getting angry when you say you don't want to have sex with them is a huge red flag for other manipulative and obsessive behaviours, which can only get worse. Ultimately it's your decision whether you sleep with him or not, just don't expect a proper relationship to come out of this because it simply won't happen. Also please be aware of sending inappropriate photos/videos of yourself to people online regardless of your age - you don't know them, you don't know what they're going to do with them. It's a dangerous, and quite frankly stupid, thing to do.
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    I am having trouble distinguishing troll threads lately, they are just getting better and better.

    Just for the rare chance that you really are a naive 18 year old in this situation; the fact that you are concerned and uncomfortable enough to seek guidance on TSR speak volumes.

    (Original post by Anonymous)

    'he would ask me to do things sexually and show him all whilst I was 17 (which would be classed as child pornography if I am not mistaken).'

    also, was i effectively somewhat groomed into all of this? he used to get mad whenever i would say no about physically having sex

    at the time i used to post videos of myself, despite being underage.
    Nothing about this relationship scream 'sunshine and rainbows' to me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi. I met him online about 9 or so months ago. I recently turned 18. I know that the legal age of consent for physical sex is 16, although I would still send him lots of pictures and he would ask me to do things sexually and show him all whilst I was 17 (which would be classed as child pornography if I am not mistaken).

    This man also knows quite a bit about me. My name, my age, also what university I will be going to. I have always wanted to be a virgin until marriage (and he knows me) but i think now i don't care about when it happens (religious and cultural reasons were what really wanted me to wait until marriage).

    i just want to know, is there anyone else on here who has lost their virginity to someone so much older than them, and how was it? also, was i effectively somewhat groomed into all of this? he used to get mad whenever i would say no about physically having sex, although we hadn't spoken for several months and during this time he left me FULLY alone before messaging me at the end of exams, asking me how they went. and i do feel infatuated with him and i do want him.

    also, this is entirely my fault but i did meet him on a pornsite. at the time i used to post videos of myself, despite being underage, as it was a very unhealthy coping mechanism of mine (i was very depressed and lonely at the time). i don't do that anymore, although it doesn't matter if i did seeing as i am 18, but yeah, that's how i met him. and he knew from day 1 that i wasn't actually 18 as i did let him know.
    Simple, you are being groomed by a much older man. Your choice, but if you are asking for advice, don't do it.
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    all I can say is please cut communication with him even if he pleads, begs, says he'll change etc. you need him out of your life. you were vulnerable and he took advantage of that. nobody in a normal, healthy relationship would get angry at you because you say you aren't ready for sex yet. it's not the normal reaction. even if it had been 2yrs and you weren't ready, the normal reaction would be for them to talk calmly and supportively with you about it. not anger, not coercion. that's non-negotiable. you were lonely and depressed and did things that put yourself in real danger and did things that have could affect your future (those porn pics may still be there, this guys has naked pics of you) - the only thing to do now is learn from this and to not do anything like this again.
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    It's hardly grooming if he met you on a porn site... and age doesn't really make a difference if you have a sexual connection with someone. The only thing to be concerned about is how "mad" he got when you declined his offer for sex, BUT the question is, did you lead him on...? if so, then his annoyance is somewhat understandable. If not, then he sounds like a sexual predator who could possibly ruin your life forever.
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    If this is real (I really do hope it is not) then everything you have said is ringing deafening alarm bells. This person is exploiting your vulnerability and naivety to achieve his own sexual gratification.

    He is a paedophile, knowingly engaged in keeping and sending illegal images to/from you and grooming/controlling you in order to engineer a liason for full sex. He has conned you into trusting him.

    The shi t is a disgusting pervert. He's even convinced you it's your fault - overwhelming evidence of abuse.

    If he did this to you, what else could he have done and still be doing to others, perhaps far younger than you? Who else is he sharing your images with? Where will this lead - coercing you into sex with his paedo pals?

    Please do yourself (and potentially other children) a huge favour and seek professional help by contacting the Childline on 0800 1111. They will talk with you in complete confidence and start getting you the help and support you so clearly crying out for.

    Sincerest best wishes. Stay safe.
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    absolutely disgusting
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    When you were a newborn baby, he was in his 30’s. That makes me sick to my stomach
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    What a vile perverted piece of work!
    I only date older men and have no issues with the age gap.
    But this unpleasant individual's actions are sordid, controlling and seem to suggest him having an anger management problem triggered by hearing the word no. Why do you want any of this in your future?

    Many scumbags spend a fortune and almost all their time on pornsites because face to face they behave so appallingly that no woman will put up with their abuse.
    He has no respect for you, does not care whether you are happy and has no interest in your needs- a walking no go zone for any sort of positive relationship.

    You need to end contact politely- block his number and social media.
    Then get in touch with the police about the pornsite that didn't age verify you and decide whether you want to report him.


    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi. I met him online about 9 or so months ago. I recently turned 18. I know that the legal age of consent for physical sex is 16, although I would still send him lots of pictures and he would ask me to do things sexually and show him all whilst I was 17 (which would be classed as child pornography if I am not mistaken).

    This man also knows quite a bit about me. My name, my age, also what university I will be going to. I have always wanted to be a virgin until marriage (and he knows me) but i think now i don't care about when it happens (religious and cultural reasons were what really wanted me to wait until marriage).

    i just want to know, is there anyone else on here who has lost their virginity to someone so much older than them, and how was it? also, was i effectively somewhat groomed into all of this? he used to get mad whenever i would say no about physically having sex, although we hadn't spoken for several months and during this time he left me FULLY alone before messaging me at the end of exams, asking me how they went. and i do feel infatuated with him and i do want him.

    also, this is entirely my fault but i did meet him on a pornsite. at the time i used to post videos of myself, despite being underage, as it was a very unhealthy coping mechanism of mine (i was very depressed and lonely at the time). i don't do that anymore, although it doesn't matter if i did seeing as i am 18, but yeah, that's how i met him. and he knew from day 1 that i wasn't actually 18 as i did let him know.
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    i just want to know, is there anyone else on here who has lost their virginity to someone so much older than them, and how was it? also, was i effectively somewhat groomed into all of this?
    You're not the first. You won't be the last. It's not that common, but it does happen.

    It does sound like you have been emotionally coerced into this, to some extent.

    You'll need to decide if this is something you really want to do, how this fits with your religion and culture.
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    You need to seriously evaluate what it is that you're doing. By the way you have summarised the situation, I truly believe that you know that this relationship you have with this man isn't appropriate and is certainly unhealthy, you know that he is controlling and, from what you say, it sounds like the only thing he's interested in you for is sex. Is this really who you want to lose your virginity to? A 50 year-old man that views you as an object to have sex with because you're younger?

    Furthermore, knowing you were underage and getting you to do things and send things to him is unacceptable behaviour and you know it, OP. If his moral compass is this misguided, what's to say he isn't a dangerous person?

    Please look after yourself.
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    (Original post by uberteknik)
    If this is real (I really do hope it is not) then everything you have said is ringing deafening alarm bells. This person is exploiting your vulnerability and naivety to achieve his own sexual gratification.

    He is a paedophile, knowingly engaged in keeping and sending illegal images to/from you and grooming/controlling you in order to engineer a liason for full sex. He has conned you into trusting him.

    The shi t is a disgusting pervert. He's even convinced you it's your fault - overwhelming evidence of abuse.

    If he did this to you, what else could he have done and still be doing to others, perhaps far younger than you? Who else is he sharing your images with? Where will this lead - coercing you into sex with his paedo pals?

    Please do yourself (and potentially other children) a huge favour and seek professional help by contacting the Childline on 0800 1111. They will talk with you in complete confidence and start getting you the help and support you so clearly are trying to convince yourself you do not need.

    Sincerest best wishes. Stay safe.
    But can we please remember her role in this? She intentionally posed nude and videod herself on a porn website, so she isn't completely innocent in this whole situation. Not to mention she isn't being forced to do anything she doesnt want to, she even admitted to "wanting" this man in her post...being "infatuated with him"
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    hopefully this is a troll thread...
    Agreed. I think the half plus seven rule has some merit, so for a 50 year old, no one younger than 32.
 
 
 
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