Feeling GRRR

i feel really :s-smilie:

atm :P.

i'm trying to choose my firm (and only as already got grades) uni place...n was talking to a friend about it today. n saying how me n my b/f- wherever i go- will be miles away from eachother cause his is far up north and mine are all down south. n she says ahhh, no one at my college (shes at durham) has stayed in their r-ship. and she ended it with her b/f. n i just feel so like ugh.
unis meant to be a new start n stuff. but i like my friends n stuff now. i know my friends dont have to change, just hopefully get more but ugh. the idea of not being with my b/f is making me really upset. we've already spent nearly half a year apart due to him travelling- and we survived that. but the idea of him with loads of girls makes me feel so insecure n ughghghgh .

i dont know :frown:

. anyone got any stories of people that did last uni!???

AND i feel like such a bitch.

but my best friend is driving me insane.
she's been at uni this year, first year. we havent drifted apart or anything. everything seems great and normal. but atm she's doing my head in. i'm going through some pretty bad things family wise- and she instead of being wonderful n supportive like i thought has just been horrible really.
like we all went out (our best mates from college) and she got rly drunk as she'd already been for a meal with her sister, and was just really selfish and weird all night- hanging out with her sister instead of us. i said one thing about it and she went crazy at me (in her drunken state) and in mine, i cried :frown:

! but i just feel like she only thinks about herself n ugh. i dont know. i dont know what answers im expecting from this.

just a rant really. sorry :frown:

Reply 1

museobsessed

aww your friend sounds like an idiot
I would say that if you and your boyfriend have managed 6 months without each other then I doubt you'll break up at uni. the relationships that break up at uni are the ones that arn't short term or can't take the distance. you've already proved you can overcome that :biggrin:

Reply 2

River85

It's true that most relationships don't last the distance and break up, often due to the distance/new friends.

However, of course this doesn't always need to be the case. If you feel secure enough in your relationship, give it a go.

I only know of one couple from school who are still together five years after leaving school. However, they weren't is different unis. She was at a local uni while he worked, now she has graduated and they have gone down to London. He's at uni, she's working.

But, as I said, if you have faith it is always worth trying. If it's meant to be, it will last.

It seems that uni has changed your friend, and not for the better. I'm sorry, I can't really give any advice on this. Perhaps it would be worth trying to talk to her about her selfishness. Otherwise it may be time to reconsider your frienship. You need supportive friends around you at this time though. Please don't be rash though.
Take care

Reply 3

mollymustard

My friends boyfriend is at Nottingham Trent whilst she is in London at college.
They've stayed together and meet up as much as they can during term time.

Hes in his second year as well, but they have managed to make it work so I'm sure its possible.

Don't give up on your first choice Uni just because of your friends and boyfriend. I'm sure you won't grow too far apart and you'll make lots of new mates while you are away.
Okay, home is going to be a big journey away but it doesnt mean you can't go home regularly if you want to.

Reply 4

River85

I probably shouldn't have used the "most people I know broke up". It is the truth that statistically you are but there are exceptions.

There were only a handful of couples I know of who went long distance at uni and they were all quite unstable relationships anyway. So my experiences probably don't mean anything really. If you currently have a stable and trusting relationship with your boyfriend, then that makes a great difference. If you truly believe in it then it can certainly work, especially as you've already spent time apart before and have survived it. Only you know whether you can trust him when he's with loads of new girls, but I think you know the answer to that already otherwise you wouldn't be with him.

It's a time of personal growth but it can also bring you both together more.

During my A-levels I was at a philosophy lecture with the great Dr Peter Vardy and he told us that any relationship we had now was likely to be doomed at uni. How on earth it was relevant to a dicussion on ontology I don't know. Anyway, that really upset my friend and made her quite nervous about her own relationship.

They have only grown together since and are now engaged. They are looking so solid. It can happen.