Hi, so in the past 4/5ish months, a friend of mine got a boyfriend.
For context, I have just finished sixth form and I have a friendship group of about 15 people and we've all been friends for the majority of sixth form if not longer. The friend I'm going to call Jane in this situation and her boyfriend who isn't in our friendship group I'll call James.
So Jane and James got together, for the people in our group who had interacted with James before this, they didn't like him and for those who hadn't, had no opinion (myself included in this). So from the get go their relationship wasn't popular.
Their debut was at a friend of mines party (who I'll call Chloe). Chloe is Jane's best friend, they're almost joined at the hip sort of friends. At the party, Jane and James spent the entire evening all over each other and essentially everyone became very uncomfortable (it was a quiet party where you couldn't really get away with that) and no one who would usually interact with the two actually got to speak with them.
Over the course of the months they've been together, I've barely seen Jane. As she's a part of the group we all invited her to things but she only came to one which I've recently found out is only because she was fighting with her boyfriend that day. I spoke to Chloe, and she's told me she has barely seen her too, and when she has it's been around James too. Chloe's birthday party came around and normally Jane and Chloe would go round to each other's house before something like that to get ready together, but this time, Jane wanted to bring James. After Chloe refused, Jane didn't go before the party at all.
I also had my party around that time, I decided not to invite James as he had been rude to me during the time they've been together (I told Jane something about James that I found out from someone else and he quite aggressively blamed me even though it turned out to be true) and I really only invited friends to the party and he was more of an acquaintance. Jane messaged me to ask why I hadn't invited him and I told her these reasons, then she decided not to come.
I decided to talk to her about it and said that the group missed her and it seems like she's isolating herself and becoming more dependent on him. Then she told me that if I want her to go to anything they'd need to invite James as well which pretty much proved my point. She ended the conversation saying I was being rude to both her and her boyfriend which was never my intention.
More recently, some friends decided to make it clear that they didn't like James. Jane then decided to leave all group chats on messenger and James had a go at me (I wasn't actually involved) and a friend of mine saying that he feels like we've "pushed Jane away" and "doesn't feel like she's a friend anymore". I told James that when I spoke to her this was exactly what I told her would happen.
I'm seething that she's trying to play victim in this situation but I still feel bad enough that I feel like I should attempt to talk to her. The problem is that I know she doesn't like me (she's ****ged me off to people before) so I don't think the conversation would go down well.
Any thoughts on what to do?
Tl;Dr - A friend got a boyfriend who no one likes so she began isolating herself. When she found out that no one likes the boyfriend she left all group chats and played the victim that we've all "pushed her away" despite me telling her that this would eventually happen.