Mum wants me to move out, wish me luck guys

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Original post by It's****ingWOODY

So is it because they don't like you or just because of the driving thing? Kicking someone out because you're sick of driving them places just seems weird. Surely the more sensible approach is just to tell them they'll have to start making their own way there? My mum doesn't drive and I'm always driving her about places even though I have my own life, but she's my mum so I do it. I know she'd do the same for me if she drove and I didn't and I had regular appointments to attend.

She basically said she’s tired of dealing with my mental health issues and taking me to appointments. I started having issues 3 years ago and I haven’t improved and so she said I’m making her life miserable. I said I didn’t choose to have mental health issues but she doesn’t care. She wouldn’t let me get a sentence in on the car journey home, so I couldn’t even say anything in defence. Ultimately she doesn’t like who I am at the end of the day.

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Original post by doodle_333

Ask if you can stay just until uni starts. Contact student finance and ask about applying without patents eg emancipated. Tigger999 might know more. Your student loan should cover accommodation but it depends a little on your parents income. You'd also have to budget carefully and may be find a job if you need to support yourself over summer too. If your parents know you'll be gone maybe they'll give you time.

Okay I understand thanks for the advice. I just have no clue where I’m gong to live until university. I maybe have enough money to live somewhere for 2 weeks but I have to wait until the middle of September to move into my accommodation.

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I don't have any real advice for you so I apologise, but I just wanted to tell you that I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't know how any parent can turn their back on a child, and I am very sorry that this has happened.

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zerex

Damn, that sucks.. I think the best decision is to ask her to let you stay until you go to uni so you can maybe find some sort of accommodation there?
Personally, I'm in the opposite situation, my parents want me to stay until I'm like 25-30 :/

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Original post by Joshjones4800

Yeah so apparently I’ve been ruining my mum and dads life for the last 3 years with my depression and anxiety. My mum said she’s had enough of taking me to appointments and psychiatrists and professionals etc. Anyone got any ideas about what I could do- I have nowhere to live?
Please could someone give me some quick advice as my mum wants me to leave as soon as possible and I have nowhere to live. I have no friends I could live with. I’m 18 by the way just finished my A-level exams and was planning to go to university but obviously that can’t happen now.

You should start by going to council to see if they can give you a house ,you can at least be put on the list .after you have somewhere to live you could maybe start university the year after

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Original post by zerex

Damn, that sucks.. I think the best decision is to ask her to let you stay until you go to uni so you can maybe find some sort of accommodation there?
Personally, I'm in the opposite situation, my parents want me to stay until I'm like 25-30 :/

I’m already on the street it’s too late. I just got kicked out. No clue where I’m going but I’m just walking around aimlessly at the moment. Trying to look up homeless shelters.

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Original post by Volibear

It's probably not want you want to hear but I suggest asking your friends. Given your situation you have nothing to lose and only something to gain. You could even (and probably should) offer to pay for your keep while you're there. It may be embarrassing but it's your least complicated option right now.

I’m probably going to see how I find it living on the street tonight and if I can’t cope, then I will. I have some money but gonna have to ration it wisely.

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Original post by random_matt

You can go to uni, SFE will give you money just like every other student.

Please can you tell me who to contact about sorting out my accommodation at uni, and who should I tell at the uni about my situation?(or should I at all)

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Original post by Joshjones4800

Please can you tell me who to contact about sorting out my accommodation at uni, and who should I tell at the uni about my situation?(or should I at all)

Justy contact the uni you want to go to.

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Original post by Joshjones4800

I’m probably going to see how I find it living on the street tonight and if I can’t cope, then I will. I have some money but gonna have to ration it wisely.

I do not know whether this is a troll or something.....but man stay strong. I find airports pretty comfy to sleep...nobody bothers u...and such public places. You could easily stay up there for 3 days or so...until you build up a plan. Try it out today.... please contact your friends ...maybe they can help you

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Original post by Joshjones4800

Okay thanks. Do you think I should look for a homeless shelter until university starts? I have nowhere to live and I highly doubt any friends will let me stay in their house. Am packing a bag as I write this btw

Have you asked any of them? Asked family?

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BioOx

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Original post by Volibear

You would have live on the street than ask somebody to let you sleep on their sofa for even a night?

I suggest telling uni because you'll most likely be entitled to hardship funds once you're enrolled.

I do not know how safe it is to approach a total stranger. Airports seem safer *bus stations*. Once I spent 50 hours waiting for a layover....nothing happened to me

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Original post by Joshjones4800

Yeah so apparently I’ve been ruining my mum and dads life for the last 3 years with my depression and anxiety. My mum said she’s had enough of taking me to appointments and psychiatrists and professionals etc. Anyone got any ideas about what I could do- I have nowhere to live?
Please could someone give me some quick advice as my mum wants me to leave as soon as possible and I have nowhere to live. I have no friends I could live with. I’m 18 by the way just finished my A-level exams and was planning to go to university but obviously that can’t happen now.

sorry to hear that mate. You can still go uni as you can get student loans, tuition fees and bursaries but also let student financial support officers at the uni know your current living arrangements and speak to a uni finance support to help with situation. As someone who had literally no income during final year at uni and was forced to miss a lot, the only advice I can say is hang in there, explore all options and just take care of yourself

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Original post by BioOx

I do not know whether this is a troll or something.....but man stay strong. I find airports pretty comfy to sleep...nobody bothers u...and such public places. You could easily stay up there for 3 days or so...until you build up a plan. Try it out today.... please contact your friends ...maybe they can help you

It’s not a troll, am seriously just looking for advice. And okay thanks will try get to my nearest airport. But surely they won’t let you stay overnight?. Just gonna watch a ton of Netflix or listen to loud music to make me forget how ****ed I am.

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Original post by Joshjones4800

Yeah so apparently I’ve been ruining my mum and dads life for the last 3 years with my depression and anxiety. My mum said she’s had enough of taking me to appointments and psychiatrists and professionals etc. Anyone got any ideas about what I could do- I have nowhere to live?
Please could someone give me some quick advice as my mum wants me to leave as soon as possible and I have nowhere to live. I have no friends I could live with. I’m 18 by the way just finished my A-level exams and was planning to go to university but obviously that can’t happen now.

@Tigger999 your help is needed old friend

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