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Me and my boyfriend never use any protection.

anon or delete please, personal matter.

As the title says really, i've been with my boyfriend for 3 months now. Neither of us have had any STIs, and we were very drunk the first time we slept together, he didn't use a condom and i'm not on the pill but he pulled out before he came.

I was a bit anxious about it but my next period arrived when expected, so we've just carried on the same, partly cause we both don't like using condoms, and i don't want to go on the pill (family history of bad side-effects).

We have sex several times a day, every day, with no protection... and i've never had any pregnancy scares. I know there is a risk of pregnancy from pre-come, but (evidently) this has not happened to us. I suppose my boyfriend has become to the method now, hence why he has never slipped up.

Really i'm just wondering if anyone else has used the withdrawl method regularly and what they think of it? I had a quick look on wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coitus_interruptus) and the actual failure rate is in fact better than some other contraception methods, but on this forum it always seems very frowned upon?

Reply 1

Arteta

15

Well If you're not on the pill and you do it that much then there's still a chance you'll get pregnant. Whether pulls out or not, he can't stop pre-cum!

Reply 2

Dramatic Star

2

It only takes once. Do you want a baby? This is a very immature view that 'it hasn't happened to us yet' so you keep on doing it.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

it's frowned upon here because it's difficult to do effectively. even with their estimates (which are probably biased - wikipedia is made my normal people!) it isn't as reliable as say the pill or condoms even under perfect use.
it's really better just to use another form of contraception.

My ex and I used to have unprotected sex all the time and he pulled out every time. it was all going fine until I got pregnant. not a situation you want to find yourself in when it's through your own idiocy.

I'd really advise you to go on the pill or get an implant or a coil.

Reply 4

Crystaltears

12

I've used the withdrawl method and personally wouldn't risk it.
Why don't you like condoms? If it's the "reduced pleasure" use pleasure max lol!
Maybe you could consult your doctor about the pill because different ones have different side-effects, so one may suit you.
What about one of them things you have put in your arm?

Reply 5

pikaboo

13

Oh for crying out loud. Just go on the Pill.

Reply 6

rawls87

You really shouldnt be too complacent about this, remember it only take one tiny sperm and your stuck with a big problem and dilemma (presuming you don't want to become pregnant). Some comdoms are so thin that you hardly notice them. Have you given them a try?

At the end of the day it is completely upto you, but you are both taking a very big risk in my opinion

Reply 7

Nally

10

with an attitude like this OP are you sure you're mature enough to be having sex in the first place?

Reply 8

swiss_fairy

Good luck. You might not have had any scares yet but using such an unreliable method is highly risky!

Even if you're both "clean" (i'd suggest getting tested just in case) the risk of pregnancy is not worth it.

Ok, so you dont like using condoms thats fair enough but there are LOADS of other options. You say theres a family history of bad side effects with the pill, but there are several different types and i'm sure its worth playing around with different ones to find one that works for you. If not there are other methods available, for example injections, the implant thing (sits under your skin) or i believe theres a patch available as well. I'd really recommend that you head down to your nearset family planning clinic (ask your doctor or look in the phone directory) and talk to someone. Its confidential, free and they'll be able to talk you through all your options.

Please be careful, you only got one body - look after it!

(wow i sound cheesey!!!! :biggrin:

)

Reply 9

fleur_de_haine

16

I'm rather looking forward to the 'help me, I think I might be pregnant' follow up.

Raz

Reply 10

Chumbaniya

17

Several times a day with no protection? I'm not sure I like your odds there. Withdrawing before ejaculation is a dodgy method of 'contraception' (very deserving of the inverted commas there) at best.

People can bitch about not liking protection all they want, but it's just a fact of responsible sex and I think you're being immature if you try to convince yourself otherwise.

Reply 11

silverbolt

19

your an idiot. sos your boyfriend, please dont inflict your stupidity on a child

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Nally

with an attitude like this OP are you sure you're mature enough to be having sex in the first place?

apologies for being rude, but if you can't offer an answer to the question posed please sod off.

i didn't ask to be patronised.

thanks to everyone else for your input.

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

apologies for being rude, but if you can't offer an answer to the question posed please sod off.

i didn't ask to be patronised.

thanks to everyone else for your input.

if you don't want to be patronised then take an adult approach to sex and be responsible.

Reply 14

Tufts

17

I'm the same OP. No pill. No blobs. No implant. My bloke is the king of pulling out. Although it is safe for him to come inside when you're on your period.

Reply 15

kaal1010

14

well either way youre buggered. eventually one day hes either goint to:

A) not pull out quick enough and you'll end up, up the duff

or

B) hes gonna pull out and it's gonna end up in your eye resulting in partial or full blindness due to infection via semen

Reply 16

Nally

10

Anonymous

apologies for being rude, but if you can't offer an answer to the question posed please sod off.

i didn't ask to be patronised.

thanks to everyone else for your input.

I beg to differ, you're asking to be patronised by taking such a risk with your sexual health. As someone else has said, I look forward to the 'OMG I'm pregnant' thread...

Reply 17

Tufts

17

Crystaltears

Why don't you like condoms?

Well condoms are expensive, but moreover they interupt the session and its neigh impossible to put them on in a sexy way (I'm pathetic with my mouth)

Regarding STDs, if you're both in a committed relationship (for instance I've been with my bf for 3 years and we live together), then trust is key.

Reply 18

Tufts

17

kaal1010

well either way youre buggered. eventually one day hes either goint to:

A) not pull out quick enough and you'll end up, up the duff

or

B) hes gonna pull out and it's gonna end up in your eye resulting in partial or full blindness due to infection via semen

lol @ B

Reply 19

swiss_fairy

Tufts

I'm the same OP. No pill. No blobs. No implant. My bloke is the king of pulling out. Although it is safe for him to come inside when you're on your period.

Its still not a particularly reliable method. Seriously, get down to the family planning clinic and talk it through with a professional.

And before someone accuses me of not knowing what i'm talking about - i'm sat here next to my mum, who is a fully trained nurse with several qualifications specifically in family planning and she used to work in a family planning and GU clinic.

Me and my boyfriend never use any protection.

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