shy people lose so much?

Let's face it, shy people is so disadvantaged when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex. It seems so unfair. Even if they are good looking, what good would it be if they just run away from the opposite sex? What do people think?

Reply 1

MSB

17

Running away from people generally puts them off you.

Reply 2

randdom

20

Its difficult when you are shy but many people find that as they get slightly older and gain more life experiance they are able to feel more confortable talking to members of the opposite sex. Being shy doesn't mean that there is no chance that you will find someone.

Reply 3

Ewan

15

I agree with you, it can be pretty tricky. I'm terribly shy :frown:

It's so hard to get over aswell, but I think it gets easier as you get older

Reply 4

The Toffy

2

Ewan

I agree with you, it can be pretty tricky. I'm terribly shy :frown:

It's so hard to get over aswell, but I think it gets easier as you get older

I agree

Reply 5

jenren22

1

I used to be so shy, but i have got so much better as i've got older. I think sometimes you just have to throw yourself in there. The only way to beat it is to face your fear of talking to others. Like with phone calls, i couldnt do it, ever. But now i do it all the time, simply because i made myself and now i can talk to anyone on the phone. In person, it's not as easy, but you just need to have confidence in yourself.

I do understand though, i'll always be naturally a bit shy, but i think you can get it to a manageable level yourself.

Reply 6

BellaNotte

3

I hope it gets easier when you get older, not just for relationships but general life really, i've lost alot already from being shy, not voicing my opinion etc.. sucks. But thats my problem i guess, though its hard to be more confident and speak up.

Reply 7

CHAMON

11

MSB

Running away from people generally puts them off you.

They should run after them.

Reply 8

tgt

OP

6

randdom

Its difficult when you are shy but many people find that as they get slightly older and gain more life experiance they are able to feel more confortable talking to members of the opposite sex. Being shy doesn't mean that there is no chance that you will find someone.

You might find someone, but it is so much more difficult, not to mention the fact that so many opportunities are gone missing.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

This is anon as my friends use TSR and it'd make my life harder if they knew how I felt about this.

I'm a fairly shy guy in that respect as well.. I have no trouble talking with girls, I have plenty of female friends, but I have difficulties approaching women I don't know in clubs etc.

This obviously makes it difficult to start up relationships, and, as I'm going to Ibiza in summer with friends I'm even more concerned than normal about approaching women in clubs as there will be the added pressure of being on holiday with loads of confident lads.

I guess I am just too self-conscious and don't have the confidence to go up to a random woman and strike up a conversation.. Maybe if I get totally smashed then I'll be able to.. But advice would be appreciated.

Reply 10

tgt

OP

6

Anonymous

Maybe if I get totally smashed then I'll be able to.. But advice would be appreciated.

Is that why they drink alcohol at parties as opposed to say soft drink?

shy people lose so much?

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