Would you date someone with OCD?

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I’m a guy and I’m not really very old yet but it’s just one of those things I found about when I was quite young.

I’ve never really had a long term relationship because it always got in the way. I don’t really want to tell the people I date about it because I know they will dump me but then they notice something is wrong with me and dump me anyway.

I was wondering (and please answer honestly): would you date someone with OCD? What questions would you have if you were dating someone and they told you they have it? And would it bother you - if you were still willing to date them?
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Well tidy is good but OCD daaaaam ide find it quite annoying and I would feel insecure ...
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What type of OCD do you have ?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I’m a guy and I’m not really very old yet but it’s just one of those things I found about when I was quite young.

I’ve never really had a long term relationship because it always got in the way. I don’t really want to tell the people I date about it because I know they will dump me but then they notice something is wrong with me and dump me anyway.

I was wondering (and please answer honestly): would you date someone with OCD? What questions would you have if you were dating someone and they told you they have it? And would it bother you - if you were still willing to date them?
I would date someone with OCD, yes. I would ask them about how it affects their daily life and how I can help make life easier for them. Imo it's not a good enough reason to not date someone solely for having OCD.
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I would date someone with OCD, yes. I would ask them about how it affects their daily life and how I can help make life easier for them. Imo it's not a good enough reason to not date someone solely for having OCD.
Yea, I agree.
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Well tidy is good but OCD daaaaam ide find it quite annoying and I would feel insecure ...
Having OCD is not being ''tidy'' ffs. OCD is extremely diverse. Not everyone with OCD has an obsession with order - which is what you're hinting at (I think?).

[email protected] insecure. The person is not arranging things in order because they "like" it that way. Nearly all OCD sufferers hate spending so much time on such meaningless tasks. It's one of the hallmarks of OCD - wasting time, not doing things you enjoy but rather doing them so that you stop feeling that intense fear or anxiety.
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Having OCD is not being ''tidy'' ffs. OCD is extremely diverse. Not everyone with OCD has an obsession with order - which is what you're hinting at (I think?).

[email protected] insecure. The person is not arranging things in order because they "like" it that way. Nearly all OCD sufferers hate spending so much time on such meaningless tasks. It's one of the hallmarks of OCD - wasting time, not doing things you enjoy but rather doing them so that you stop feeling that intense fear or anxiety.
So, what's OCD? Is it like the think detective Monk has?
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So, what's OCD? Is it like the think detective Monk has?
http://beyondocd.org/information-for...inition-of-ocd
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I read this as OCR at first.

Also maybe telling them before they think that you're weird could help. Explain to you can't help the actions that it causes.
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(Original post by FakeNewsEditor)
Having OCD is not being ''tidy'' ffs. OCD is extremely diverse. Not everyone with OCD has an obsession with order - which is what you're hinting at (I think?).

[email protected] insecure. The person is not arranging things in order because they "like" it that way. Nearly all OCD sufferers hate spending so much time on such meaningless tasks. It's one of the hallmarks of OCD - wasting time, not doing things you enjoy but rather doing them so that you stop feeling that intense fear or anxiety.
Sozard 😂
But to answer ya question
No I wouldn’t date someone with OCD
So does that help 😂😂😂
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No. I have OCD myself and there's a concern from me that we'd end up triggering each other / making each other's OCD worse.
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depends how bad the OCD is. i've struggled with it off and on my entire life (gets worse the more stress i'm under) but it's not so bad that it would affect another person's life. tbh i couldn't be with someone with OCD if it affected my life or our relationship. i have enough mental health problems of my own so it would be unhealthy for both of us.
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It wouldn't stop me from dating them, no. I'd just like to be aware what triggers them and what I can do to help. I can't imagine the relationship working if they didn't communicate their feelings and tell me what helps and what doesn't.
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Nope, have it myself, it strains relationships.
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No. I have OCD myself and there's a concern from me that we'd end up triggering each other / making each other's OCD worse.
Completely understand that, family curse.
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I have done so. It was very stressful. It would depend on the person , but I've learnt OCD doesn't mix well with my problems.
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So long as my partner and I could make it work I'd have no trouble with it although I assume it would get a bit stressful at times
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Yes, I would as long as they were willing to get help for it. I have been in and out of therapy all my life for OCD and I know the devastating effect it can have on the sufferer and those around them. A lot of people mock the illness or don't actually know what it truly is and the condition can affect every part of your life, especially relationships.
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