I get it I have overbearing grand parents I'm not even 16 yet, 4 days, and they are already telling me to get a job and saying I'm lazy for relaxing after doing my GCSEs. I get the guilt rip thing, on my birthday last year my dad forced me to go see them when I want speaking to them after they said if I continued to only live with my mum I would fail in life. Then my dad screamed at me for not being civil enough when I was forced to go round. I used to see them every Saturday and it was the same jokes same thing and they would treat me like I was 5 so I just stopped seeing them and cut anyone out that made me feel bad about it. I know not everyone could or would want to do it but know that you aren't alone and that there is nothing wrong with you. Don't try and change yourself to fit in with them and don't feel guilty because I know my grandparents prioritize my father over me and I can't change that and nor do I feel bad because I am me and if they font like that then whatever.