Hi everyone.
A little bit of a strange one, but I really need advice right now so please be kind.
I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I love him so much, he knows me inside out and he treats me like a princess. I cannot fault our relationship- we hardly ever argue and things are plain sailing. We are currently saving for a home of our own and life is looking up as I start my teaching job in September and he has just set up his own business as an electritian.
When I was 13, I had a mad crush on my next door neighbour. This lasted right up until I met my boyfriend. Our families are close, but the conversations between me and him have never gone as far as everyday chit chat, so I don't really know him too well. Over the last 3.5 years, my ex crush has never really entered my mind. However, six months ago, he got his first girlfriend (he's 24). I can't stop thinking about him when I'm alone, and I hate seeing her car pull up on his driveway when she sleeps over- I feel sick to my stomach. I am also having dreams about him too, so he must be on my mind.
I never think of him whilst I'm with my boyfriend, only when I'm at home alone. And as I've said, it's only based on physical appearance as I never really got to know him.
I know this all sounds very irrational, but my thoughts are driving me crazy. It makes me feel like a rubbish girlfriend and I feel ashamed that I'm letting someone else come into my mind. It's making me question my relationship, even though I know it's the best I will ever have and that the grass is never greener.
Any advice here would be very appreciated, thank you in advance.
From a very confused, emotionally exhausted TSR member 🙃X