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I Can't Get Over My Ex
Me and my ex broke up at the end of January, but we were on and off for a few months. He met this girl in the mean time, and they were just friends, nothing more, JUST friends. But I was convinced that they werent, I was convinced that she was coming onto him. Fair enough, he'd never do anything with her when he was with me, but I just didnt trust her at all.
To cut a long story short, about 2 weeks ago me and him split up completely. End of. No more etc etc. And I kissed this randomer, but he kissed this girl! I knew that she wanted him, and I was so angry that he didnt listen to me. SHE was a cause of a heck of a lot of arguments (some directly and some indirectly)
Now he wants to see how it goes with her.
Basically, I can't handle this. I want him back, I REALLY want him back. I've just spent about 3 hours crying, one hour sleeping, then waking up crying. I don't know what to do with myself. I feel terrible.
How can I get over him? I'm not sure if I want to, but I dont think he wants to be with me, although he tells me that he loves me still.
Help!
EDIT: We had some other problems too though, don't get me wrong. He barely had time to see me, and when he didnt see me I got really upset and we argued about it. I over-reacted over little things, but he never seemed to have the commitment to be with me
To cut a long story short, about 2 weeks ago me and him split up completely. End of. No more etc etc. And I kissed this randomer, but he kissed this girl! I knew that she wanted him, and I was so angry that he didnt listen to me. SHE was a cause of a heck of a lot of arguments (some directly and some indirectly)
Now he wants to see how it goes with her.
Basically, I can't handle this. I want him back, I REALLY want him back. I've just spent about 3 hours crying, one hour sleeping, then waking up crying. I don't know what to do with myself. I feel terrible.
How can I get over him? I'm not sure if I want to, but I dont think he wants to be with me, although he tells me that he loves me still.
Help!
EDIT: We had some other problems too though, don't get me wrong. He barely had time to see me, and when he didnt see me I got really upset and we argued about it. I over-reacted over little things, but he never seemed to have the commitment to be with me
Reply 1
17
At least one of these answers suits 99% of all H&R threads:
1) Speak to a GP.
2) If you're not sure, then it's not love.
3) Don't let him pressurise you into anything. Do it when you're ready.
4) "Just a kiss" isn't an excuse: you cheated.
5) I can't believe s/he said that! That's unreasonable.
6) Don't cut/kill yourself.
7) You're not allowed to talk about sex here, but since you're asking, around 8 inches.
8) You're a troll.
1) Speak to a GP.
2) If you're not sure, then it's not love.
3) Don't let him pressurise you into anything. Do it when you're ready.
4) "Just a kiss" isn't an excuse: you cheated.
5) I can't believe s/he said that! That's unreasonable.
6) Don't cut/kill yourself.
7) You're not allowed to talk about sex here, but since you're asking, around 8 inches.
8) You're a troll.
Reply 2
Tufts
At least one of these answers suits 99% of all H&R threads:
1) Speak to a GP.
2) If you're not sure, then it's not love.
3) Don't let him pressurise you into anything. Do it when you're ready.
4) "Just a kiss" isn't an excuse: you cheated.
5) I can't believe s/he said that! That's unreasonable.
6) Don't cut/kill yourself.
7) You're not allowed to talk about sex here, but since you're asking, around 8 inches.
8) You're a troll.
1) Speak to a GP.
2) If you're not sure, then it's not love.
3) Don't let him pressurise you into anything. Do it when you're ready.
4) "Just a kiss" isn't an excuse: you cheated.
5) I can't believe s/he said that! That's unreasonable.
6) Don't cut/kill yourself.
7) You're not allowed to talk about sex here, but since you're asking, around 8 inches.
8) You're a troll.
Think this thread might be in the other 1%...
Reply 3
17
tourist
Think this thread might be in the other 1%...
I'm not sure, 6 could cut it.
Reply 4
linkdapink
Me and my ex broke up at the end of January, but we were on and off for a few months. He met this girl in the mean time, and they were just friends, nothing more, JUST friends. But I was convinced that they werent, I was convinced that she was coming onto him. Fair enough, he'd never do anything with her when he was with me, but I just didnt trust her at all.
To cut a long story short, about 2 weeks ago me and him split up completely. End of. No more etc etc. And I kissed this randomer, but he kissed this girl! I knew that she wanted him, and I was so angry that he didnt listen to me. SHE was a cause of a heck of a lot of arguments (some directly and some indirectly)
Now he wants to see how it goes with her.
Basically, I can't handle this. I want him back, I REALLY want him back. I've just spent about 3 hours crying, one hour sleeping, then waking up crying. I don't know what to do with myself. I feel terrible.
How can I get over him? I'm not sure if I want to, but I dont think he wants to be with me, although he tells me that he loves me still.
Help!
EDIT: We had some other problems too though, don't get me wrong. He barely had time to see me, and when he didnt see me I got really upset and we argued about it. I over-reacted over little things, but he never seemed to have the commitment to be with me
To cut a long story short, about 2 weeks ago me and him split up completely. End of. No more etc etc. And I kissed this randomer, but he kissed this girl! I knew that she wanted him, and I was so angry that he didnt listen to me. SHE was a cause of a heck of a lot of arguments (some directly and some indirectly)
Now he wants to see how it goes with her.
Basically, I can't handle this. I want him back, I REALLY want him back. I've just spent about 3 hours crying, one hour sleeping, then waking up crying. I don't know what to do with myself. I feel terrible.
How can I get over him? I'm not sure if I want to, but I dont think he wants to be with me, although he tells me that he loves me still.
Help!
EDIT: We had some other problems too though, don't get me wrong. He barely had time to see me, and when he didnt see me I got really upset and we argued about it. I over-reacted over little things, but he never seemed to have the commitment to be with me
Delete his number from your phone, swipe him from msn, do not look at his page on facebook. Go out with your friends, and relish that your single and can do whatever you want. But don't regret it, better to have had it than not at all, even if it didn't work out.Reply 5
15
meekan Delete his number from your phone, swipe him from msn, do not look at his page on facebook. Go out with your friends, and relish that your single and can do whatever you want. But don't regret it, better to have had it than not at all, even if it didn't work out.
Delete his number from your phone, swipe him from msn, do not look at his page on facebook. Go out with your friends, and relish that your single and can do whatever you want. But don't regret it, better to have had it than not at all, even if it didn't work out.Thanks
It just hurts a lot. I don't know what to do with myself at the moment. When I was at uni, I had friends 5 seconds down the hall. Now I'm back at home, its so hard to get everyone together. Even just one is a struggle, because then its "not worth the money"
I did do some retail therapy though
Reply 6
linkdapink
Thanks
It just hurts a lot. I don't know what to do with myself at the moment. When I was at uni, I had friends 5 seconds down the hall. Now I'm back at home, its so hard to get everyone together. Even just one is a struggle, because then its "not worth the money"
I did do some retail therapy though
It just hurts a lot. I don't know what to do with myself at the moment. When I was at uni, I had friends 5 seconds down the hall. Now I'm back at home, its so hard to get everyone together. Even just one is a struggle, because then its "not worth the money"
I did do some retail therapy though
I know, it was the same with my ex. He took to randomly texting me every now and again, opening up old wounds. If it'll make you feel better though, tell him that it hurt how he kissed that girl who was meant to be just a friend. Although, perhaps I'm just chilish here, I never told my ex after we split how I felt because I didn't want him to think I was bothered
Reply 7
15
Nah, I've told him that I'm not happy. He's not happy about the other guy. I couldnt help myself with an "I told you so" though. I'm childish too.
Reply 8
linkdapink
I did do some retail therapy though
I did do some retail therapy though
Retail therapy is definitely the answer. Shoes, shoes, shoes!
Go out on the town and round up your girly friends! (Preferably the other way around..
) Basically what someone else said - delete all knowledge of him from your life = so much easier to get on without him. Make yourself angry at him and hate him, instead of feeling upset. Burning photos is also very therapeutic. 
Although only do safely and don't set fire to the house. 
Reply 9
15
Haha cheers! I cant round up the girls, but I bought cheap chocolate and cornflakes. So you know what I'm doing tonight! I'm going to make it al about me, really have a nice spa day. Dye my hair, do my nails, face packs the lot!
Girls are the best
Girls are the best
Reply 10
Tufts
I'm not sure, 6 could cut it.
Hmm come to think about it 6 does pretty much cover everything
Reply 11
15
Sorry for bringing this up AGAIN but I dont know, I cant stop thinking about him! I've done my hair, my nails, my toenails, I've tried out my new handbag and moved everything to my new purse as well as put my new jeans on, yet I still can't get him out of my head.
He's hurt me so badly, and he's probably on a night out with her as I type this, but I still want to be with him. I miss him so so much! My friends arent really helping, but they all have their own problems and I don't want to nag at people or keep texting them.
Hmph
He's hurt me so badly, and he's probably on a night out with her as I type this, but I still want to be with him. I miss him so so much! My friends arent really helping, but they all have their own problems and I don't want to nag at people or keep texting them.
Hmph
Reply 12
10
no contact.
Reply 13
15
bump
feeling worse and worse.
feeling worse and worse.
Reply 14
Im in a similar position. My boyfriend dumped me early february because he felt he wasnt "giving me the attention I deserve" and he said he wasnt up for a relationship anywhere in the near future. So we agreed to go back to being friends again.....2 weeks later he's dating someone else. Lovely! Its funny how I knew this guy for 2 years before we dated, we were amazingly good friends and in the past few months the guy I knew and loved has just completely changed into this naive, arrogant little scumbag (yes, cant you just tell im still angry about it all? )
As others have said, its hard to get over it but the best thing to do is delete every trace of him from your life, photos, phone numbers, myspace facebook etc etc because everytime you see anything to do with him these memories and emotions are just going to come flooding back making it harder for you to get over him. With my ex, its clear to me now that he doesnt give a damn about me or my feelings so why should I give someone like him the time of day? Im ready to move on and find someone different, go out to a club with some friends, meet people, flirt....knowing that there were people out there who were up for a bit of casual flirting with me made me feel a whole lot better about myself lol =D
)As others have said, its hard to get over it but the best thing to do is delete every trace of him from your life, photos, phone numbers, myspace facebook etc etc because everytime you see anything to do with him these memories and emotions are just going to come flooding back making it harder for you to get over him. With my ex, its clear to me now that he doesnt give a damn about me or my feelings so why should I give someone like him the time of day? Im ready to move on and find someone different, go out to a club with some friends, meet people, flirt....knowing that there were people out there who were up for a bit of casual flirting with me made me feel a whole lot better about myself lol =D
To cut a long story short, about 2 weeks ago me and him split up completely. End of. No more etc etc. And I kissed this randomer, but he kissed this girl! I knew that she wanted him, and I was so angry that he didnt listen to me. SHE was a cause of a heck of a lot of arguments (some directly and some indirectly)
Now he wants to see how it goes with her.
Now he wants to see how it goes with her.
EXACTLY the same thing happened to me, i suspected one of my ex's friends was trying to entice him and told him so, as we we're breaking up he INSISTED she was just a friend and that he didn't find her physically attractive at all. When we officially broke up he got drunk and kissed her, and now they're together!
I just don't understand guys! He actually laughed and made fun of her appearance to me only a few days before!
Maybe he was trying to throw me off the scent, or maybe he knew she liked him and decided to go for it to get some easy sex. I don't know.
Could a guy reading this give his opinion here?
OP I think you and me both need to move on and try and meet someone new, but I do realise it's easier said than done
try and smile
Reply 16
15
Ha! I just found out that he's not inviting me to his birthday party because I might get upset by him being with her. Well of course I will get upset. But I dont know. I can't stand him but I love him at the same time.
Reply 17
10
Why are you even bothering?
Notice all ur efforts are on him and not you. Who gives a cr*p, he obviously doesnt.
I got a few posts on what to do when you get dumped, have a read if you can find them.
www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships, there are two stickies at the top might help?
Notice all ur efforts are on him and not you. Who gives a cr*p, he obviously doesnt.
I got a few posts on what to do when you get dumped, have a read if you can find them.
www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships, there are two stickies at the top might help?
Reply 18
Step 1: Remove all contact details (you might not think that's important but drunk people do crazy things)
Step 2: Start again
Easy. (Sort of)
Step 2: Start again
Easy. (Sort of)
Reply 19
other girls always cause arguments in relationships
not that long ago my bf and i fell out cos a girl he works with liked him...
he told me.
also told me all his work mates were telling him to dump me etc
and this girl kept texting him and ringing him... but he was too nice jsut to tell her to piss off... effectively leading her on.
and he hid that from me so i didnt get upset
then i found out.....
oh boy will he never do it again
girls are just genrally paranoid
usually for good reason
but i did find out
oh topic- i agree with everyone else.... forget him =]
not that long ago my bf and i fell out cos a girl he works with liked him...
he told me.
also told me all his work mates were telling him to dump me etc
and this girl kept texting him and ringing him... but he was too nice jsut to tell her to piss off... effectively leading her on.
and he hid that from me so i didnt get upset
then i found out.....
oh boy will he never do it again
girls are just genrally paranoid
usually for good reason
but i did find out
oh topic- i agree with everyone else.... forget him =]
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