How to be confident?

Im wondering whats the best way to be confident? Everything I do I quit because of anxiety and its something that no one can help with Ive tried getting help loads of times. Basically I never feel healthy Ive lost conciousness several times in the past twice because of period pain and 4 times because of god knows what but once I was in the frozen food area of ASDA and just imagined myself having to spend 7 hours working there (I didn't have a job) got scared and woke up on the floor. The doctor says that anxiety doesn't cause fainting and the councellor said its low blood sugar. I don't agree with her I just think theres something wrong with me and don't feel confident anywhere I go. Ive had blood tests and an ecg and that came back normal. Im just strange and scared all the time, I want to know the exact reason I faint but no one knows I just like bring it on myself and I feel lightheaded and weak a lot of the time its been going on for 5 years. I think its something psychological because im fine after exersise and am physically fit and in good shape. Its like everytime I start a course I get really scared in the lecture and walk out then quit. Same with jobs I have a job but have not been to it for weeks. Its as though subconciously I don't want to do anything but I don't know why im all mixed up. :confused:

I don't want to be one of these who doesn't work all their lives so then why am I like this? I keep wondering if its something like the early signs of schizophrenia (social withdrawal, can't function, being nocturnal) but I really think the same as my mum that im stupid and just act mentally ill. Everyone thinks im odd and lazy because I sleep all day and am up all night, im sick of seeing councellors. Im only happy on days out with family but they are not going to be around forever.

Reply 1

frank01277779

If you've only fainted 6 times it doesn't exactly suggest it's about to happen every time you leave the house? Try and think that to yourself? No idea how to help with the actual anxiety.

I know what you mean with the quitting and not wanting to do anything things...And the nocturnal thing tbh. I've just normalised it all, figured it's me. Which in a way helps, but I know I do have to make myself do things, I want to do things, and it makes me feel better when I do, I just...generally don't :confused:

Reply 2

saturn

To be honest doctors are not sure why some people are prone to fainting, just be glad that its only fainting and at least you know your heart is fine. The root of all this sounds like the anxiety, anxiety is caused by lack of confidence, so yea build your confidence up you are just going to have to physically force yourself.