one party making most of the effort in relationship & one sided relationships?

hello

do any of you have a one sided relationship where you/your partner makes more effort than the other? do you ever find yourself doing all the calling/gifting/planning cute surprises? or guys do you ever find yourself guilty of being lazy while some girl does all the running?

do you think some people are naturally more openly affectionate than others? or is it that the lazy party simply doesnt care as much? and if someone did do all the things for you would you find it a turn off, and would you just use them/take advantage of them because of it?

Reply 1

dh00001

some people have different ideas of how a relationship should work etc. you often find it seems one is doing more.
its not always a problem unles the other party is deliberatly making no effort

Reply 2

shinytoy

how can you tell if the other party is uninterested or just lazy?
i mean a girl is not exactly going to complain if a guy is buying her flowers and taking her out for dinner and just talking to him because he called. but on the other hand some girls think theat the guys should do all the work as it is too forward for the girl to do anything.
i like to do more because im naturally very affectionate and i love to give my partner cute gifts and texts and do cute surprise things for them and i never forget any important dates ever.
but some guys do nothing does this mean they dont like me?

Reply 3

FizzBitch

Like dh00001 said, some people have different ideas of how a relationship should work. They might act a certain way because that is how they have acted in previous relationships, or because it's how they see their friends/parents acting in relationships etc. The best way to make a relationship more balanced is just by talking to eachother about eachothers expectations, wants and needs.
However if your partner knows your expectations and doesn't make an effort (say you tell them you'd like it if they would arrange dates/days out more often instead of you having to always think of the ideas and ask them, and after that they still don't take the lead ever), they are probably just not that interested.
To your question "Do you think some people are naturally more openly affectionate than others?" I'd say it depends on what a person views as being affectionate. Some people show their affection by sending sweet texts, some by taking you on romantic dates, some buy buying expensive gifts, some by always being there to talk and to cheer you up, etc.

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