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who else been dumped by long term partner? are you over it yet?

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i dont know how people get over their exes.
im finding it so hard. broke up in january after 2 years of bein together.
he was like my best friend aswell and now im completely shut out of his life.
i thought he was the one and so do did he. he'd talk about being together forever and me being perfect for him, two halves of a whole.
i dont want to forget the good memories of us but thinking about it just makes me upset and makes me realise how happy i was then compared to now. we had such a connection. we just clicked. i dont think im ever gonna find someone and feel the same way.
i hate it that im feeling this way and hes not. iv met a few guys that i quite fancy, but its nothing compared to what me and my ex had, even from the very start.
why did this have to happen :-(

who else is going through the same?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

If you don't mind my asking, how come you guys broke up?

Reply 2

linkdapink

15

Woop! Me

I woke up crying this morning. We've been over since the end of January, but then we had two months of "on/off" finally splitting a week ago.

I can't see myself getting over this. I can't imagine myself with anyone else, or even imagine myself WANTING to be with anyone else.

Reply 3

emilina

17

nope sorry. i was in like exactly the same situation. but i broke up with him and got over it veeeery quickly lol.

Reply 4

Youngs

Theres no doubt it takes time but the best thing is to have absolutely nothing to do with him from no on. Have a bit of time to yourself and spend a bit of time with your mates. There's no magic formula but I'm sure that would help.

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

I've been in a similar situation. The best thing to do is just try and concentrate on other things. Other guys, work, family..that kind of thing. I also tried a lot of new things and met new people which completely changed my life - for the better I think. It was hard at first, I couldn't stop crying literally for a whole week, but it got easier when I sat down and figured out exactly what I needed to do, and accepting the fact that we weren't going to get back together and me sitting around crying wasn't exactly going to help.
Hope this helps.

Reply 6

blondyx

OP

17

linkdapink

Woop! Me

I woke up crying this morning. We've been over since the end of January, but then we had two months of "on/off" finally splitting a week ago.

I can't see myself getting over this. I can't imagine myself with anyone else, or even imagine myself WANTING to be with anyone else.

private message me if u wanna chat about it all in more detail

Reply 7

blondyx

OP

17

according to him it was because i was too moody, jealous and we argued to much. strange how we were happy for a year and a half before he went to uni then dumped me after a few months of uni...

Reply 8

djmm

15

I split from my ex in Feb 06 then come about April realised it was the biggest mistake I'd ever made and tried to get her back but she didn't have me. Broke my heart time and time again, because I needed her back. I'm still not over her and don't know if/ when I ever will.

Reply 9

m90

11

Not over my ex and I don't think I ever will be. In love with him more than ever. Heartbroken.

Reply 10

The_Goose

18

I broke my ex's heart. It just wasn't right anymore but I thought the spark would come back but it didn't then I felt it for someone else and i knew it was time to sort it. Of course my ex sprung into action but it was too late for us. You will feel the spark again, perhaps where you least expect it

Reply 11

username136318

10

My first and only boyfriend broke up with me after a year and a half of being together, 2 years ago. It took me ages before managed to pick myself up out the slump I was in. About 6months later we started communicating again and now we are like best friends. Wouldnt be able to date him though. I would be too scared of more heartbreak.

Reply 12

cuban_summer

Nope not over my ex. We broke up before Xmas 07 after a 3 year relationship + living together etc. Stupid thing is that he's not over me either. Stupid circumstance.
It will get better. So i'm told.

Reply 13

evil groove

This thread is so sad. :hugs:

for everyone.

I think in a way it's good that you've been cut out of his life. It will almost certainly help you to get over him more quickly (from my experience, anyway).

Reply 14

Rouge

I've got to say that a relationship break-up has never ever upset me much. It's not like the person you were with was special in the grand scheme of things, and there are so many people out there and you can't be satisfied by getting the "best one" since there are always people better, it so easy to get in a relationship, its not like you only have one or a few chances, same with job interviews, in fact when i spend too long with one person, i feel like i'm losing out on so many other good people out there

on the other, stuff like getting rejected from oxbridge would really upset me since you only have one chance, and you know it is better than the other choices.

Reply 15

The_Goose

18

getting rejected from oxbridge would upset you more than losing a 3 year relationship with someone you love? Wow

Reply 16

Caliowin

Well it took me 9months last time I split with my boyfriend.

It takes time but it gets better, and now ive found someone even better, and I'm happy again, happier than ive ever been actually.

Reply 17

linkdapink

15

Its so hard for me to get over my ex. I'm just still fighting and fighting to get us back together because we've been so on and off, so I just feel as though this is just an "off" patch. But I don't think it is.

I should really just leave him. But I can't. I just cry and cry. Eventually, when he texts me or something, then I cheer up instantly. Even if its something to say that he's still packing beacuse he's moving house. I just love to hear from him and I love him so much

Reply 18

hendy16

The_Goose

getting rejected from oxbridge would upset you more than losing a 3 year relationship with someone you love? Wow

thats just wierd isnt it?? :s-smilie:

Reply 19

EatingOnlyApples

I broke up with my boyfriend of two years yesterday and he is being so cold with me which is really doing my head in...two years of him being my best friend has come to this. And he wont even properly tell me his reasons for wanting to end things. Coward. I always thought he was better than that; its difficult to believe that the person you love for being a great person can act like that.

who else been dumped by long term partner? are you over it yet?

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