Weird relationship pattern - psychology anyone?

Ok so anyone with psychology experience may be able to answer this.

Recently split with boyfriend, was over analysing on my relationship background when it dawned on me that there was a distinct pattern.
ALL my previous boyfriends and major crushes have been on guys who ONLY have male siblings. You're wondering what sort of thread this is, pointless perhaps but surely there is some deep meaning behind this?
My dad, who i rarely see, has only male siblings...maybe this has some relevance?
If anyone has any ideas then let me know. Thanks.

Reply 1

Ashes_to_Ashes

Errrrmm I really doubt it, or perhaps you want to be surrounded by male attension due to fact you never see your dad. :confused:

I doubt it though.

Reply 2

tropicalcoconuts3

stop overanalysing!

Reply 3

cuban_summer

haha stop overanalysing, fine got it!

Reply 4

.Ed.

Hang on a minute all the boys you've been out with have been male I think you are searching for some kind of father figure.

I think you may be over-thinking things...

Reply 5

Sanity Panda

Well... I'll overanalyse with you :smile:

Could just be that people with siblings act differently.

Reply 6

mollymustard

If the men you've been out with have mainly been surrounded by other guys then they may appear more masculine.
Could this be why they appeal to you more?

Reply 7

cuban_summer

I don't believe it has anything to do with masculinity as my ex was far from masculine. Perhaps I am over-thinking but I do think that there is plausible reasoning behind it. The reason i'm delving in to it is because i was thinking that it may aid me in future relationships. I think it's definitely possible that my dad leaving my mum has some relevance, but then again I'm not a psychiatrist!
Thanks for the feedback.

Reply 8

brightxburns

.Ed.

Hang on a minute all the boys you've been out with have been male I think you are searching for some kind of father figure.

Reply 9

Sanity Panda

You're probably overanalysing things ^^;
Just be open to relationships and love, there's no need to over complicate things :smile:

Reply 10

The_Goose

It could be that boys with sisters treat girls differently because they've always had similar aged females around. But it's more likely that it's a coincidence

Reply 11

daryush

Keep_it_Unreal

Errrrmm I really doubt it, or perhaps you want to be surrounded by male attension due to fact you never see you're dad. :confused:

I really, really doubt it though.

This sounds the most convincing. And all your boyfriends are like your dad in terms of they only have brothers.

Its hard to tell, you havent really told us too much about how you are (and were) with your dad and exs

Reply 12

brightxburns

OK, I'm going to give it a shot.

Men who are surrounded by men (so... guys with brothers) may develop to be more masculine, in a way. They may develop a tendency to suppress emotion, channel testosterone, compete a lot more, etc. Also, they may be a little immature, seeing as the only close familial female presence they have ostensibly had is a MOTHER. Therefore, perhaps they seek, in a partner, a woman who fits that 'mothering' role, in some way? Not in a creepy-sexual-perversion way, but taking care of them, etc?

So maybe this is the kind of man you are attracted to? This may be because your father left your mother (and, thus, the 'household') and you are seeking similar traits to replace him?

And maybe you are just a 'mothering' kind of gal?

I know that was utter rubbish, but that's what came to mind.

Reply 13

cuban_summer

Wasn't utter rubbish, it's quite possible and I do tend to be quite motherly in nature.
I think it's just one of those things that could have any number of solutions, or be just a huge coincidence.
Who knows. I certainly don't!

Reply 14

Lara C.

just a coincidence. incidently all the girls ive had a crush on had long hair, so i must be attracted to anything with long hair right? wrong. my old fluffy cat just didnt do it for me lol

Reply 15

Zii

Your problem probably stems from over-analysis. If you didn't over-analyse you wouldn't have a problem.

Reply 16

cuban_summer

Funny, but I was talking 3 serious relationships and 4 very strong crushes. The odds would be strangely...well odd. Anyway thanks for the feedback everyone, appreciated!

Reply 17

Lara C.

cuban_summer

Funny, but I was talking 3 serious relationships and 4 very strong crushes. The odds would be strangely...well odd. Anyway thanks for the feedback everyone, appreciated!

ive just had a thought, maybe its the boyishness. brothers tend to be competitive and usually end up boystrous (however its spelt) and ladish. maybe thats what your attracted to.

Reply 18

jenren22

You'll probably meet someone tomorrow who has 4 sisters or something. Stop over analysing.

Reply 19

scribble_girl

I'm sure she's not stressing about it... it's fun to consider wierd patterns, that sort of thing sometimes!
I think there could be something in it; boys growing up around boys might have certain personality traits or whatever. I actually think there's more in whether they're oldest or youngest in a family, but either way, there's a lot of generalisation so even if there is a pattern, it's still pretty coincidental :p: