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Reply 20

.Ed.

dosn't exist

Reply 21

jenren22

The_Goose

Im not saying we never say sorry. But we never need to. Neither of us has the "well I'm not saying anything to him until I get an apology" mentality that seems to develop in many relationships

Of course not, but there's nothing wrong with admitting you're wrong and apologising for it. Depends what you're saying sorry for really.

Reply 22

death.drop

jenren22

There's nothing wrong with saying sorry, especially in a relationship.

exactly.
even when I know my boyfriend is sorry for certain things it's still nice to hear the words. and why wouldn't you want to say you're sorry when you are?

Reply 23

The_Goose

I'm obviously not making alot of sense. I know what I mean though.. lol..

Reply 24

jenren22

death.drop

exactly.
even when I know my boyfriend is sorry for certain things it's still nice to hear the words. and why wouldn't you want to say you're sorry when you are?

Awkwardness, or stubbornness perhaps? I think that's the sign of a weak relationship, imo.

Reply 25

bete noire

simple and fun

Reply 26

kjstar

everybody has a different idea about what they see as perfect and there will be loads of people who disagree!

Reply 27

Sanity Panda

Yes!

The perfect relationship would be to be in denial. :smile:

Reply 28

Adhsur

The_Goose

Im not saying we never say sorry. But we never need to. Neither of us has the "well I'm not saying anything to him until I get an apology" mentality that seems to develop in many relationships

But then how do you make someone appreciate how much something has hurt you?

Reply 29

Erradhadh

Understanding.

Understanding that it's not a perfect relationship, that it's never going to be.

Reply 30

Sanity Panda

Can't we have perfection if it's a subjective thing? :smile:

What about the whole "Looking towards imperfection as perfect" idea?

Reply 31

The_Goose

Adhsur

But then how do you make someone appreciate how much something has hurt you?

they just know

Reply 32

haidoreru

Nothing can ever be perfect but if you're asking what makes a relationship work... it will have to have love, mutual understanding and a bit of fun. Every couple will have their own fair share of petty arguments but that's what makes relationships interesting! Gives it a bit of spark!

Reply 33

dita_parlo

I have the perfect relationship for me... We talk things out, have lots of fun together, lots of laughs, we learn from each other, we're best friends basically :love:

Reply 34

Adhsur

The_Goose

they just know

I think that's way too optimistic - it's just impossible for both sides to *always* know what's wrong. If it was that obvious they wouldn't hurt you in the first place.

Reply 35

Envy Eyes

The_Goose

never having to say you're sorry

I thought that for a while, and believed it whilst I was with my ex, looking back now I realise how wrong I was to believe it. If your partner has done something wrong or has hurt you then yes they should apologise, just like anyone else would, and as their partner you should accept their apology and do your best to move on from their mistake. Or at least, that's just my opinion :smile:

As for the 'perfect relationship' I'm not sure that sort of perfection exists but here's my general layout of the foundations;
love + trust + honesty + time + effort = all you can ask for really