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shag or not to shag?

Poll

Do you aim to shag the people you really care about?

Is it true that with the people you really care about, you want them without the aim of shagging?

Have a vote?

Note that by voting no, you aren't saying you don't want to shag them, it's just that shagging is not the dominant reason you want to be with them. And if they don't want to shag then you wouldn't mind and still love them.

Reply 1

dh00001

16

erm sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship if thats what youre asking

Reply 2

jenren22

1

I guess.

Reply 3

Sharkface

Surely coitus would be an eventual aim

Reply 4

tom_tom_tom

18

i dont think it has to be the one aim of a relationship

Reply 5

Jabbamuffin

1

It's not an 'aim', it's just something that would happen if you both wanted it to.

Reply 6

tgt

OP

6

dh00001

erm sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship if thats what youre asking

sort of yes. I like to get people's views about it. Maybe if shagging is all that is on your mind then it may be an indication that the relationship aren't gonna work out?

Reply 7

Overmars

17

tgt

Is it true that with the people you really care about, you want them without the aim of shagging?

Don't you really care about your mum? :unsure:

Reply 8

juicylucy :)

7

Sex usually comes later on, but it's not an essential part of a relationship. It's nice but if you like someone enough, it's definately not the dominant reason you'd be with them.

Reply 9

Baisodrome

I'd not be with somebody that I wasn't going to have sex with. A lot of sex.

Reply 10

tgt

OP

6

For some reason, I have found that if she is a pretty face then shagging is not the dominant reason. But if she isn't pretty but has a nice body then I still want them but for the purpose of shagging. If no pretty face or body then no go. I'm I pretty low?

Reply 11

tgt

OP

6

Synergetic

Don't you really care about your mum? :unsure:

Let's not get too dirty. By caring someone, I have always assumed that someone being a potential partner, not just any person.

Reply 12

Rouge

tgt

For some reason, I have found that if she is a pretty face then shagging is not the dominant reason. But if she isn't pretty but has a nice body then I still want them but for the purpose of shagging. If no pretty face or body then no go. I'm I pretty low?

it's not your fault that you feel like this, some people are just born inferior and have twisted thoughts, although I think a lot of men feel like this.

In their mind, there's the sort of girl they want to treat like a princess and love, usually the slighty reserved, cute or pretty girls, and then there's the "use them for sex" type, these are usually sluttier and attractive in the hot way. I've find that guys always seem to have a soft spot for "cute" girls and treat them better

Reply 13

Soulman87

Rouge

it's not your fault that you feel like this, some people are just born inferior and have twisted thoughts, although I think a lot of men feel like this.

In their mind, there's the sort of girl they want to treat like a princess and love, usually the slighty reserved, cute or pretty girls, and then there's the "use them for sex" type, these are usually sluttier and attractive in the hot way. I've find that guys always seem to have a soft spot for "cute" girls and treat them better

That pretty much sums me up...

Reply 14

Prudy

15

I'm male and I am not to shag the people I care about. Because I care about them. Good lord inflicting me on them!?! eurgh...

Reply 15

Tufts

17

what was the question?

Reply 16

Tufts

17

Jurisprude

I'm male and I am not to shag the people I care about. Because I care about them. Good lord inflicting me on them!?! eurgh...

So you only shag those you despise? :biggrin:

Reply 17

King Hippo

9

I'd absolutely love to shag the person I care about, but if she ever said she'd be with me as long as I didn't shag her (strange as that may be) then I'd do it, because being with her is more important to me than being in her.

Naturally, if she's up for it though, then bonus. :biggrin:

Reply 18

HCD

16

Tufts

what was the question?

To shag, or not to shag.
That is the question.
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to... :biggrin:

Reply 19

Prudy

15

Tufts

So you only shag those you despise? :biggrin:

Yep! It's perfect revenge. I call it the seed of spite. :wink: