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Before anyone starts, I'm not looking for any sympathy or help/advice e.t.c. All I want to say is, that I lost my father when I was 16 years old and yesterday I lost my step father and I just want to tell people that they should appreciate and make the most of their parents whilst they are still there. I was young and naive and thought my parents would live forever or at least for the forseeable future and of course, it doesn't always work out like that. Let them know how you feel and if there is anything that you want to ask them, do it now, don't take things for granted.

Reply 1

Charlurr

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Super mega hugs Brit. Im not gonna even pretend to understand what your going through but that advice shows how.. mature (?) you've been in this situation.

Serious. Fluffy love.

Reply 2

Coco.

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Hear hear.
Have been surrounded by death a lot lately.

Reply 3

Introspectre

That was really brave of you to say. Well done, sweety.

Reply 4

Emerald

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You might not be looking for sympathy but seriously :hugs:

My dad had a stroke a few years ago and it was such a horrible time. I can't even begin to imagine what it would be like to lose him for good. I really am so sorry :hugs:

Reply 5

</gibberish>

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Wear sunscreen.

Reply 6

britishseapower

OP

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Aria Gato

condolences.

crap, this makes me want to go and super-hug my dad ;_____;

thats why I made this thread, I want people to realise how important their parents are before they die

Reply 7

britishseapower

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Introspectre

That was really brave of you to say. Well done, sweety.

Thank you for the compliment but I have to disagree. I don't feel brave at all. I wasn't brave enough to let my father/step father know how I feel about them before they died.

Reply 8

britishseapower

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ChrisRH

Wear sunscreen.

good song, Baz Luhrmann has alot of sound advice in that song, download it if you can, not that I'm condoning copyright infringement :wink:

Reply 9

Introspectre

britishseapower

Thank you for the compliment but I have to disagree. I don't feel brave at all. I wasn't brave enough to let my father/step father know how I feel about them before they died.

But you have the gift of hindsight now, and you're helping others to pick up where you missed, which is brilliant. I wouldn't have the strength of character to do it, I'd just crawl into a shell and never mention it...

Reply 10

Enchanté

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ChrisRH

Wear sunscreen.

Hilarious ..

:hugs:

to you op

Reply 11

mitsabeeba

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*hugs*

Reply 12

tom_tom_tom

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aww man

really got me thinkin now

Reply 13

Ang|ophi|e

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britishseapower

Before anyone starts, I'm not looking for any sympathy or help/advice e.t.c. All I want to say is, that I lost my father when I was 16 years old and yesterday I lost my step father and I just want to tell people that they should appreciate and make the most of their parents whilst they are still there. I was young and naive and thought my parents would live forever or at least for the forseeable future and of course, it doesn't always work out like that. Let them know how you feel and if there is anything that you want to ask them, do it now, don't take things for granted.

You are 100% right. I was thinking this very same thing yesterday while watching The Namesake. I know I take my parents for granted and I am going to do something about it.

Sorry to hear about your step father btw. :hugs:

Reply 14

britishseapower

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Introspectre

But you have the gift of hindsight now, and you're helping others to pick up where you missed, which is brilliant. I wouldn't have the strength of character to do it, I'd just crawl into a shell and never mention it...

I have hindsight, yes, but it doesn't always help. My dad died unexpectedly which was good in a way, I think, but my step father had cancer so this went on for a few months and we didn't know for sure when he would leave us. One of his sons didn't really handle it that well and seemed to be 'running away' and I had a talk with him one night, saying how I dealt with my dads death and that but it didn't seem to do much. I guess with some things, you have to experience it yourself before you can appreciate the full gravity of the situation. He's a young lad though and quite immature, so I guess it depends by person to person.

Reply 15

Introspectre

britishseapower

I have hindsight, yes, but it doesn't always help. My dad died unexpectedly which was good in a way, I think, but my step father had cancer so this went on for a few months and we didn't know for sure when he would leave us. One of his sons didn't really handle it that well and seemed to be 'running away' and I had a talk with him one night, saying how I dealt with my dads death and that but it didn't seem to do much. I guess with some things, you have to experience it yourself before you can appreciate the full gravity of the situation. He's a young lad though and quite immature, so I guess it depends by person to person.

Aw, I'm so sorry. :hugs:

Stay strong, yeah?

Reply 16

britishseapower

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tom_tom_tom

aww man

really got me thinkin now

I'm glad man, tell them how you feel and be there for them. I would give anything to go back in time and tell my dad that I loved him. I did actually tell my step father that I loved him as I learnt my lesson from my biological father dieing but even so; there are still some things that I wish I had said to him or done for him.

Reply 17

tapcon

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Aww I'm sorry. Its true that we don't realize what we have until its gone. I thought my dog was going to die one day but she didn't and I'm really, really glad I still have her around.

Reply 18

tom_tom_tom

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britishseapower

I'm glad man, tell them how you feel and be there for them. I would give anything to go back in time and tell my dad that I loved him. I did actually tell my step father that I loved him as I learnt my lesson from my biological father dieing but even so; there are still some things that I wish I had said to him or done for him.

mmmm life is to short not to appreciate what your parents have done!

:frown:

Reply 19

britishseapower

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Introspectre

Aw, I'm so sorry. :hugs:

Stay strong, yeah?

I'll be alright love, I've been through it before, it makes it a little bit easier but I'm still devastated as I loved my step dad to bits and he was the only person to make my mum happy again after my dad had died and now it's just me and my mum again. I have 4 brothers but they all have families. It is a bit harder this time as my dad died unexpectedly and my dad always worked away from home anyway so it took a while before it sank in that he would no longer be there, as I was used to him being away anyway. My step dad lived with us though so It's going to take some adjusting to that he won't be here. I just feel for my mother, this is the 3rd time she has been widowed; I don't know how she copes I really don't.

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