student couples after university?

Ok, slight spin on the whole 'going off to uni and boyfriend isn't' question.
My boyfriend is graduation at the end of this academic year, but I've still got a year to go. He has no clue as to jobs or anything, he's just concentrating on getting his degree finished first.

What have other people's experiences been? How does this affect the relationship? We currently live 1 and half hours away from each other and that shouldn't really change, since he's bound down to living in that one house as far as i know and won't be able to move away (good for me).

I suppose I'm worried, just like those who have their other half going off to uni... will they change a lot and us drift apart? Or should I not be worried at all?

how long you been together... if its a few years now, when he graduates, why dont you suggest getting a house together when you're at university. If it were me that's what I'd suggest.

but if you've only been together a few months maybe not.

I met my ex-girlfriend at second year of uni, we ended up going out for a few years. After three years she asked me to marry her, I said no, but told her that I still really loved her, but I was so much in debt, and we weren't living together (we were in a LDR after uni as we'd both moved back to our parents'), and I wanted us to be living together before I asked her.

Silly of me I know. After the fourth year of us going out, she told me she was engaged to marry one of her friends and did so the year afterwards.

So that's how not to do it.

Marcus

What she got engaged whilst she was still with you!!!?????

I met my ex-girlfriend at second year of uni, we ended up going out for a few years. After three years she asked me to marry her, I said no, but told her that I still really loved her, but I was so much in debt, and we weren't living together (we were in a LDR after uni as we'd both moved back to our parents'), and I wanted us to be living together before I asked her.

Silly of me I know. After the fourth year of us going out, she told me she was engaged to marry one of her friends and did so the year afterwards.

So that's how not to do it.

Marcus

Indeed she did.

Marcus

Thats awful, what a horrible woman, you clearly deserve better

I'm still at uni, and don't graduate till 2009. My boyfriend graduated last summer and is now working in London. We've always been an LDR so that hasn't mattered too much - London is nearer than where he was before, though were only together for the last ~4 months of his time at uni. Things have changed a little but everything is still going fine as far as I can see!

The main things are that as he has a job, that has to take priority in the week, but that doesn't make too much difference for us as I have to be in hospital every day anyway, so it's not like we could make spontaneous trips anyway - if you can do that it might be different. It does mean that he's really tired by the weekend and so I tend to make the majority of trips to see him, as he has all sorts of housework etc to be done over the weekend. Secondly, he now has a LOT more money than I do - I spend most of my time close to my overdraft limit and am very frugal when it comes to food, whereas he is doing better than that! This has its benefits and drawbacks: he can spend money on nice dinners or treats for us (or just for me!) but I then feel like I'm scrounging and that's pretty crap. I get quite stressed about money, which isn't ideal.

Aside from that sort of thing though, it's all good. Of my friends who are in couples, a fair few have stuck together (more than of people who went into uni as a couple!) and the gossip is now all about who's going to get married first! A few have broken up, but that's sort of to be expected at our age. Certainly I wouldn't say that it has to be a problem for you.

Ok, slight spin on the whole 'going off to uni and boyfriend isn't' question.
My boyfriend is graduation at the end of this academic year, but I've still got a year to go. He has no clue as to jobs or anything, he's just concentrating on getting his degree finished first.

What have other people's experiences been? How does this affect the relationship? We currently live 1 and half hours away from each other and that shouldn't really change, since he's bound down to living in that one house as far as i know and won't be able to move away (good for me).

I suppose I'm worried, just like those who have their other half going off to uni... will they change a lot and us drift apart? Or should I not be worried at all?

I was in the same position as you almost 2 years ago. I was going into my second year & he was graduating & if I'm honest, it couldn't have gone any better. He stayed in the university city where we both went to uni at & we moved in together, he got a temporary job which involved him commuting & subsequently got a full time job with the same organisation, we have since moved again (& plan to move somewhere else in a month) & its made our relationship ever stronger.

In relation to your situation, has he got a contract that isn't coming up to renewal in the house he is at? Have you spoke to him about the situation?