I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months now, and before we started dating he had been single for a year after ending an 8 year relationship (they drifted apart and he said he should really have ended it 4 years ago but his son got on with her so he stayed).
His ex would text him a lot, mostly about his son, who he still lets her see. He isn't her son, but she raised him from being a toddler and she's more use than his mum has ever been, so they're close. I would never dream of coming between them, that's not what this is about.
It felt as though she was finding any stupid excuse to text him, but making it about the kid. Eventually my boyfriend told her to communicate with his son herself because he's 15 and old enough. So she didn't text as much, but always made an effort to come into the house and sit down when she's picking him up to take him out.
I let a lot of things go, because she's lonely. But I feel like she's taking over. My partner's son stays at his mum's for 50% of holidays, and came back from 3 weeks away on Friday. Immediately, my partner's ex was texting him asking did he want to go out for his tea (he said yes, he'll never say no to food haha) so he was out again within half an hour of getting home. All he'd done was unpack; he hadn't seen me or his dad or 3 weeks yet she was in there the second he got home.
THIS is the weird bit though.
Yesterday she created a new Facebook account for some reason, idk why. She added everyone from her old friend list, and created two photo albums. I assumed she was moving all her old photos over but she hasn't.
She makes dolls so she has an album of those. The other album is titled "Memories" and in that she's put 12 photos of my boyfriend from when they were together. I was a bit freaked out and showed my boyfriend and he thinks it's weird too.
What the actual heck should I do? It just seems like she's hovering over us all the time. There are other things too (she keeps planning events with their mutual friends so that we will go to them, for example) but I don't think anyone's bothered about reading any more haha.
Ftr - my partner never texts her first, when she's picking his son up either I or his son answer the door, and whenever we are out in the same vicinity he makes an effort to stay away from her. One of the reasons they split was because he didn't love her (he says now he never did, but needed stability after his son's mum left) and they had nothing to talk about, so when he's out the last thing he wants to do is be stuck with her.
What can I do? Is it as weird as I think?
My partner is a lot older than me and she's older still at 42, so she should know better - it's not like some teenage obsession!