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I’m interested in people’s thoughts on age gaps in relationships. How big do you think the age gap should be until it’s considered “weird”? Do you prefer your partner to be older or younger? Just general thoughts really.

I’ve recently started seeing someone older than me. I’m 21, he’s 30 but he’s a young 30.

Some people have been supportive and think it’s fine whereas others have been a bit freaked out by the idea (even me at first as I’d only ever dated people the same age). However after getting to know him I’ve realised he’s actually a really genuine person and we do just want the best for each other so I don’t see it as a problem anymore.

Do you think we write people off too early based on age?
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I’m interested in people’s thoughts on age gaps in relationships. How big do you think the age gap should be until it’s considered “weird”? Do you prefer your partner to be older or younger? Just general thoughts really.

I’ve recently started seeing someone older than me. I’m 21, he’s 30 but he’s a young 30.

Some people have been supportive and think it’s fine whereas others have been a bit freaked out by the idea (even me at first as I’d only ever dated people the same age). However after getting to know him I’ve realised he’s actually a really genuine person and we do just want the best for each other so I don’t see it as a problem anymore.

Do you think we write people off too early based on age?
As long as you're 2 consenting adults who are in a happy relationship it is fine.

My boyfriend is 7 years older and we are incredibly happy. He sometimes acts like a child (he is basically a big kid) so more often than not it feels like I'm older than him! Age is just a number when it comes to happily ever after.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I’m interested in people’s thoughts on age gaps in relationships. How big do you think the age gap should be until it’s considered “weird”? Do you prefer your partner to be older or younger? Just general thoughts really.

I’ve recently started seeing someone older than me. I’m 21, he’s 30 but he’s a young 30.

Some people have been supportive and think it’s fine whereas others have been a bit freaked out by the idea (even me at first as I’d only ever dated people the same age). However after getting to know him I’ve realised he’s actually a really genuine person and we do just want the best for each other so I don’t see it as a problem anymore.

Do you think we write people off too early based on age?
It's not just the gap, the age of the two people is also important. Your nine-year gap is fine, but would be highly dubious at 13 and 22, for example.
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As long as you're 2 consenting adults who are in a happy relationship it is fine.

My boyfriend is 7 years older and we are incredibly happy. He sometimes acts like a child (he is basically a big kid) so more often than not it feels like I'm older than him! Age is just a number when it comes to happily ever after.
I agree 😄

I’ve never been happier with anyone, we were really good friends for 2 years and now we’re giving things a go together, we just work and it’s so refreshing.

I just think people put too much emphasis on age gaps.
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It's not just the gap, the age of the two people is also important. Your nine-year gap is fine, but would be highly dubious at 13 and 22, for example.
Well yes of course, that’s definitely not right but I mean when you’re both “of age”.
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Youngest I've dated was 4.5 years younger. Eldest was 20 years my senior. I felt the age difference more in the former than the latter weirdly enough. :dontknow:

Seems like you've put some thought into it instead of just rushing straight into things so that's a good sign. Good luck to you both.
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age gap is more important when you're younger because people are still growing/maturing. there's a big difference in maturity between a 13 year old and an 18 year old. but a 25 year old and a 30 year old might be more or less the same and it matters less the older you get.

basically imho age doesn't matter so long as you're in the same stage of life. mind you not ever relationship needs to be for forever; some are just temporary for a bit of fun.
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There's 12 years between my and my fella (25 and 37) and he has 2 kids from his previous marriage, but it's honestly the happiest relationship I've ever been in Glad to hear youre happy!!
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Let x = Age in years.
Let y = Age in years which you can date.


(x / 2) + 7 = y
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My own age gap is 5 years. And I prefer a younger partner, as an older one makes me so nervous and insecure.

I personally see 10 years as age gap as normal in another relationship by now. A bigger one is weird and I can't imagine that relationship may work in the long run, despite the fact they are both adults. Greater age gap also means a greater gap of life experience as a rule.
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So long as someone has the faculties/maturity to consent to the relationship, it doesn't matter what the age gap is; may raise a few eyebrows but who cares - unless one is religious, they have no basis for absolute or objective moral values, so their outrage is merely an expression of their subjective understanding of the world, which can be ignored on the most part (unless there are legal repercussions).
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(Original post by Bulletzone)
Let x = Age in years.
Let y = Age in years which you can date.


(x / 2) + 7 = y
Trying to reduce human relationships to a simplistic mathematical formula is infantile and shallow.
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I’m interested in people’s thoughts on age gaps in relationships. How big do you think the age gap should be until it’s considered “weird”? Do you prefer your partner to be older or younger? Just general thoughts really.

I’ve recently started seeing someone older than me. I’m 21, he’s 30 but he’s a young 30.

Some people have been supportive and think it’s fine whereas others have been a bit freaked out by the idea (even me at first as I’d only ever dated people the same age). However after getting to know him I’ve realised he’s actually a really genuine person and we do just want the best for each other so I don’t see it as a problem anymore.

Do you think we write people off too early based on age?
it's fine in my eyes! You are both adults where as if it was a 13 year old dating someone who's 22 it may raise questions
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As long as both are of legal age and make each other happy then it's no one else's business but theres.
Anyone considering it have a look on YouTube at a couple from the USA called Joe and Angela from the MayDecemberSociety
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personally, as a 20yr old, the lowest i'd go is 17 and the oldest i'd go is 24-25. once had a crush on a french girl who thought a 2 year age gap was too big for a relationship between us. She was 19 and i was 17 at the time which says a lot.
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