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Can't take it anymore, unable to sleep and just want out

Well basically I just attempted sleep and failed miserably as I just ended up crying which is unusual for me,

Basically I've told my best friend I like them a lot and it all went well and all and they say nothings changed between us which is good, but then I find out there ex is telling someone who has a grudge against me for some reason everything and then said person is spreading it to wider circles, and it isn't the first time this person has done something like this to me, and I just can't take it anymore, I just want to be left to myself but I'm not allowed it feels as if I'm being tormented and I just don't think it's fair that it always seems to be me that said person picks on and I just want to be left alone, it doesn't help that I know the person I like is way way way 'out of my league' and I'm just sort of feeling more and more down as time goes on and as I right this message, I just dont see how it's fair it's always me who's singled out and targeted and that I just can't get on with my life it almost seems, and I just want out of everything and I don't know what I mean by that and just ending everything the pain, torment etc. is getting more and more attractive by the day and I'm beggining to scare myself, the wort part is tomorrow I'll have to put on a brave face and act as if I'm getting on with everything and taking it well whereas I'm feeling completely torn up inside, any advice?

Cheers,
Anon

Reply 1

There will always be people in the world like that who seem to enjoy making other people miserable, but you just have to try not to let it get to you, although i know thats easier said than done:s-smilie:
I know you feel terrible about ths right now but try to look at the positives, your best friend was supportive when you told them how you feel, which shows you do have good friends and people who are on you side.
You're right, it IS unfair to be singled out and targeted, but things like this happen to EVERYONE at some point, so it's honestly not like you are a worse person than anyone else or anything like that.
There must be something good about your life that you can feel positive about and look foreward to?:hugs:

Reply 2

Keep your head up matey, forget about silly people, they're just sad.

You should look on the bright side and take it as a compliment that they are spending their time thinking about you, the opposite of love isn't hate its indifference.

Try to take it in your stride by remembering that those who matter dont mind and those who mind dont matter. Just shrug your shoulders at these people and things. Half the time they just want a reaction, if you don't give them one they'll have nothing to feed off and will back off.

:cool:

Reply 3

wallflower*
There will always be people in the world like that who seem to enjoy making other people miserable, but you just have to try not to let it get to you, although i know thats easier said than done:s-smilie:
I know you feel terrible about ths right now but try to look at the positives, your best friend was supportive when you told them how you feel, which shows you do have good friends and people who are on you side.
You're right, it IS unfair to be singled out and targeted, but things like this happen to EVERYONE at some point, so it's honestly not like you are a worse person than anyone else or anything like that.
There must be something good about your life that you can feel positive about and look foreward to?:hugs:


Yes I know it happens to everyone at some point but I've been putting up with it from various people for years and this one person for about 2-3 years and I'm just fed up, doesn't help that I tke too much notice and this gives my confidence a severe knock as well

Reply 4

Gossip hurts. FACT :frown:

But the thing is that things like "so and so likes so and so" blows over really quickly.
There is a boy at my school who fancies girls waaay out of his league (I bet more so than you, and at least you are friends with her, this guy hardly knows the girls he likes!)

We all have a good laugh about it for 5 minutes, and then we forget about it.

I am sure you have heard some gossip, and then you forget really soon after?

You may get a few stares, and perhaps a snide comment, but you just have to tell yourself they are being childish and immature, and that you have probably laughed at someone elses misfortune before too. You know yourself that you have done nothing wrong, and that nothing will change between you and your friend.
Soon, between a day and a week, no one will remember/care. They will be busy with the new gossip.

You can always deny it, I am sure your friend will too if you ask them. Then it will look like the mean person is lieing.

Good luck, chin up, and don't let the idiots get you down :wink:

Reply 5

I refuse to listen to gossip, if someone tells me they have gossip I tell them in no uncertain terms I don't want to hear it as you say it hurts the person it involves who for some strange reason throughout most of school seems to have been me, I'm sort of the guy every one else can take the mick out of to feel better about themselves =[.

Reply 6

Anonymous
I refuse to listen to gossip, if someone tells me they have gossip I tell them in no uncertain terms I don't want to hear it as you say it hurts the person it involves who for some strange reason throughout most of school seems to have been me, I'm sort of the guy every one else can take the mick out of to feel better about themselves =[.


Good for you, most people enjoy gossip lol

Well... at least you arent the guy at my school. He fancies several "popular" girls all at once, he streaked infront of most of the school because he lost a game of table football, he danced erotically with a cone on his first day at school, and he had his glasses put in a VERY questionable place. :p:

He's gossip is more comical though... and he enjoys being the clown I guess

I hope they aren't too mean to you tomorow, but worrying wont do any good. Try to keep positive, and just tell them that laughing about lame things like "who fancies who" is something that got old once you entered highschool. Can't they mind their own buisness, or are their own lives so boring that they have to gossip about yours?

Also, you could try avoid confrontation by not going early to class, or sitting with them at lunch etc. But I hope you realise it doesn't matter what worthless people who are not even your friends think of you anyway, and you won't see them even again once you leave school.

Reply 7

stolenstars
Good for you, most people enjoy gossip lol

Well... at least you arent the guy at my school. He fancies several "popular" girls all at once, he streaked infront of most of the school because he lost a game of table football, he danced erotically with a cone on his first day at school, and he had his glasses put in a VERY questionable place. :p:

He's gossip is more comical though... and he enjoys being the clown I guess

I hope they aren't too mean to you tomorow, but worrying wont do any good. Try to keep positive, and just tell them that laughing about lame things like "who fancies who" is something that got old once you entered highschool. Can't they mind their own buisness, or are their own lives so boring that they have to gossip about yours?

Also, you could try avoid confrontation by not going early to class, or sitting with them at lunch etc. But I hope you realise it doesn't matter what worthless people who are not even your friends think of you anyway, and you won't see them even again once you leave school.


I've been on the receiving end enough times to know its not what I want to do to other people if I can help it at all, this is probably what makes me an easy target though as I have nothing on them, you try to be nice and it gets you nowhere =[

Reply 8

Anonymous
I've been on the receiving end enough times to know its not what I want to do to other people if I can help it at all, this is probably what makes me an easy target though as I have nothing on them, you try to be nice and it gets you nowhere =[

I'm sorry you feel that way, but it will change when you get older as people become more mature.

Maybe be more careful about things you dont want to get arround, how did this guy find out? Either you or your friend must have told someone.

Btw, if you can't sleep, either do something (i typed "someone" lol, freudian slip?!?!) to take your mind off the problem, or drink some warm milk and try to go to sleep again.

There is nothing worse than lying in bed, worrying and getting worked up.

Do you have any family who might be awake you can talk to?

I'm sorry you think of yourself as an easy target, but probably because you are kind and naive, which lots of people think is a sweet personality.

*hug*

Its not the end of the world if people know who you fancy, it could be so much worse. At least you have a really good friend, and the courage to not gossip (And these are just the things that you have said to me lol).

GOOD LUCK :biggrin:

Reply 9

stolenstars
I'm sorry you feel that way, but it will change when you get older as people become more mature.

Maybe be more careful about things you dont want to get arround, how did this guy find out? Either you or your friend must have told someone.

Btw, if you can't sleep, either do something (i typed "someone" lol, freudian slip?!?!) to take your mind off the problem, or drink some warm milk and try to go to sleep again.

There is nothing worse than lying in bed, worrying and getting worked up.

Do you have any family who might be awake you can talk to?

I'm sorry you think of yourself as an easy target, but probably because you are kind and naive, which lots of people think is a sweet personality.

*hug*

Its not the end of the world if people know who you fancy, it could be so much worse. At least you have a really good friend, and the courage to not gossip (And these are just the things that you have said to me lol).

GOOD LUCK :biggrin:


Thanks, no no family awake let alone to talk too, me and my parents have never been particularly 'close' on issues like this and I don't feel as if I could talk to them about it, only really one person who I feel as if I can talk to on issues like this and there not really an option atm, so I kinda suffer in silence by night and put on a brave face and act as if I'm taking it all in my stride by day, not fun.