So I'm 25 and I have pretty much only been with one guy. I've gone on two other dates in my life but my one relationship is the only constant in my life. Recently we've been fighing a lot over different things and we resolve them the best we can. A recent arguement about being intimate was eye opening to me, I feel like it has changed my perspective on him. Its like, when he doesn't text me it doesn't bother me anymore and in the past it would. I dont miss his calls if he doesn't call during the day and I just cant be bothered to be on the phone.
I am very career driven and he is the opposite, he doesn't want to finish his degree as he says he'd rather do something else. He makes me empty promises but never follows through, on many occasions he's cancelled last minute and a few times he's just not shown up. The crazy thing is, he makes me feel like the bad things in the relationship are my fault.. like me not wanting to sleep with him. He makes me feel like I owe him something.. I personally want to wait until I am married and I never made him think otherwise, he acts like I should change my personal beliefs for him. Also I drive my own car, I work a 9-5 and I am very self sufficient which he hates. There have been occasions that he's told me he doesn't like me driving. He doesn't drive and doesn't have a full time job, he sometimes depends on me to take care of things financially. I've always seen myself with someone who's similar to me and kind of knows what they want.
Now the problem is that I have recently met someone. He's nice, down to earth, works full time as a teacher, drives and is very self sufficient. He's told me that he likes me and to be honest, I like him also. The issue is, My partner is on holiday and I dont want to cheat. I also don't know if it is a fleeting crush or something real.. I don't know if I still want to be with my partner. I cant talk to my family about this as they really dont like my partner so I know what they would say.. My partner and I broke up like 2 months ago and got back together around a month ago, my family just doesnt know this, they think we're still broken up. I'm just lost and I'm not sure what to do, I dealt with depression for a long time and it's not something I think truly goes away. I still have some bad days but when I was broken up with my partner I felt a little better selfishly. I felt like I could be me again.. The crazy thing is that I cant imagine my life without him even though he drives me crazy. I feel like I'm settling because he's all I've really ever known.. Should I try dating the other guy and break up with my partner? What if it doesnt work and my partner moves on? Is the intimacy thing enough to be a dealbreaker?