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I need some help guys. It's come to my attention lately that I find balancing my relationship with my normal life quite hard. For example, I'll be out sometimes but wishing he was with me or wishing I was talking to him. For the past year we had been long distance and once I was into that routine I was used to it and things were fine. However, I'm back home now and we have spent lots of time together over summer, I couldn't be happier really.

I am about to start university in 2 weeks and I will only be 30 mins away by train from my bf so not too long distance at all. Realistically we will see each other every weekend/every other weekend depending on plans. I really want to continue strong in this relationship but I am really determined to not allow it to take over my life at uni. I know on my gap year I was often tempted to stay in at night and speak to my bf instead of going out all the time and I don't want this to become a habit at uni as I want to make friends and live it to the full.

He is really understanding and even encourages me to go out and do my own thing, I just don't want to be out and wishing I was with him or whatever. How can I just be content in my relationship and content living my own life too? I've never been like this with any other guy, I just really love him a lot. Any advice? Or anyone been through anything similar?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I need some help guys. It's come to my attention lately that I find balancing my relationship with my normal life quite hard. For example, I'll be out sometimes but wishing he was with me or wishing I was talking to him. For the past year we had been long distance and once I was into that routine I was used to it and things were fine. However, I'm back home now and we have spent lots of time together over summer, I couldn't be happier really.

I am about to start university in 2 weeks and I will only be 30 mins away by train from my bf so not too long distance at all. Realistically we will see each other every weekend/every other weekend depending on plans. I really want to continue strong in this relationship but I am really determined to not allow it to take over my life at uni. I know on my gap year I was often tempted to stay in at night and speak to my bf instead of going out all the time and I don't want this to become a habit at uni as I want to make friends and live it to the full.

He is really understanding and even encourages me to go out and do my own thing, I just don't want to be out and wishing I was with him or whatever. How can I just be content in my relationship and content living my own life too? I've never been like this with any other guy, I just really love him a lot. Any advice? Or anyone been through anything similar?
Just talk to him about it and maybe have 2-3 evenings off from him a week? You just sound like you are finally glad to not be ldr and so are making up for lost time. honeymoon period doesnt last forever.

Use the uni time for time with new friends , new interests and studies. If you live out of each others pockets all the time you will suffocate each other. Its also a danger that if and when you come to splitting you have no friends , no interests and no independent life. Breaks from each other arent bad.
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