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Hi,
I got really drunk on Saturday night and made out with two guys at the club. I am normally not like that and everyone knows me as the shy girl who never does anything out of her comfort zone. The worst thing is that apparently everyone saw it and I’ve been getting texts from friends teasing me about it. Is that really something I have to feel guilty about?
I don’t even think people saw me with the second guy so it’s not even that. Nobody’s ever seen me make out with someone so I guess it’s a big deal. I also live in a small town so that makes it worse.
How do I deal with this? I can’t really say I regret doing it, I mean it was just kissing after all. And I felt like it. How do I respond to people teasing me about it?

On the other hand I’ve got a date with a guy I really like next weekend and feel kind of guilty because of that. Obviously we’re not a couple yet but I am hoping for something more with him. Should I feel bad?

By the way, I’m already 22 so I’m not really a teenager anymore. Don’t know if that makes it better though.
Oh, and I don’t normally get drunk like that. That was the first time that happened and it surely won’t happen again.
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Just don't get that drunk again.

What's in the past is done now, enjoy your date.
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If you don't feel guilty, then don't let the teasing get to you. If it is just friends commenting, they most likely don't mean anything by it.

I think the reason why you might be feeling a little strange is that you have the date, and maybe you are afraid that the guy will hear about what you have done?
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I know, I certainly won’t get that drunk anymore.
Actually, I doubt the guy will hear about it. He lives over half an hour from me by car and we don’t have any mutual friends.
However, I really like him and don’t want to ruin things between us because of this. It was seriously a drunken mistake. I know that it’s not that uncommon for people to do stupid things when they’re drunk but for me to do something like this.. I just can’t deal with it. I see myself differently now, I’m even a bit disgusted by myself.
I wish I could see it as something I could be proud of or at least kind of accept that it happened. But I guess that’ll take some time.
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There's nothing disgusting about an adult woman choosing to kiss a few guys.
Just a night partying, not a big issue.
But you might want to think about partying with a 2 or 3 drink limit or sticking to low alcohol content mixes.
Getting drunk, then drunkenly doing things that you view sober as "a drunken mistake" is a problem that could become habitual unless you get to grips with it now.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi,
I got really drunk on Saturday night and made out with two guys at the club. I am normally not like that and everyone knows me as the shy girl who never does anything out of her comfort zone. The worst thing is that apparently everyone saw it and I’ve been getting texts from friends teasing me about it. Is that really something I have to feel guilty about?
I don’t even think people saw me with the second guy so it’s not even that. Nobody’s ever seen me make out with someone so I guess it’s a big deal. I also live in a small town so that makes it worse.
How do I deal with this? I can’t really say I regret doing it, I mean it was just kissing after all. And I felt like it. How do I respond to people teasing me about it?

On the other hand I’ve got a date with a guy I really like next weekend and feel kind of guilty because of that. Obviously we’re not a couple yet but I am hoping for something more with him. Should I feel bad?

By the way, I’m already 22 so I’m not really a teenager anymore. Don’t know if that makes it better though.
Oh, and I don’t normally get drunk like that. That was the first time that happened and it surely won’t happen again.
Were they fit though

Worry not it's only kissing. Human contact is good. Just don't get drunk as it makes you do this if it's worrying you.
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I know, I certainly won’t get that drunk anymore.
Actually, I doubt the guy will hear about it. He lives over half an hour from me by car and we don’t have any mutual friends.
However, I really like him and don’t want to ruin things between us because of this. It was seriously a drunken mistake. I know that it’s not that uncommon for people to do stupid things when they’re drunk but for me to do something like this.. I just can’t deal with it. I see myself differently now, I’m even a bit disgusted by myself.
I wish I could see it as something I could be proud of or at least kind of accept that it happened. But I guess that’ll take some time.
I mean at the end of the day both of you are technically single so unless you are exclusive or officially gf/bf then he shouldn’t really make you feel bad about it or need to know. But at the same time I’ve done this before and felt guilty because I know if I heard that the guy I was seeing got with some girl, then I would definitely be put off, as I would think either they weren’t committed to just me or I’m not good enough because they are clearly looking else where. I don’t know it’s a difficult one. Plus also it’s not something you really want to mention to someone you’ve just started seeing, (“btw I got with another guy last night, how do you feel about it?”) 😬

Sorry I know this response isn’t any help!! I’ve been in a similar dilemma recently and I don’t think there’s an easy way to think in this situation!
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