What did I do wrong?!

I'd rather this post say anonymous cause i dont know who'll read this, but if it gets changed I'll have to live with the backlash.

Me and a friend of mine (I'll call her "Sam" for the purposes of this - its not her real name) are both part of a drama group, and we've just been in a show together. We've liked each other for quite a while and then this happened;

Apparently backstage, according to her, I've been all over ever other girl than her, and obviously as she quite liked me (i use the past tense as im not so sure now) she was rather upset. Now I didnt realise this, and thus i've been playing catchup. The demographic of the group is that there are more girls than blokes involved, thus its hard not to be around girls or to be seen talking to them.

I've been out with 2 girls and was briefly involved with another one from this group. I told "Sam" about me going out with 1 of the girls and she was fine with it as it was in the past.

From my perspective i've done nothing wrong (whether thats true or just a standard bloke-type response i'll leave up to you). Granted that 1 girl decided to sit on the armrest of 2 chairs n drape her legs over mine (this girl has a bf) may have influenced her decision, but in general I'm quite friendly with ppl (in the im nice to people sense) and thus i talk to everyone.

We all went out for a meal afterwards and I ended up with quite a few texts off "Sam" saying not to "Rub it in her face" and i was a bit confused from it - the behaviour stated above i think might have been what she was referring to

Is she paranoid, or does she have good reason to be pissed? I really like her, and would like to be going out with her.

That was yesterday. Today one of her mates said that i should be concentrating on being friends with her. Thats turning out to be harder to do than it sounds as shes gone really cold with me. Is that because of what she's seen? Should I just give her a bit of time? What should I say to her if anything?

Answers on a postcard please!

well, since she's gone cold with you that gives you the perfect opportunity to talk. Send her a text saying something like: I think you've been quite cold towards me lately, please let's go for a coffee/drink/dinner/bla, after drama, just for a chat, since I want to know what's upsetting you.

Then you can ask her how she's seen the whole story... don't interupt to defend yourself, just let her talk and ask a lot of questions and do your best to keep your mouth shut other than that. When she's finished you can explain it all, and she'll listen to what you're saying, cause you let her talk first and you'll actually be able to 'defend' yourself properly, since you then know exactly what she thought was going on.
Then depending on her reactions, you can try to arrang a date for pizza and cinema with her

good luck!

I saw her last night (there were lots of us around so it wasn't just me n her), and said to her to that didn't know that I'd done something wrong and if she'd had said something at the time I would have been more careful, and also that I really would like to go out with her. After we both left we were talking over text for quite a while and basically she said she'll go out with me if i can prove that im not "a player" - in simple terms, if i can show her that i am really interested in her next week when everyone else is around then she'll go out with me (or at least that's what I've interpreted it as). I think that's rather fair especially after seeing it from her perspective i.e. that she thought I was "all over" all the other girls after saying to "Sam" that i was only interested in her - which had the effect of making her feel crap about herself. So we'll see how things go this weekend and next week