Hi
I’m 19 and have struggled with social anxiety and anxiety in general ever since I around 4/5 years old.
Right now, I’m at a level with my anxiety that I’m happy with but of course another hurdle has come along.
It’s hard to believe I have social anxiety at times. I can be the most outgoing, crazy and possibly quite a loud person at times but only when I’m with the right company I.e. my best friend.
Last week I dated a guy and we got on so so well. He couldn’t stop saying how much he liked me but he did mention how quiet I was and I feel like this is what let’s me down on most dates! BUT... he has asked to see me again but he said he’d love to see me be myself. He kept reassuring me there’s nothing to be nervous about and everything which made me feel at ease a little but I don’t think people realise it’s not as easy as that when anxiety is something you’ve suffered from basically all you’re life.
MY QUESTION IS: how can I become more relaxed and just be more myself around him. I find it hard to break that barrier! It takes me a while to come out of my shell and find my confidence but I know it’s in me to do it... but when the time comes I just can’t seen to be the real me!
Is there anything you can take to relax you, make you more confident? Just a temporary think? Or any methods that help you to relax etc.
Thanks