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How do you break up friends with gay girl without.....

having to actually tell her? [sorry there's a lot to read)

There's this girl who I haven't wanted to be friends with for a year now because I don't feel comfortable around her anymore. She was ok before when we had other friends but they transferred to other uni's or transferred to a different course leaving this girl and me. Here are the reasons I no longer want to be her friend:

-i think she is gay and has a crush on me or something because she looks at me inappropriately sometimes and touches my nails, hand or arms whenever she can which just make my skin crawl thinking about because I don't like her I'm not gay like her.
-her breath smells terrible and she always has her face close to me while talking. I can smell her breath and sometimes she talks at the same time I and her breath goes in my mouth which is disgusting and makes my skin crawl about the germs she's given me. Her teeth have visible place on them when she talks with her teeth showing. She told me she went to the dentist due to eating sweets all the time the year before. I told her that's why sweets aren't good for your teeth. She doesn't care she's always eating sweets. What kind of dentist does she go to who can't clean her teeth for her? She always laughs at the idea of brushing teeth. She always jokes do you brush your teeth. It's like she doesn't brush hers or something and finds it absurd that people here brush their teeth [she an international student so I think she doesn't brush her teeth because back home she doesn't]
-she's so clingy, always has to be in my business. Although were doing the same course, were specialising in different areas so are in different classes but she's always coming in my class to look at my work or ask me if I want to go to have lunch with her which is so annoying. Why can't she stay in her own class I stead of bothering me? She has got many other friends but she doesn't bother them.
-always has to state the obvious like are you wearing this makeup, got a new jacket, shoes, bag etc which is so annoying
-too interested in me and needs to give me space.
-she loves travelling and always invites me to go with her. I always say no to distance myself from her.

I avoid her as much as I can but the more I avoid her the more she wants to see me.
-always messages me on social media but I don't bother answering her anymore
-I had to delete my old Facebook and created a new account and didn't tell her but she managed to find me on Facebook and sent me a friend request. I accepted but I regret it now.

I really don't want to be her friend anymore. How do I do this without telling her? I know if I tell her she will ask why and I don't want to explain myself to her. I hate talking to her. I can't stand her. I have to put up with her until June before I never see her again and plan on just deleting her from all social media. She has my phone number thanks to whatsapp but if she texts me, I will ignore her. Can you delete someone from whatsapp? I don't ever want to see her again but I have to at uni. If she were a normal person then she would have realised what is going on but hasn't. What can I do?

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Anonymous #2

Can’t you just ask her if she likes you? And if she says yes then tell her you’re not gay and carry on as usual? I don’t see why that’s such a problem

To me it sounds like she just wants to be your mate, inviting you out to lunch and inviting you to travel with her is something I’d want my friend to do otherwise I’d think she hates me. As for brushing her teeth, as you mentioned she might not do it back home, it may not be her norm or she doesn’t understand the importance of it - this is her culture, you could just talk to her about it

If my mate didn’t answer me I’d be livid and probs also keep messaging her cause I’d want to know what’s up. And I’d want my friend to be interested in me

But if you don’t want to be friends just talk to her and see what happens or just drift away