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He confuses me!!

Again, like so many before i'd like this to be kept anonymous if not then please delete!

Ok so basically there is this guy that I really like, my problem being that i'm not sure about how he feels. Whilst I know that I have the option to ask him outright i'm not going to (yes i know its the only way to ever be sure and it would solve a lot of issues im not going to - yet).

Backstory:
Ive liked this guy since before Christmas, and have got to know him a lot more over the past few weeks and i'm friends with most of his guy friends, although they are just friends, nothing more. In a night out a few weeks ago I told him that I liked him whilst I was very drunk (not entirely sure whether I regret this) and he said he knew and kissed me (peck). We've hung out more, sometimes staying up all night just chatting and watching movies. He's never obvious withi his flirting, he's not like that as he's quite shy but I catch him looking at me sometimes and when we go out and hes had a bit to drink he's always more touchy feely, never in a perverted way more of his hands will circle my waist, he'll pick me up or he'll hold my hand whilst we walk home.

A couple of weeks after telling him that I liked him we were out at a club again and everytime I left our group of friends he'd ask me where I was going to and on one occasion we met whilst I was on my way to the bar and he kissed me on the lips.

Well the major problem being this one girl which he ladmitted to liking, who happens to be in a serious relationship and is perfectly happy, however, her boyfriend does not live nearby and is admittedly a flirt, she knows he likes her and uses him, as well as his friends as something akin to a substitute boyfriend, I like her she's perfectly nice but she does play on the guys. Also, she knows I like him and keeps pushing me onto him, but will also hang off his arm and will just invite herself round to there house. Nothings happened between the two of them, and its most likely that nothing will.

So first of all is my attraction blinding the way I see all this and am I reading to mouch into his actions and also how do I deal with this girl?

Thankyou!
Reply 1
Ask him out. Now.

I mean it. Log off this instant and go round.

He danced and kissed you repeatedly. I'd say he likes you. It seems he's just very shy and is uncertain about how to proceed. You can either make a move and get rid of the uncertainty you're feeling, or do nothing and let the worrry and confusion CONSUME YOU.

Your choice.
Reply 2
From what you have said it seems pretty clear to me that this guy likes you. Next time you see him suggest that you go out for a drink or a meal just the two of you. While he may quite like this girl he is also probably aware that nothing is going to happen as she has a long term boyfriend. You could have a word if you want her to stop flirting with him but I don't see that it is necessary.

So just go and ask him out :smile:
Reply 3
Short of performing an erotic dance, there's little more he could do to make it plainer that he likes you.
Reply 4
Ask him out
He definitely likes you. She just sounds like she likes the attention, and I doubt it's any threat.

GO GO GO.
Reply 6
Lol thanks for the answers, he's at home at the moment (we're on Easter break) but will be back up in the next couple of days so i'll see how things go...thanks for your replies! Its nice to know what others think from those that don't have any bias! Thankyou!!
OMG!!!

I know EXACTLY how you feel.... I really reeeeally like this guy in my year. He used to be completely and utterly shy, but has really come out of his shell since I started flirting with him!! XP

But the thing is, he has never had a girlfirend (or even kissed a girl) and has really low self-esteem...

He definately knows I like him, and I'm pretty sure he likes me too especially recently he has been really quite flirty... But there's still that fear of rejection... :frown:

I think I've got a plan though - New Years Eve kiss at midnight!!!!!! XD


(Well that felt really rather nice to get off my chest!) :smile: