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afraid your partner will move on in uni??

Does anyone else feel worried at all about their boyfriend/girlfriend moving on in university. Im 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and hav been going out 1 and a half years and are completely in love and happy. However, my boyfriend isnt used to girl attention, and doesnt realise that he will get a lot in university. we talk about our future together which is making me worry even more because i want a future with him so much. i trust him completely but it doesnt help me worrying that he may find someone else in his new "uni" life. it reli gets me down to think of it, even though i shouldnt think like this.
is anybody else feeling like this???
or is ur boyfriend/girlfriend worrying about you going away??????

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Yeah, it worries me a lot

Reply 2

randdom

It is difficult for couples from school to survive through university but that doesn't mean that it is impossible. You need to focus on making the most of your relationship and being as happy as you can. You also need to make sure that you trust your boyfriend because without that you are destined to fail. All that you can really do is try your best and hope that things will work out.

I wish you all the best.

Reply 3

watermelon sugar

my boyfriend goes to uni next year, i'll still be in college. i'm not worried, because even though we haven't been together for donkiesss, i do trust him and just isn't the tpe to go off like that. we go to diffrent colleges and have different circles of friends, so i have no worries about a new uni life breaking us up. he isn't even moving away from home for the first year!
besides, how many girls you think will be doing a degree in classical & popular music specialising in jazz? nahhhh

Reply 4

imhiya

I'm worried about this me being a old one of my year and her being the young one, 16-18.

im more worried ill be to busy for her or she'll move on.

Reply 5

suicidal_dream

don't worry about it - whatever will be, will be!
I'm at uni, whilst my boyfriend is still back home and we're still going strong - you might wanna have a look in the 'long distance relationship' thread!

Reply 6

Cassie89

Uni broke me and my bf up...(he was first year I was doing a levels).
Like someone else said, he wasnt used to lots of attention and he completely changed. At first I loved it when he got all confident, but then it kinda just turned to arrogance and now he's a bit of a prat. Right now I'm trying to work out if I want to be mates with him or not...I'm meeting him for a drink and kinda just wanna punch him in the face :smile:

All I can say is that however strong your relationship there is SO much temptation when you first start uni. So just be the best girlfriend you can be, and hopefully things will work out. (If you want a full and detailed list of things you shouldnt do just ask!)

Reply 7

Burnio

My mate is at uni and has cheated on his current girlfriend there on numerous occasions.

They have been going out for two years, and she is still in sixth form. He states that he loves her, but he is also a very sexual person, and sex and love can be two different things. He's just having fun apparently.

He is a bit of a party guy, I do feel bad for his girlfriend though, **** will hit the fan when she find out.

Reply 8

tayalouise

I'm slightly worried
I would love for me and my boyfriend to go University in the same city, especially after what will be a year and a half of a long distance relationship, and it is possible as we've both applied for Southampton and been accepted BUT if he gets accepted for York, I know he will want to go there
He is certain we can continue being together but I'm not so sure that it will be easy and I don't want to lose him
I hate thinking about it, so I don't
Simple.

I will deal with it when it happens and just enjoy being together at the moment

Reply 9

polka_dott

It is hard and I have known people to break up but you just have to give it your best shot and sacrifice some things, such as having to travel to see them etc...

Reply 10

GarethBrown

It's not worth it, and 90% of blokes who were in relationships in my first year realised this. Good luck. Having a girlfriend who lives near you is a lot better in every way.

Reply 11

strawberry

you're 17 and you want a future with an 18 year old boy? I'm sorry, wait till you're at least in your 20s before you start deciding things like this. College changes a lot of people - trust me I know, my best friend is so different now than when I knew her in high school - and more than likely your relationship will end because he will find someone closer to where he is and/or you will find someone closer to where you are.

Reply 12

DizzyWeasel

Really it depends on what your boyfriend is like, but I think after a couple of months you'll see there's nothing to worry about.
I'm in the same position as you (boyfriend has gone to uni, I'm still in 2nd year of sixth form) and was really worried before and just after he went that he would find someone else.
But it was all stupid, I had nothing to worry about and it's still good.

And I don't really see much reason why two people can't stay together forever just because they started going out before they were in their 20's.
It's unlikely, but it does happen.

Reply 13

strawberry

not saying that it doesn't happen ... but the chances of it working out in teenhood is extremely rare.

Reply 14

Jendaline

my bfs not going to uni... he wants to get a job... this scares me too tho cos he might meet someone new during work... or he might spend most of his time out and about if he dont find a job.. which makes me worry about him finding someone else.... and i always worry he will feel different about me because we wont get to see eachother often...
makes me extremely sad....

Reply 15

xkarenlouisex

The original thread was posted in 2008 april why has it resurfaced?.. but still I'm going to uni and so is my boyf he's going to the same one as me, hes 4 years older, I worry a bit cause hes already as confident as anything and so cocky about female attention, and I also worry that I will beginto grow apart from him or vice versa but take i as it comes and just live for the moment :smile:

Reply 16

alleycat393

I'm at University and my bf is back home. We're in a really long distance relationship but communication is the key and of course never losing sight of the fact that we want to be together. Oh and defining boundaries-what's alrite and what's not when it comes to being close friends with the opposite sex

Initially my bf was very worried that I would meet someone else but over time he got over it coz I make sure that he knows about my life and friends at Uni. He is still uncomfortable with me being alone or getting to close to certain male friends.

Yes Uni does change people a lot but communicating regularly really helps that. We're very open about how we feel about the changes and work through them and have decided to tell each other the minute we feel that we can't deal with a change or find someone else or feel that the relationship is not worth it anymore.

Anyway, hope that helps and good luck!

Reply 17

NiceWeatherForAirstrikes

This year I will be off To Uni in Winchester (fingers crossed) and my boyfriend has applied for Air Traffic Control College in Bournemouth. He drives and by car it's only about an hour away, but I do worry that it will be hard to adjust from being with each other all the time (we go to the same sixth form), to not seeing each other so much. Air Traffic Controller hours are shifts and can be unsociable, but i'm hoping that between my commitments and his, we'll be able to put aside time each week to spend together. I don't worry about him going astray whatsoever because we've been together a long time and I trust him 100%, however I do worry because he can be quite protective and i will be apprehensive about being friends with any guys in case it upsets him :/ We've talked about having a future together though, so I'm pretty sure we'll be able to work through it. I think it's harder the further away you are, really.