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Recently, broke up with boyfriend as we feel we're not ready yet and have different priorities. Is it weird to become close friends after?
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Weird? No. Uncommon? Yes.

Honestly, if you two are still friends, that's great! If you broke up, that doesn't mean you need to become strangers. If you dated, then you two clearly get along, and should remain as close friends. Perhaps one day you'll start dating again, and if not, you'll still have a good friendship!

The reason why you might think it's weird is because most people try to forget their ex exists. If the reason to why they broke up was arguing/cheating, obviously being friends after what happened is unlikely. However, you two simply aren't ready, so it's nothing weird!
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yep it is. and its hard. i tried. but i just ended up realising i still had feelings and the other person didnt. it just made things worse
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i always like to end on good terms with my girls because they are mental, the key your car, rocks at window, get their brother on you type. But sometimes they get even more enraged when I ask "let's be friends though" or something cos they think im patronising them. Almost like they wanna be angry, like being mad at me justifies their miserable existence or whatever. As a female, if you wanna actually be his friend, that's good. But like dont deceive yourself just in case he dont want you anymore.
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(Original post by Bang Outta Order)
i always like to end on good terms with my girls because they are mental, the key your car, rocks at window, get their brother on you type. But sometimes they get even more enraged when I ask "let's be friends though" or something cos they think im patronising them. Almost like they wanna be angry, like being mad at me justifies their miserable existence or whatever. As a female, if you wanna actually be his friend, that's good. But like dont deceive yourself just in case he dont want you anymore.
Oh dear that's actually scary
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(Original post by Aleks<3)
Oh dear that's actually scary
lol is it..? I always ended up fine, it's only a fist fight. *But of course Id rather not go thru that.
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Yeah its weird, but who tf cares if it is, if you wanna try then try
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it's uncommon usually. but it does happen. it just feels weird when you remember that at one point you were actually together and it can feel odd breaking that mould
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Recently, broke up with boyfriend as we feel we're not ready yet and have different priorities. Is it weird to become close friends after?
I see nothing wrong with that...
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I was with my ex for 4 years and we're still best friends, even though we broke up quite a while ago. There is no problem with it.
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It depends on your own take. If you are both comfortable with being mates and understand eventually you'll both have different partners and would feel happy for one another then fine.

I personally, would never ever become friends with an ex. I just don't have the capacity to find that normal. Shut the door on the stage of your life and move forward from it, imo.
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As others have said, it depends on the circumstances of your breakup, and how it was instigated. If there was cheating and other bad behaviour then tbh I'd rather just cut ties, but if you just fell out of love and slowly drifted apart as a couple then it could still be nice to meet up every now and again.

Being "best friends" with an ex can bring complications when one or both of you get into new relationships though. My parents split up four years ago, but other than no longer living together, it seems the same as it ever was. We go to my dad's for Christmas, we all go out with each other on birthdays and occasions etc - but I'm fairly sure that when either of them get a new partner this will no longer be possible.

When I split with my ex I agreed to stay friends but tbh I was only saving his feelings at the time, and it hasn't happened. To be honest, he hasn't even tried. I think maybe he was waiting for me to make the first move, but three years on it's not looking altogether promising!
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If the breakup was amicable then it's probably fine but it really depends on the person.
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My ex is one of my best friends but in fairness we didn't date for very long and I broke up with him because I realised dating felt weird and I preferred it as friends so I don't know if that really counts...
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Hey. I don't think so at all. Personally when myself and my ex broke up I couldn't talk to him for a while but as I moved on it became a lot easier to laugh about it and just appreciate the good memories you have with him Best wishes!
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It's not weird but does depend on why you broke up.
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(Original post by Bang Outta Order)
i always like to end on good terms with my girls because they are mental, the key your car, rocks at window, get their brother on you type.
Do you attract the wrong type or are you just good at really pissing them off?
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Do you attract the wrong type or are you just good at really pissing them off?
neither. things just happen. Id like to say I'm improving.
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It depends on individual people and how things ended with an ex. People tend to stay friends with exes if it was a mutual breakup. If someone was dumped though, it is unlikely as the person who was dumped would want to move on and forget about their ex.
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