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I can never be friends with an ex, for the foreseeable future.
A break-up can make you feel like you failed and you are unworthy of love.
That position is psychologically untenable and self-protection causes you to project those feelings onto the other as blame.
Anger seems easier to live with than grief.
Resist the Dark Side and embrace the positives.
As inevitable hurt subsides, the real bits of what you had still stand. Don't sweat it but if your former partner realises that too, - let them, because it will help what is important going forward: your capacity for open honest communication and self belief
I’m friends with none of my exes. We broke up, I cut them off, and I haven’t spoken to them since.
If I’m going to be honest with myself, there’s only one that I wish I were still in contact with, but that’s another story, and they aren’t exactly an ex.
However, I have a friend who opened up to me about one of his past relationships: an ex he was with for 4 years and who he has still remained friends with to this day.
I can tell he still likes her, and I can also tell he badly wants them to try again.
He claims it’s “purely platonic”, but his circumstances mirror mine, albeit I’m the dumper and he’s the dumpee.
It’s plain to see that the history they had, the time they shared, and the result of the break have had a serious effect on him, just how my break up did too, and still does.
My point being: It’s best to cut ties, think about yourself, heal, and move on.