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I feel like i never really get that close to me my own age and i'm probably happiest at home or basically alone. When i'm with people i tend to feel like the most boring person in the group. I do feel like I have fairly interesting interests but i feel like everyone finds me boring. I don't know if any of that was coherent ha ha rip
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Boring is subjective. To me, a fellow introvert, you sound like a fun person.
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I feel like i never really get that close to me my own age and i'm probably happiest at home or basically alone. When i'm with people i tend to feel like the most boring person in the group. I do feel like I have fairly interesting interests but i feel like everyone finds me boring. I don't know if any of that was coherent ha ha rip
I can completely sympathise and relate to this.
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I can completely sympathise and relate to this.
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well i guess that's good!?!
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Yep, just left a pres because the three other people were ranting about taking drugs and prostitution and crazy drug anecdotes while I, a humble introvert, had no interesting or crazy stories because all I do is sit at home binge watching fresh meat or playing tribal wars.
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Boring is boring, you can be a boring extrovert or a boring introvert. Extroverts can be more, I tend to find in a lot of extroverts they are more boring because under their personality and desire for being sociable there’s little to no substance. And some introverts are far from boring because under their lack of desire to be social, they have an entire hidden world of things you’d never expect.
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I hear ya. Other people aren't going to be interested in my video games or piano conversations when all they're talking about is their friends or a uni society or a party or something else that I can't relate to, so I'm just left sitting awkwardly not talking. Especially if there's too many people there, then I just clam up entirely

It doesn't help that my social skills are absolutely stunted due to having social anxiety and selective mutism growing up.
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Boring is boring, you can be a boring extrovert or a boring introvert. Extroverts can be more, I tend to find in a lot of extroverts they are more boring because under their personality and desire for being sociable there’s little to no substance. And some introverts are far from boring because under their lack of desire to be social, they have an entire hidden world of things you’d never expect.
that seems pretty insightful to me. I guess keeping people engaged in some random story tends to keep up the facade. I'm comforted by your analysis, let's hope I'm an interesting introvert in that case then.

Random question though, what constitutes an interesting person?
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I feel like i never really get that close to me my own age and i'm probably happiest at home or basically alone. When i'm with people i tend to feel like the most boring person in the group. I do feel like I have fairly interesting interests but i feel like everyone finds me boring. I don't know if any of that was coherent ha ha rip
I think being an introvert is the best thing, if people find you boring then its because they dont understand or relate to you. You just need to meet the right people.
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I hear ya. Other people aren't going to be interested in my video games or piano conversations when all they're talking about is their friends or a uni society or a party or something else that I can't relate to, so I'm just left sitting awkwardly not talking. Especially if there's too many people there, then I just clam up entirely

It doesn't help that my social skills are absolutely stunted due to having social anxiety and selective mutism growing up.
that's difficult. Piano is really cool. I play the cello and would talk to you about piano any day.
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that seems pretty insightful to me. I guess keeping people engaged in some random story tends to keep up the facade. I'm comforted by your analysis, let's hope I'm an interesting introvert in that case then.

Random question though, what constitutes an interesting person?
Just do you! Follow your ambitions, spend your time reading and being insightful, do interesting things alone, seek out opportunities, if you have any talents work on them, as much as I hate going out if I’m with the right people or going to the right place like a festival I’ll have the time of my life.

When people see that in some groups you have a great time, in your own time you do great stuff and spend time wisely, they’ll be intrigued at how disconnected/quite you are with them rather than see you as boring. Plus work on social skills, master the art of quality over quantity, you don’t have to socialise a lot but when you do, make sure it’s worthwhile. Sometimes speaking less says more than speaking a lot.
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Just do you! Follow your ambitions, spend your time reading and being insightful, do interesting things alone, seek out opportunities, if you have any talents work on them, as much as I hate going out if I’m with the right people or going to the right place like a festival I’ll have the time of my life.

When people see that in some groups you have a great time, in your own time you do great stuff and spend time wisely, they’ll be intrigued at how disconnected/quite you are with them rather than see you as boring. Plus work on social skills, master the art of quality over quantity, you don’t have to socialise a lot but when you do, make sure it’s worthwhile. Sometimes speaking less says more than speaking a lot.
thank you i will bare all that i mind and read lots of books, i like that. You've got so many insights you must really have taken your own advice . I think that's really cool.
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I've met plenty of extroverts full of boring stories and too much time to tell it to you
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I feel like i never really get that close to me my own age and i'm probably happiest at home or basically alone. When i'm with people i tend to feel like the most boring person in the group. I do feel like I have fairly interesting interests but i feel like everyone finds me boring. I don't know if any of that was coherent ha ha rip
I can relate. I've recently been called a weirdo/saddo by my flatmates because I like music from the 70s and 80s. I also get called boring for my interests in TV shows and movies etc., for preferring nights in to nights out. Just don't let it get to you - keep doing your own thing and it'll work out for you. You'll be more miserable if you try to fake your interests just to be around people.
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to young extroverted people - introverted people can be a bit boring
to young introverted people - extroverted people can be a bit boring

I say 'young' because generally as people get older they learn the bennifit of having friends who are introverted and extroverted...

To an extrovert, yes an introvert can be a bit boring - the things they find fun... highly social interaction, going out, meeting new people, etc. all are not what the introvert likes
To an introvert, the extrovert can be a bit boring - often what they like lacks depth and meaning.. its a constant seeking for new experiances, and meeting new people, but it can all feel hollow and boring. etc.

-- in reality you just need to be able to manage both, even if you are happier one way or the other. If you can't handle both, when required, you will have problems in life.

An introvert needs to learn how to be extroverted when required.. they may never learn to 'like it' - but they need to be able to do it, and succeed with it to a good enough degree that it doesnt cause them problems.. Especially so that they don't loose out on networking/career progression, and social oppertunities/relationships etc.

An extroverted person needs to learn how to be introverted, so that they can deal with the propper maintainance of close relationships over time.. they need to learn to spend in depth and long periods of time with one or a very small group of people - it will be crucial when they advance in their career, and especially when they want a succesful marriage and family.
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you might be boring, but it has nothing to do with being introverted. many (if not most) comedians are introverted yet still manage to make people laugh; it's just when they're not working they like to be alone with themselves and quiet. they don't need a big group of friends.

OP the easiest way to make people interested in you is to show interest in them. people are obsessed with themselves and their own opinions, so i would suggest making more of an effort this way. you don't have to entertain them, you just have to act like they are entertaining you.
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I feel like i never really get that close to me my own age and i'm probably happiest at home or basically alone. When i'm with people i tend to feel like the most boring person in the group. I do feel like I have fairly interesting interests but i feel like everyone finds me boring. I don't know if any of that was coherent ha ha rip
I think the main problem is that you haven't found a pleasant company that can share your interests. Being introverted doesn't also mean being lonesome and awkward all the time, such a person has more specific interests, he's not always optimistic and happy in the trivial situations but he values the deep moments; there's a tendency showing that introverts are often more creative, but it's also highly subjective. However, being introvert myself, I find the meetings in a circle of other introverts an amusing experience of unusual conversations, listening to some nerdy music, such as jazz and art rock, and even painting eerie images that depict hidden corners of our souls. But, of course, introverts can be boring and unimaginative: then you should find yourself, reveal your potential, catch and keep that crucial energy that makes you move forward, not backward.
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I can relate. I've recently been called a weirdo/saddo by my flatmates because I like music from the 70s and 80s. I also get called boring for my interests in TV shows and movies etc., for preferring nights in to nights out. Just don't let it get to you - keep doing your own thing and it'll work out for you. You'll be more miserable if you try to fake your interests just to be around people.
My applause for the 70s and 80s. I also like the 50s and the 60s, well then, why not the Roaring Twenties? Diving into old epochs mesmerizes me. I also adore classical music, I can listen to Bach and Handel for days, and when my mind goes even further (away into the past) and I randomly tell my friends, "I was listening to Henry Purcell this evening", the majority of them just silently smile. The same is with books, my main preferences start from the 18th century and end in the 20th, though I also read Antiquity and Medieval literature. Those things kind of make me an introvert; though I can be incredibly outgoing and cheerful, in the company of modern pop music and (contemporary) pulp fiction fans, "I'm a creep, I'm a weirdo"... :hat:
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Introverts have always been a mystery to me
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My applause for the 70s and 80s. I also like the 50s and the 60s, well then, why not the Roaring Twenties? Diving into old epochs mesmerizes me. I also adore classical music, I can listen to Bach and Handel for days, and when my mind goes even further (away into the past) and I randomly tell my friends, "I was listening to Henry Purcell this evening", the majority of them just silently smile. The same is with books, my main preferences start from the 18th century and end in the 20th, though I also read Antiquity and Medieval literature. Those things kind of make me an introvert; though I can be incredibly outgoing and cheerful, in the company of modern pop music and (contemporary) pulp fiction fans, "I'm a creep, I'm a weirdo"... :hat:
Ngl you sound really awesome. What books are your favourite
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