I have this stupid problem of always relying on a guy to be happy. Its something I always knew my older sister did and I thought it was stupid and I was nothing like that. But I catch myself doing it all the time.
I was in a relationship for 3 years - much longer than I should have been all because I relied on him so much I was procrastinating the break up. Then I was only single for 2 months before I started flirting, dating etc again and after I was no longer satisfied with one guy I'd move onto the next. Then I got into a serious relationship again and after that I swore I was going to be single for awhile and focus on uni and my life and such. Well somehow within only a month of that break up my long time guy friend became a bit more than friends and we started fooling around. I came to realise recently I had real feelings for him and we're going on a 'romantic' trip together in 2 weeks.
I've struggled with depression for years and I don't have many girl friends, they tend to fade after a year or we live fairly far apart and dont see each other much. And I have hobbies I guess but part of my problem I think is I've always felt being with that special someone was always more fun than any of my hobbies, so when I start to feel lonely I feel like I have nothing.
I know I shouldn't connect my happiness with a guy and I also know I shouldn't just avoid relationships all together as a solution, so I guess Im just asking if anyone used to do the same thing and is better at it now or how to watch for boundaries that I might be crossing?