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how do i stop being such a prude

i get flustered so goddamn easily at everything

last week i was shopping with my family and i couldn't stop feeling embarrassed when i was looking at all the lingerie

i feel so uncomfortable around people kissing but i also can't stop staring because i find it so weird. like i want to leave the room/wish they would go away but it's just unusual

watching intimate scenes between couples makes me uncomfortable. i can't flirt and i don't like it when people flirt back

i hate being hugged/hugging other people. it's so awkward but i know why people do that so i just deal with it. i have a friend at school who hugs me sometimes and expects one back and i'm so uncomfortable with it but obviously i don't want to tell her that it's too petty and impolite

is it just me who feels so discomforted by these things? i think this is quite common but i don't know. public affection makes me feel disgusted and i don't know why i'm reacting this way

i've never watched porn before and my parents are very strict anyway which could justify this

but how do i chill i'm 16 now and i want to loosen up
Firstly, you shouldn't feel under pressure to like or do anything you are not comfortable with. Some people are very physical in showing their feelings and others aren't; it's just the way things are. You are not a prude, because some of the examples you give are not sexual.
However, it is easier to get through life if you don't feel uncomfortable being close to people. Try to take small steps. If your friend gives a hug, take it as a compliment. Try shaking hands with adults that you meet. It's difficult to give any more advice without knowing your circumstances but remember, whether something is good or bad depends entirely on your opinion. The more that you can come into contact with people and push any thoughts that it is wrong to the back of your mind, the easier it gets. Remember, physical contact is perfectly natural. It doesn't have to be sexual in any way (think of rugby players in a scrum!) It's just a way of showing friendship.
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Original post by Anonymous
i get flustered so goddamn easily at everything

last week i was shopping with my family and i couldn't stop feeling embarrassed when i was looking at all the lingerie

i feel so uncomfortable around people kissing but i also can't stop staring because i find it so weird. like i want to leave the room/wish they would go away but it's just unusual

watching intimate scenes between couples makes me uncomfortable. i can't flirt and i don't like it when people flirt back

i hate being hugged/hugging other people. it's so awkward but i know why people do that so i just deal with it. i have a friend at school who hugs me sometimes and expects one back and i'm so uncomfortable with it but obviously i don't want to tell her that it's too petty and impolite

is it just me who feels so discomforted by these things? i think this is quite common but i don't know. public affection makes me feel disgusted and i don't know why i'm reacting this way

i've never watched porn before and my parents are very strict anyway which could justify this

but how do i chill i'm 16 now and i want to loosen up


You're 16. Give yourself a break. Some people don't like public displays of affection, and some people just don't like being hugged by friends. There's nothing wrong with you. You will most likely become a little less embarrassed with sexual matters as you mature.
Original post by Anonymous
i get flustered so goddamn easily at everything

last week i was shopping with my family and i couldn't stop feeling embarrassed when i was looking at all the lingerie

i feel so uncomfortable around people kissing but i also can't stop staring because i find it so weird. like i want to leave the room/wish they would go away but it's just unusual

watching intimate scenes between couples makes me uncomfortable. i can't flirt and i don't like it when people flirt back

i hate being hugged/hugging other people. it's so awkward but i know why people do that so i just deal with it. i have a friend at school who hugs me sometimes and expects one back and i'm so uncomfortable with it but obviously i don't want to tell her that it's too petty and impolite

is it just me who feels so discomforted by these things? i think this is quite common but i don't know. public affection makes me feel disgusted and i don't know why i'm reacting this way

i've never watched porn before and my parents are very strict anyway which could justify this

but how do i chill i'm 16 now and i want to loosen up

Did you know that sex is fun? I ask that seriously.

Feeling "dirty" with someone you trust is a liberating experience. Admit to yourself your human nature. There's nothing unusual about being a sexual person in appropriate circumstances. Human beings are mammals that find pleasure in sexual experiences. When you felt embarrassed looking at the lingerie, can you imagine how sexy you'd feel if you were wearing it in front of a guy you wanted to share your bushing, naughty fantasies with? That embarrassment could be so hot as opposed to "wrong". What you're feeling isn't incorrect, you're just not seeing how it could be interpreted differently.

I've turned myself on now. Looks like it's time to find a mirror to make out with.
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Go to my local... you develop skin like a rhino.

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