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I am an Asexual - Ask Me Anything!

As you are likely not aware, this week (21st-27th October 2018) is Asexual Awareness Week. As for what asexuality is, I have written a handy article here for those who have never heard the term before. Basically, asexuals are people who do not experience sexual attraction to other people.

I am an asexual myself and so I invite you to ‘ask me anything’ and get your questions answered! I will however reserve the right to not fully answer any very personal questions, but I will endeavour to answer every question somewhat satisfactorily.

Ask away!
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What’s your favourite type of yogurt?

HA! Beat you MR
Original post by Andrew97
What’s your favourite type of yogurt?

HA! Beat you MR

Either Greek style yoghurt with a dash of honey, or those little fromage frais pots you can get for about 50p in the supermarket.

(Hello Mr Infrastructure Secretary :tongue: )
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Would you would ever want to have a child?
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Do you think you belong in the LGBT community?
Original post by Muudeey
Would you would ever want to have a child?

A good question. At present I don't think I would, but I'm open to the possiblity of changing my mind in the future.
Original post by iseesparksfly
Do you think you belong in the LGBT community?

Personally, no. Whilst the LGBT community celebrates alternate sexualities, I still view it as a celebration of sexuality - that is, in the sense of the experience of sexual attraction in a way that doesn't fit the heterosexual norm, but still the experience of sexual attraction. For this reason I feel that there is a slight distance between that overarching community and the asexual community.
So u don’t get a boner from watching porn??
Original post by Tootles
I was wondering what week it was. To me it's just the start of my fourth cig-free week, but I guess it's different things to different people.

Serious question: why am I supposed to care about (or be aware of) what someone else does or doesn't do in bed? If there's an ace awareness week, why isn't there a steak awareness week, or a socks-with-sandals awareness week?

The point of Asexual Awareness Week is to show that we exist as a community and to explain what we're about, with the aim of having fewer people look at us confused when we tell people what we are. Perhaps more importantly in my view, raising awareness may help people who feel different in this way to realise that they are asexual, that they're not alone and that there's a community out there just like them. I have heard several stories of asexual people thinking they were 'broken' and even forced to go to therapy by their school/partner etc. before they realised that they weren't alone in being this way.

I suppose the key difference is that I know what steak and socks-with-sandals are, as do the vast majority of people. Asexuality just does not have that kind of exposure!
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Original post by Anonymous
So u don’t get a boner from watching porn??

That's right :smile:

(Glossing over the fact that I'm a female, of course)
I notice you say you're 'an Asexual'... why do you not say that you are Asexual? Would I be wrong to identify as Asexual rather than 'an' Asexual?
Original post by Tootles
To be honest it's really quite hard to not be scathing and dismissive when it's always something awareness week. If we were to put as much effort into being aware of all the things people want us to be aware of, as they want us to, we'd have no time to get on with our lives.

I certainly understand that, but I also know that a little bit of information can go a long way :smile:
Original post by CatusStarbright


(Glossing over the fact that I'm a female, of course)

I laughed way too hard at this.
Original post by CatusStarbright
I certainly understand that, but I also know that a little bit of information can go a long way :smile:
Some people aren't attracted to people and/or aren't interested in sexual pleasure. Got it.

How far can that information get me, though?
Original post by Tootles
Some people aren't attracted to people and/or aren't interested in sexual pleasure. Got it.

How far can that information get me, though?

It means that if anyone ever tells you that they are asexual, you will understand the basics of what that means already which to the asexual will be a novel and welcome experience.
Do you understand the difference between being an asexual and being shy? :biggrin:
This might be a stupid question, but how did you know you are asexual and it's not just that you haven't met "the right person" yet?
Original post by BFG9000
Do you understand the difference between being an asexual and being shy? :biggrin:

They are not opposing concepts, a person can be asexual and shy or asexual and bold (and anything in between). I'm not entirely sure what you're asking specifically.
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Original post by CatusStarbright
As you are likely not aware, this week (21st-27th October 2018) is Asexual Awareness Week. As for what asexuality is, I have written a handy article here for those who have never heard the term before. Basically, asexuals are people who do not experience sexual attraction to other people.

I am an asexual myself and so I invite you to ‘ask me anything’ and get your questions answered! I will however reserve the right to not fully answer any very personal questions, but I will endeavour to answer every question somewhat satisfactorily.

Ask away!

Do you get romantically attracted to people?

Original post by Tootles
To me it's just the start of my fourth cig-free week

CoNgRaTuLaTiOnS:party:
Original post by ab173
Do you get romantically attracted to people?

Yes, I'm currently of the opinion that I am heteroromantic.
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Original post by CatusStarbright
Personally, no. Whilst the LGBT community celebrates alternate sexualities, I still view it as a celebration of sexuality - that is, in the sense of the experience of sexual attraction in a way that doesn't fit the heterosexual norm, but still the experience of sexual attraction. For this reason I feel that there is a slight distance between that overarching community and the asexual community.


I agree, I think we Asexuals are our own community with Aces, Aros, Grey's and others like that included.

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