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Self-harm
I really want to self harm... but i'm too scared.
I was reading up on a website prior to this and realised that this:
is exactly how i feel... i did post a previous thread saying how i didnt feel like i was "alive" and no matter what i do, i can't make myself feel happy.
I'll post more later if anyone actually bothers to reply.
I was reading up on a website prior to this and realised that this:
Others may injure themselves in order to feel something and know that they are real and alive
is exactly how i feel... i did post a previous thread saying how i didnt feel like i was "alive" and no matter what i do, i can't make myself feel happy.
I'll post more later if anyone actually bothers to reply.
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Reply 1
I can realte to this.
Been suffering from depression for like few months now and i keep having these re-occuring thoughts of self harming when i'm really down. And i have come to close to doing it before but i no i'll regret if i do but i want to.
Do you feel like your invisible to people then?
Been suffering from depression for like few months now and i keep having these re-occuring thoughts of self harming when i'm really down. And i have come to close to doing it before but i no i'll regret if i do but i want to.
Do you feel like your invisible to people then?
Reply 2
15
call the samaritans or NHS direct. you'll be able to talk through your feelings with them in confidence
self harm is addictive and hurts others around you more than you realise. it's not the solution to your problems, trust me.
self harm is addictive and hurts others around you more than you realise. it's not the solution to your problems, trust me.
Reply 3
Anonymous
I can realte to this.
Been suffering from depression for like few months now and i keep having these re-occuring thoughts of self harming when i'm really down. And i have come to close to doing it before but i no i'll regret if i do but i want to.
Do you feel like your invisible to people then?
Been suffering from depression for like few months now and i keep having these re-occuring thoughts of self harming when i'm really down. And i have come to close to doing it before but i no i'll regret if i do but i want to.
Do you feel like your invisible to people then?
I just have noone to talk to at school. I don't socialise or talk to anyone because i've tried and i get ignored. I know people may say "join a club/society" but that isn't me. I get this weird sensation that i don't exist physically, especially when i am in a social enviorement.
Reply 4
lazza
call the samaritans or NHS direct. you'll be able to talk through your feelings with them in confidence
self harm is addictive and hurts others around you more than you realise. it's not the solution to your problems, trust me.
self harm is addictive and hurts others around you more than you realise. it's not the solution to your problems, trust me.
I have emailed the Samaritans a lot in the past but they just keep asking the same questions and i don't know what to say anymore.
Reply 5
lazza
call the samaritans or NHS direct. you'll be able to talk through your feelings with them in confidence
self harm is addictive and hurts others around you more than you realise. it's not the solution to your problems, trust me.
self harm is addictive and hurts others around you more than you realise. it's not the solution to your problems, trust me.
I have emailed the Samaritans a lot in the past but they just keep asking the same questions and i don't know what to say anymore.
Reply 6
Anonymous
I just have noone to talk to at school. I don't socialise or talk to anyone because i've tried and i get ignored. I know people may say "join a club/society" but that isn't me. I get this weird sensation that i don't exist physically, especially when i am in a social enviorement.
Have you tried a teacher at school?
Maybe one with the subject you enjoy or the head of year?
I tried this and it really has helped me as i find my counseller to be pretty rubbish as i find it hard to open up to her.
Have you seen a GP or anyone?
Reply 7
15
unfortunatly as partonising as this may sound, you need to talk to someone. self harm isn't going to make you feel like being sociable, it'll only distance you more
as much as joining a club "isn't you", you sound like you want to make friends, so perhaps you need to make that effort. it might not be what you feel like doing, but it's a much better and easier solution than what you're contemplating
as much as joining a club "isn't you", you sound like you want to make friends, so perhaps you need to make that effort. it might not be what you feel like doing, but it's a much better and easier solution than what you're contemplating
Reply 8
this will sound blunt, and perhaps even stupid, but GO OUTSIDE.
Everyone i know who used to cut spent way to much time indoors, and i think you just forget theres a world out there
Everyone i know who used to cut spent way to much time indoors, and i think you just forget theres a world out there
Reply 9
Anonymous
Have you tried a teacher at school?
Maybe one with the subject you enjoy or the head of year?
I tried this and it really has helped me as i find my counseller to be pretty rubbish as i find it hard to open up to her.
Have you seen a GP or anyone?
Maybe one with the subject you enjoy or the head of year?
I tried this and it really has helped me as i find my counseller to be pretty rubbish as i find it hard to open up to her.
Have you seen a GP or anyone?
I've seen noone.
I don't think i'm the type of person who would ask someone for help - on the outside i seem bright and confident but on the inside i'm falling apart.
Reply 10
15
Anonymous
I have emailed the Samaritans a lot in the past but they just keep asking the same questions and i don't know what to say anymore.
have you tried ringing? i don't really believe emails have the same effect
Reply 11
Do not self-harm under any circumstances.
It will seriously ruin your life. It is addictive and uncontrollable, you might end up in a hospital locked away. I've seen people that started self-harming, they now sit on a chair during the day, being immobile and at night they get strapped to their bed.
It's a horrific thought, it's not worth it to pay that price.
You're not alone, many people get that feeling, but you should never self-harm under any circumstances. Call a helpline or go see someone about it, it's all confidential.
If you're not a socialising person then joining a club or society will probably not do much unless you want to socialize.
You have to figure out what you want, talking to your family would be a start. Spend some time with your cousins, brothers/sisters or other people that you can relate to.
That is only a short-term solution. If you have problems socialising then you need to have appointments and a psychologist will have to help you solve your problems.
Please go and see your parents about it, they'll most probably arrange everything for you, or see another adult that you completely trust if you don't want to talk to your parents about it. I hope this helped, make sure you get it sorted out.
Regards,
Sir Rogers
It will seriously ruin your life. It is addictive and uncontrollable, you might end up in a hospital locked away. I've seen people that started self-harming, they now sit on a chair during the day, being immobile and at night they get strapped to their bed.
It's a horrific thought, it's not worth it to pay that price.
You're not alone, many people get that feeling, but you should never self-harm under any circumstances. Call a helpline or go see someone about it, it's all confidential.
If you're not a socialising person then joining a club or society will probably not do much unless you want to socialize.
You have to figure out what you want, talking to your family would be a start. Spend some time with your cousins, brothers/sisters or other people that you can relate to.
That is only a short-term solution. If you have problems socialising then you need to have appointments and a psychologist will have to help you solve your problems.
Please go and see your parents about it, they'll most probably arrange everything for you, or see another adult that you completely trust if you don't want to talk to your parents about it. I hope this helped, make sure you get it sorted out.
Regards,
Sir Rogers
Reply 12
Anonymous
I've seen noone.
I don't think i'm the type of person who would ask someone for help - on the outside i seem bright and confident but on the inside i'm falling apart.
I don't think i'm the type of person who would ask someone for help - on the outside i seem bright and confident but on the inside i'm falling apart.
I no this is easier said than done and people have told me this before.
But try it. Find someone who you think you trust and just tell theM. I did this and they got worried that they got my parents involved as i wasnt talking to them about it and i got an appoinment with the gp. and i dreaded it but serously it will help.
Reply 13
14
lazza
self harm isn't going to make you feel like being sociable, it'll only distance you more
self harm is addictive and hurts others around you more than you realise.
Agreed with both of these. And with the hurting other people - this is very true. I didn't realise this was an issue (as such) for a friend of mine until he told me that he just couldn't deal with my behaviour (self harm & the clinginess)
Reply 14
Anonymous
I've seen noone.
I don't think i'm the type of person who would ask someone for help - on the outside i seem bright and confident but on the inside i'm falling apart.
I don't think i'm the type of person who would ask someone for help - on the outside i seem bright and confident but on the inside i'm falling apart.
well ok. You definately can't talk to your parents or a teacher then as it looks, it's a personality issue and you need to get appointments with a counsellor who will be a 100% confidential. You have to talk to him and he will help you out. Your school should have a school counsellor, which should be a good point to start if his office is not in the main hall, the office is normally located at a place that is not crowded during the day and you should be able to get there without running the risk of ruining your "public image".
Reply 15
This isnt the answer to your problems, its a habit even an addiction and its as hard to kick, once your start you need to do it again and again
i would definately try and talk to someone, anyone a friend you can trust not to judge and critisise you, someone that isnt in your immediate family that you can easily talk to.
i think the main thing is to make sure that you stop the cyle of self harming and you are the only one that can so this, it takes will power and strength, all of which may seem like you dont have, but trust me you do, when you get over this you will realise how strong a person you really are, and that you can cope with your problems and devise your own coping stratagies.
it could be helpfull to see a councilor pop to the GP and talk through your problems they will know what to do!
i hope it works out for you!
i would definately try and talk to someone, anyone a friend you can trust not to judge and critisise you, someone that isnt in your immediate family that you can easily talk to.
i think the main thing is to make sure that you stop the cyle of self harming and you are the only one that can so this, it takes will power and strength, all of which may seem like you dont have, but trust me you do, when you get over this you will realise how strong a person you really are, and that you can cope with your problems and devise your own coping stratagies.
it could be helpfull to see a councilor pop to the GP and talk through your problems they will know what to do!
i hope it works out for you!
Reply 16
I've self harmed for seven years.
Its not fun, its not something to chose to do and its hell to try and stop.
Please think it through.
Its not fun, its not something to chose to do and its hell to try and stop.
Please think it through.
Reply 17
Anonymous
I've seen noone.
I don't think i'm the type of person who would ask someone for help - on the outside i seem bright and confident but on the inside i'm falling apart.
I don't think i'm the type of person who would ask someone for help - on the outside i seem bright and confident but on the inside i'm falling apart.
you should see somebody. Seriously.. alot of people seem happy on the outside but are tering apart inside.. I had a complete breakdown in November, none of my house mates even knew i was upset!! they have all been really supportive since though.. anyone you tell, will understand, and they wont think any less of you.
In terms of self-harm, its a cycle thats easy to fall into and very hard to get out of. I have had thoughts of self-harm pretty much every day for the past year... i control it, in my own way, by giving myself piercings (temporary or permanent) with professional medical grade needles. While this is still not healthy behaviour it is at least safe and controlled to some extent.. though you need to try all you can from stopping yourself in the first place.
Another way to avoid self-harm is exercise. Go for a run.. by pushing yourself physically you can get that adrenaline boost and feel alive while increasing your health and fitness.
take care xx
Reply 18
14
Anonymous
I've seen noone.
I don't think i'm the type of person who would ask someone for help - on the outside i seem bright and confident but on the inside i'm falling apart.
I don't think i'm the type of person who would ask someone for help - on the outside i seem bright and confident but on the inside i'm falling apart.
is there no-one you can just talk to? I don't mean help, I mean just chat.
Reply 19
Sir Rogers
well ok. You definately can't talk to your parents or a teacher then as it looks, it's a personality issue and you need to get appointments with a counsellor who will be a 100% confidential. You have to talk to him and he will help you out. Your school should have a school counsellor, which should be a good point to start if his office is not in the main hall, the office is normally located at a place that is not crowded during the day and you should be able to get there without running the risk of ruining your "public image".
This is the honest truth:
This girl i know was abused by her father. He used to threaten her with knives and beat her. She told a councellor who reported her father. Then, he was phoned up telling her than he had been reported by her and now she gets locked outside her house every other night and gets it even worse than before...
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