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Anonymous
This is the honest truth:
This girl i know was abused by her father. He used to threaten her with knives and beat her. She told a councellor who reported her father. Then, he was phoned up telling her than he had been reported by her and now she gets locked outside her house every other night and gets it even worse than before...
This girl i know was abused by her father. He used to threaten her with knives and beat her. She told a councellor who reported her father. Then, he was phoned up telling her than he had been reported by her and now she gets locked outside her house every other night and gets it even worse than before...
The counceller shouldnt have reported him without the girls permission should he/
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Titch89
is there no-one you can just talk to? I don't mean help, I mean just chat.
There is noone.
it might be really hard for you to do but try and see a dr. self harm is something i have struggle with for a long time and i find it difficult to talk to my friends and family about it because of the negative associations/ taboos associated with it. Like you people dont know im upset, its something that i bottle up, but as i am gradually learning, talking helps and asking people for support isnt a bad thing! If youre worried about how people will react go see a GP. They will talk things through with you from a more informed point of view nd talk about steps you can take to help your current situation. They wont tell anyone, and they wont judge you.
Good luck, OP.
Good luck, OP.
I have gone through all the things you have gone through, and I still am.
Let me give you an insight; first of all me telling you email X person is going to do you no good. What you need is someone who actually cares and would speak to you and enable you to make you feel better about yourself.
My problems started at a young age. When I was in year 4 precise. I wont bore you with my stories but frankly speaking from my experience, ( I am now 19 years old) and have suffered from intense depression all my life. Sometimes it could be worse sometimes I could be happy.
I am not even going to anon myself to tell you that I self harmed, yes I self harmed. I did it and I am not proud of it . But it took me around 4 years to give up this deadly addiction.
You say ...
I had nobody to talk to at school either. I had no friends. I was self harming every day to let that pain out and boy did it feel good. But only at that point later on I wanted more and more and more. I am not even going to tell you about samaritans they are rubbish or nhs or anything. I went down all that road suicide, self harm, self hate, depression and it has scarred me for life, but it doesnt mean it cannot be treated.
I feel ignored, rejected, I feel like an outsider. I have never had any friends who are real, it has been me making plans and always running after people, buying expensive presents for every single person who I thought was my friend! I regret big time.
I took councelling when I was 16. It helped me, I didnt have the guts to go and speak to anyone, but I felt constant misery inside and felt like rubbish and it helps to to know that you are getting helped.
After 5-6 years I have my first appointment with a councellor tommorow, I am **** scared, nervous, anxious but in my mind I am telling myself " I NEED help otherwise I will end up harming again and I dont want my future to be ruined".
Self harming helps you temporarily trust me. But all the scars it leaves on you is one things that you regret. Till this day after years of quitting self harming , I still have scars on my arms and people often ask me " did you self harm", and I have to always come up with some lame excuse. Its not easy the after effects are terrible. I am frankly sick and tired of telling everyone my excuses , I want to shout " yes I use to self harm what are you going to do about it ?" . Its a sensitive topic for me , my scars remind me of my terrible past I hate it.
I really advice you to not do it . Please dont do it. But then its easy for me to say, I really feel we need to discuss the root of this problem and whats causing you to feel this way. I know self harming was an issue in my life but I didnt work on the underlying problems that I still live with today.
Tommorow I am going to a councellor, and to start of with I am taking a list of things that I have noted that are having a terrible impact on my life and from their you will know how to talk to someone.
But what is causing all this pain in specific?
Sorry for my ramble I am just so sensitive to this topic.
Let me give you an insight; first of all me telling you email X person is going to do you no good. What you need is someone who actually cares and would speak to you and enable you to make you feel better about yourself.
My problems started at a young age. When I was in year 4 precise. I wont bore you with my stories but frankly speaking from my experience, ( I am now 19 years old) and have suffered from intense depression all my life. Sometimes it could be worse sometimes I could be happy.
I am not even going to anon myself to tell you that I self harmed, yes I self harmed. I did it and I am not proud of it . But it took me around 4 years to give up this deadly addiction.
You say ...
I just have noone to talk to at school. I don't socialise or talk to anyone because i've tried and i get ignored. I know people may say "join a club/society" but that isn't me. I get this weird sensation that i don't exist physically, especially when i am in a social enviorement.
I had nobody to talk to at school either. I had no friends. I was self harming every day to let that pain out and boy did it feel good. But only at that point later on I wanted more and more and more. I am not even going to tell you about samaritans they are rubbish or nhs or anything. I went down all that road suicide, self harm, self hate, depression and it has scarred me for life, but it doesnt mean it cannot be treated.
I feel ignored, rejected, I feel like an outsider. I have never had any friends who are real, it has been me making plans and always running after people, buying expensive presents for every single person who I thought was my friend! I regret big time.
I took councelling when I was 16. It helped me, I didnt have the guts to go and speak to anyone, but I felt constant misery inside and felt like rubbish and it helps to to know that you are getting helped.
After 5-6 years I have my first appointment with a councellor tommorow, I am **** scared, nervous, anxious but in my mind I am telling myself " I NEED help otherwise I will end up harming again and I dont want my future to be ruined".
Self harming helps you temporarily trust me. But all the scars it leaves on you is one things that you regret. Till this day after years of quitting self harming , I still have scars on my arms and people often ask me " did you self harm", and I have to always come up with some lame excuse. Its not easy the after effects are terrible. I am frankly sick and tired of telling everyone my excuses , I want to shout " yes I use to self harm what are you going to do about it ?" . Its a sensitive topic for me , my scars remind me of my terrible past I hate it.
I really advice you to not do it . Please dont do it. But then its easy for me to say, I really feel we need to discuss the root of this problem and whats causing you to feel this way. I know self harming was an issue in my life but I didnt work on the underlying problems that I still live with today.
Tommorow I am going to a councellor, and to start of with I am taking a list of things that I have noted that are having a terrible impact on my life and from their you will know how to talk to someone.
But what is causing all this pain in specific?
Sorry for my ramble I am just so sensitive to this topic.
Anonymous
This is the honest truth:
This girl i know was abused by her father. He used to threaten her with knives and beat her. She told a councellor who reported her father. Then, he was phoned up telling her than he had been reported by her and now she gets locked outside her house every other night and gets it even worse than before...
This girl i know was abused by her father. He used to threaten her with knives and beat her. She told a councellor who reported her father. Then, he was phoned up telling her than he had been reported by her and now she gets locked outside her house every other night and gets it even worse than before...
Human beings aren't perfect, we all know that.
This was not the girl's fault, nor the councellors, they both did the right thing.
Local authorities failed to do their job in one way or another, but yes the councellor should not have done it without her agreement.
I've been to a councellor before, as I've had serious trouble sorting myself out when my father died. I thought it was nonsense at the time and I didn't think it would do me any good, but I had some good will and gave it a try. I didn't think much of it, and I really don't know how, but it helped.
Please do speak to someone and let me give you some advice so that you can ensure that the councellor will not contact your parents:
1) Make sure you clarify that you haven't inflicted any harm yet to yourself, you've only been thinking about it. This tells the councellor that he does not have to contact your parents immediately, but he will get you to see him regularily and report to him. Normally a councellor shouldn't contact the parents anyway, just in case make sure you do this.
2) Ensure that you are not thinking about harming other people, due to the fact that they ignore you, it's a minor thing, but it might come up. As long as you're no danger to yourself or to anyone around you at the point of time the councellor should remain passive.
And even if he told your parents, believe me, and I swear so help me God, you'd be better of getting embarassed by your parents than having to live with an addiction that destroys your body for the rest of your life, because the scars will go deeper and depper and they will not just go away.
You will be marked for the rest of your life, which is not a good thing.
Em_maK
http://www.recoveryourlife.com/
Check it out.
Check it out.
Oh I remember that website! I used it a lot ages ago!
But at the end of the day the OP- has to be willing to get help within we can all advice her do this do that, but she needs to be mentally ready to actually want that help.
Anonymous.
I am not even going to anon myself to tell you that I self harmed, yes I self harmed. I did it and I am not proud of it . But it took me around 4 years to give up this deadly addiction.
You say ...
I took councelling when I was 16. It helped me, I didnt have the guts to go and speak to anyone, but I felt constant misery inside and felt like rubbish and it helps to to know that you are getting helped.
After 5-6 years I have my first appointment with a councellor tommorow, I am **** scared, nervous, anxious but in my mind I am telling myself " I NEED help otherwise I will end up harming again and I dont want my future to be ruined".
Self harming helps you temporarily trust me. But all the scars it leaves on you is one things that you regret. Till this day after years of quitting self harming , I still have scars on my arms and people often ask me " did you self harm", and I have to always come up with some lame excuse. Its not easy the after effects are terrible. I am frankly sick and tired of telling everyone my excuses , I want to shout " yes I use to self harm what are you going to do about it ?" . Its a sensitive topic for me , my scars remind me of my terrible past I hate it.
You say ...
I took councelling when I was 16. It helped me, I didnt have the guts to go and speak to anyone, but I felt constant misery inside and felt like rubbish and it helps to to know that you are getting helped.
After 5-6 years I have my first appointment with a councellor tommorow, I am **** scared, nervous, anxious but in my mind I am telling myself " I NEED help otherwise I will end up harming again and I dont want my future to be ruined".
Self harming helps you temporarily trust me. But all the scars it leaves on you is one things that you regret. Till this day after years of quitting self harming , I still have scars on my arms and people often ask me " did you self harm", and I have to always come up with some lame excuse. Its not easy the after effects are terrible. I am frankly sick and tired of telling everyone my excuses , I want to shout " yes I use to self harm what are you going to do about it ?" . Its a sensitive topic for me , my scars remind me of my terrible past I hate it.
Well thank you ever so much for standing up. This is exactly what I was going on about, it completely ruins your life and you don't want it to happen, especially since the scars don't heal away once you get into it.
Anon no.1...Ive just set up a new forum designed specifically for people to just go on, rant about whatever they want and get advice from people who know how you're feeling. If you want to join, the link is in my sig. You're more than welcome.
Don't worry i'm not going to suggest "help" although i think it is good idea. My friend used to self-harm and she hated the word.
Just stop and think
Think about why you are doing it
If something is sparking this how can you control this some thing
Listen to happy music every time you tempted my my friend found it alot easier not to cut herself while listening MIKA
Just stop and think
Think about why you are doing it
If something is sparking this how can you control this some thing
Listen to happy music every time you tempted my my friend found it alot easier not to cut herself while listening MIKA
Sir Rogers
Well thank you ever so much for standing up. This is exactly what I was going on about, it completely ruins your life and you don't want it to happen, especially since the scars don't heal away once you get into it.
Thats alright
I just dont want to see anyone suffer as much as I did. I want people to be happy, I hate seeing people unhappy. Unless they truly are vile people who hurt other people for no purpose such as bullies.
But I have learnt in life you dont really get what you always want, unless you work hard enough to get it.
Im not upset to say I have tried self harm or suicide. It just happens
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