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my brother(20) is an addict and he hits me sometimes. my mom knows and yet does not kick him out. should i move out? Im 17
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my brother(20) is an addict and he hits me sometimes. my mom knows and yet does not kick him out. should i move out? Im 17
IT all depends and you have to weigh up the pros and cons.

You can tell a teacher or the GP, but if your mother isnt willing to do anything, then you are looking at getting social services involved and that could cause a further melt down in your family unit.

If you do contact social services, then they would prefer evidence as well, so a diary of the event and any photos of bruises etc would help convince them.
That may also get them to ask your mum and get her to act re your brother. Only you know your family dynamic and can guess what peoples reactions will be.

You can leave home at 16.
The key point you need to remember is that at 17 the local authority have a duty to help you with finding a place

. That duty ceases when you become 18, so if you really want their help and you have decided you want to leave then do it at 17. You do need to think it through though as going to live on your own may not result in great accommodation and there are other issues. It helps if you can think it through.

I have no idea what state your education is or how bad the situation with your brother is. You need to weigh things up but do whats best for you.

People you can talk to:

CAB
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about-us/contact-us/

Shelter
https://england.shelter.org.uk/get_help
https://england.shelter.org.uk/housi...d_17_year_olds

They may also know if there are any special youth charities that can help people in your situation.

You can also talk through your situation with

0. Childline 0800 1111
1. Samaritans 116 123
2. https://kooth.com/ Online counselling
3. The Mix. 0808 808 4994. Sunday to Friday from 2pm to 11pm. webchat Sunday to Friday from 2pm to 11pm, and Saturday from 8pm to 11pm.
4. GP or teacher you trust.

Its better if you talk to someone and then they can get more details to assess whats happening. If you are in danger then I would be looking to move. If you plan it, then doing well in exams becomes an important aspect as you can then move to uni and stay there for the length of your curse, then line up a job and get your own place after.
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my brother(20) is an addict and he hits me sometimes. my mom knows and yet does not kick him out. should i move out? Im 17
You need to have a talk with your mother - she is making the situation worse by not doing anything. She also needs to have your best interests at heart too, as well as trying to encourage your brother to get help for his addiction issues.

Do you have anyone else you can stay with (a close friend, another family member)?
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IT all depends and you have to weigh up the pros and cons.

You can tell a teacher or the GP, but if your mother isnt willing to do anything, then you are looking at getting social services involved and that could cause a further melt down in your family unit.

If you do contact social services, then they would prefer evidence as well, so a diary of the event and any photos of bruises etc would help convince them.
That may also get them to ask your mum and get her to act re your brother. Only you know your family dynamic and can guess what peoples reactions will be.

You can leave home at 16.
The key point you need to remember is that at 17 the local authority have a duty to help you with finding a place

. That duty ceases when you become 18, so if you really want their help and you have decided you want to leave then do it at 17. You do need to think it through though as going to live on your own may not result in great accommodation and there are other issues. It helps if you can think it through.

I have no idea what state your education is or how bad the situation with your brother is. You need to weigh things up but do whats best for you.

People you can talk to:

CAB
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about-us/contact-us/

Shelter
https://england.shelter.org.uk/get_help
https://england.shelter.org.uk/housi...d_17_year_olds

They may also know if there are any special youth charities that can help people in your situation.

You can also talk through your situation with

0. Childline 0800 1111
1. Samaritans 116 123
2. https://kooth.com/ Online counselling
3. The Mix. 0808 808 4994. Sunday to Friday from 2pm to 11pm. webchat Sunday to Friday from 2pm to 11pm, and Saturday from 8pm to 11pm.
4. GP or teacher you trust.

Its better if you talk to someone and then they can get more details to assess whats happening. If you are in danger then I would be looking to move. If you plan it, then doing well in exams becomes an important aspect as you can then move to uni and stay there for the length of your curse, then line up a job and get your own place after.
thank you so much this was very helpful
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