Flatmates called security on me because I refused to turn music down?!

Funny how I’m pulling the race card but it seems like race the only thing you saw and noticed in whole argument. You do realise racism is not just slavery and black people being lynched. You don’t have to say the n word to be racist. Racism can occur in microaggressions. You’d be ignorant or just blind if you don’t think it’s racism. I’m the only black person in a flat with 5 other white people before this event, I was regularly isolated by my flatmates to the point I asked to change accommodation. The fact that one flatmate she said she was scared and shaking yet when security came she couldn’t tell him why she was scared and he even said it seems silly she would say that. Which just proves my point. I’m 5’3 and I didn’t even come near her, what does she feel threatened by exactly? 🤔

Because I thought you were after advice and you just seem to want to pick an argument. Unless you have evidence there is a racial element and motivation to the complaint and can prove it then its a weak argument to make and detracts from your main one.

First of all, I didn’t say once that I was going to use as an argument. Second of all, I did feel like what she said was racially motivated in order to get me in trouble. Thirdly just because I don’t blindly agree with you, does not mean I am looking for an argument. You’re the one who was looking for an argument when you said I was pulling the “race card”. As if mentioning race is some saving grace, oh please.

There is no proof that it was do to with race so bringing it up is looking pointless to everyone but you. Because of that people are pointing it out and you are not helping your case by contradicting yourself all over the place.

As others have said you are trying to play victim in a situation where everybody seems to be as bad as each other. Maybe you all need to learn that other people exist with different ways of living and you all need to work out how to cohabit.

Moved to uni life as this is unrelated to relationships

What do you mean?

I feel like there's probably something else underlying this and not just that you were playing music too loud.

My neighbours have felt threatened by me and everyone who said stop playing the race card really don’t know. Don’t listen to them

Why would I mention it in the first place if


Exactly, it’s usually white people who say don’t play the race card but they have never been racist to or have been treated differently because of the colour of their skin. I know international students who have been crying or felt uncomfortable by their flatmates

In all fairness if you didn't complain when they were playing music (presumably after 11pm) then that's your fault. You need to let them know when you are annoyed at their music. That being said, I do think that you are overall in the right. If they complain to you then you should probably turn your music down. But they should also when you complain.

@Astrainlinat have you spoken to your university accommodation team to see if they can move you to a different flat? Judging by your previous thread you might find things are better all round if you start again with a different group of flatmates.

The thing is I wasn’t annoyed by their music one bit, I’m a very care free person but I just find it hypocritical that they are complaining about my loud music when they have parties and guests round all the time. It shouldn’t be one rule for them and another for me

No of course it shouldn't - so you should let them know. I think it is quite unlikely that this is a race issue though unless you have experienced any other forms of racism from them?

Yes I have spoken to them, I just don’t have the money at the moment to move flat

It doesn't cost money to move, unless they don't have any rooms available at the same rate...