What is cheating?

Inspired by a thread about a girl who messaged her boyfriend pretended to be another girl, who flirted and arranged to meet up, I had to wonder, what exactly is cheating to you? Some people mentioned 'emotional cheating' that if someone who's in a relationship pretends they're single and flirts, they're already cheating. I'd never even considered this before, or thought of it as cheating. And if there are so many different forms of cheating, how can you know that your other half has the same concept of it?

In my opinion, kissing and more is cheating. Though making life plans (e.g. marraige, kids) or falling in love with someone other than your partner would also be cheating. But just pretending you're single isn't. Nor is flirting, complimenting etc. I always find this an interesting topic, as many couples I've discussed this with have different ideas of what cheating is (e.g. the guy said kissing was fine and not cheating, the girl said it was unacceptable and was cheating).

So what do you guys think constitutes cheating?

(Goodness, I said the C-word a lot in there, I think I need me a thesaurus!)

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Reply 1

dh00001

16

anything physical or if theres intent in the emotional stuff. if that makes sense :s-smilie:

Reply 2

randomgirl

14

Well I guess different people will have different definitions, and for each relationship there may be different rules.

In my opinion anything physical (kissing etc) is cheating. The whole flirting thing I think I'd be pissed off about, but I wouldn't count it as "cheating", just as a breach of trust really.

Reply 3

Bedshaped

14

When you don't play the game by the rules set out beforehand.

Reply 4

Hel

Polkadotsox

And if there are so many different forms of cheating, how can you know that your other half has the same concept of it?

Try asking them.

Reply 5

CHAMON

11

Flirting can lead to more if you over do it.

I wondered if you're in a relationship, and you used webcam to pleasure yourself with another girl, I was told it is cheating, it's just like using porn, but live. Anyone agree?

Reply 6

Polkadotsox

OP

CHAMON

Flirting can lead to more if you over do it.

I wondered if you're in a relationship, and you used webcam to pleasure yourself with another girl, I was told it is cheating, it's just like using porn, but live. Anyone agree?

Yeah, I agree. 'Cause that is like, sexual cheating basically, isn't it? You're getting your rocks off over someone on msn and they're getting off watching you. It's a sexual connection.

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Reply 7

Polkadotsox

OP

Hel

Try asking them.

And yeah, totally I agree with you. But I'm suprised by the amount of couples who don't actually talk about it when they get together, and only find out when one does something the other constitutes as cheating. Only the person who did it doesn't. If you get what I mean.

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Reply 8

talktofrank

13

Polkadotsox

Inspired by a thread about a girl who messaged her boyfriend pretended to be another girl, who flirted and arranged to meet up, I had to wonder, what exactly is cheating to you? Some people mentioned 'emotional cheating' that if someone who's in a relationship pretends they're single and flirts, they're already cheating. I'd never even considered this before, or thought of it as cheating. And if there are so many different forms of cheating, how can you know that your other half has the same concept of it?

In my opinion, kissing and more is cheating. Though making life plans (e.g. marraige, kids) or falling in love with someone other than your partner would also be cheating. But just pretending you're single isn't. Nor is flirting, complimenting etc. I always find this an interesting topic, as many couples I've discussed this with have different ideas of what cheating is (e.g. the guy said kissing was fine and not cheating, the girl said it was unacceptable and was cheating).

So what do you guys think constitutes cheating?

(Goodness, I said the C-word a lot in there, I think I need me a thesaurus!)

xx

I'm with you on this one.

Reply 9

tom_tom_tom

18

Anything more then flirting that leads to physical contact!

Reply 10

*soph*

14

Not so sure about the 'emotional cheating'; I'm not saying it's right, but I think it happens in more cases than you'd imagine.

Reply 11

HCD

16

CHAMON

Flirting can lead to more if you over do it.

I wondered if you're in a relationship, and you used webcam to pleasure yourself with another girl, I was told it is cheating, it's just like using porn, but live. Anyone agree?

Porn is faceless objects of lust, as far as the end user is concerned. If it's someone you know and/or might conceivably meet on webcam, totally different.

Reply 12

Rainbow-Dream

15

CHAMON

Flirting can lead to more if you over do it.

I wondered if you're in a relationship, and you used webcam to pleasure yourself with another girl, I was told it is cheating, it's just like using porn, but live. Anyone agree?

I wouldn't count it as the same thing. As someone else mentioned too, when you're live on webcam to someone, they're connecting with you too (on an emotional level) so you may as well be in the same room together. However if it's porn, it's a one way thing, as you're getting pleasure off of them, but not the other way round.
Think about it this way - anything you wouldn't want your partner to know about is cheating. In my opinion. :smile:

Reply 13

punkyrocker

14

I'd class cheating as anything physical, from kissing to full sex. The webcam thing I would also class as cheating. However I'd still probably be very offended if my partner pretended to be single, or flirted heavily with someone else. I'd be against anything where the intent is anything leaning towards cheating - pretending to be single, or flirting, or even cybersex (there was a recent thread about this I remember) I'd think is getting there.

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