Trouble with girlfriend

Alright, I'm in some serious trouble. My girlfriend was really upset a couple of days ago and I didn't manage to talk to her.

Today she was quite torn apart and she told me that she can't do this anymore. She wasn't quite the talking person, but it still came as quite a shock, I'm really busy right now and thought that it might be better this way.

I made a stupid decision and just agreed, I didn't say anything. I think she expected me to say something, because she was hanging onto it and I just ignored it coldhearted.

I actually care a bit more than I think I would have and I need to sort my mind out. The relationship wasn't built to last, but I didn't want to end it like that. We've only been together for about a month, I think I hurt her feelings and I really didn't want it to go down that way.

On another note, I really need my mind sorted out, any tips or help is greatly appreciated, I need to focus on exams...

Reply 1

MSB

17

You seem to have pretty much failed to talk to her.
Maybe try doing that?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

MSB

You seem to have pretty much failed to talk to her.
Maybe try doing that?

Well as I said I really don't have the time for it right now.

Any tips how I can get over it pretty quickly? It's taken me quite badly and I have no idea why, which is the worst part. I can't really spare time at the moment to get affected by this ...

Reply 3

~Ally~

14

Anonymous

Well as I said I really don't have the time for it right now.

Any tips how I can get over it pretty quickly? It's taken me quite badly and I have no idea why, which is the worst part. I can't really spare time at the moment to get affected by this ...

Dude, seriously, make the time, its called a concience.
you ****ed up, you hurt her. the only way to make it go away is to make things a bit better.

If you're not gonna believe that, then believe the cold hearted logic of it. an hour or two sacrificed to talking to her, or days /weeks wasted feeling bad

Reply 4

bitterendx

9

You don't deserve her then. :/

Clear your head for exams? I don't understand what you mean, revise more, see a counsellor, go for a walk on a nice day? depends what you mean by 'need my mind sortted out.

Reply 5

randdom

20

Talking to her will take an afternoon and you can get everything sorted in your head and hopefully give her some closure as well. Surely you can spare that small amount of time.

Reply 6

MSB

17

Anonymous

Well as I said I really don't have the time for it right now.

No, you do.

Reply 7

ßlαcksωαn

17

It;s normal for you to not comfort her right when she needs it, theres no need to end everything because of that.

Reply 8

h82think

14

You can't spare a few hours to talk to your (ex) gf? In all honesty I do not believe you, and instead think you are a jerk!

Reply 9

Peanut42

15

I understand you want to focus on your exams but seriously, this girl deserves an explanation. Surely just taking an afternoon out to sit down with her and explain yourself isn't too much to ask?

Reply 10

strawberry

13

exams are important...but so is your now ex gf because obviously, if you can't even make the time to talk to her and ease her emotions, you shouldn't even have begun the relationship.

Reply 11

Guitar_Mad

8

Get a backbone will you fella! You can't go around ****ting on people because it doesn't fit in with your schedule. She deserves an explaination.

Reply 12

emilina

17

Anonymous

Well as I said I really don't have the time for it right now.
Any tips how I can get over it pretty quickly? It's taken me quite badly and I have no idea why, which is the worst part. I can't really spare time at the moment to get affected by this ...

i sincerely hope that was a poor and inappropriate joke. . . . how the hell can you not have time to talk to someone?!?!! everyone else manages it.

i talk to my bf every day. . . and were both doing exams too. . . even if its just a couple of hours or something, thats better than nothing

and get over yourself, i had a break up during my jan exams and didnt go on about how i couldnt spare time to get affected by it . . you will be affected. . . just dont think about it. jeez. . this has made me mad :mad:

Reply 13

Jayjayjay

1

The time you spent not talking to her you have spent concerned and writing this post and thinking about it, where as just talking to her in the first place would have saved you the time and extra effort. If you care then you make time.

Reply 14

Merk that Sike of a Mike

Mate, sounds like you need to sort your life out just a tad.
Think about it logically;
You don't have the time to talk to her, but you're spending too much time thinking about her to revise?
Seriously; the answer's staring at you in the face.
Talk to her, apologize, tell her your mind was elsewhere you know it's not a real excuse etc. and tell her you'll do anything to make it up to her (but obv tell her that you are struggling with exam revision as wel- im sure she'll understand).
Have a go at that see how it goes.
/Peace

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