Shouldnt I be doing this?

My boyfriend of two and a half years dumped me a short while ago, out of the blue. He kept talking to me at first trying to still be friends but I found that unfair so I have just ignored the texts he sent me and we have had no contact for a week now. I have found it really, really hard but I'm getting there.

However when he tries to talk to me, he keeps telling me about what he's doing, particularly the fact he's meeting up with a girl or something..and I have noticed he has been trying to do the same through facebook...not that Ive been meaning to look at his page -I have little choice because it comes up as those status notifications on the news feed and he knows il read them. He's been saying really flirty things to some of the girls he knows at uni which isnt his style at all, I dont think he ever flirted with me once haha! It was his birthday at the weekend and he posted all pics of him kissing all these girls...literally every picture out of 50 is of him hugging/kissing a girl which, again, is verrrry unlike him!

What is his game?! Shouldnt I be the one trying to make him jealous?!

Reply 1

dh00001

dont play games and try to make him jealous. thats pathetic imo
delete him on facebook and keep doing what youre doing. youl get there :smile:

Reply 2

bete noire

He's probably just a completely different person to when you were going out, most likely cause it was a two and a half year gig and he wants to make up for lost time or something.

He is also probably trying to make you jealous and you should ignore it, if you dont want to be friends or even on civil terms with him, just delete him. There's no point in trying to one up each other in terms of showing that you're over one another as it ultimately achieves nothing.

Reply 3

britishseapower

no you shouldn't be doing it, it's pathetic in my opinion. If there is no hope of you ever getting back together, you should just both move on. It's just desperate and sad to flirt with people just for the sake of trying to make an ex partner jealous.

Reply 4

jack747

Sounds like a fag tbh.

Seems to me as hes trying to prove maybe to himself that he can do better than you although he knows that hes not going to get a more stable realationship out of many other people.

Take Dh's advice and delete him.

Or just confront him and ask what his game is and what he feels he is going to accomplish by acting the way he is.

Reply 5

t_ucd

Anonymous

Shouldnt I be the one trying to make him jealous?!

Yeah that's normally the way it works! Definitely delete him from Facebook, the way he's acting is childish and quite sad really.

Reply 6

Cassie89

Oh my ex did that, you can set your home page feed so that it doesn't mention stuff about certain people. It's a lot easier to get over someone if all that isn't being rubbed in your face :smile:

And go ahead and make him jealous, it already sounds like he's regretting his decision a bit if he's trying to get your attention this way.

Reply 7

mollymustard

Maybe he is trying to make you jealous, or maybe hes just trying to having a little fun.

Being in a relationship can be quite restrictive, he is probably just enjoying the fun of being single. Hes probably enjoying teasing you about all the attention he is getting as well.
Personally, I think you should do the same back to him and see his reaction!

Reply 8

Sarah Sheep

jack747

Sounds like a fag tbh.

I don't think people can sound like cigarettes.

Thread starter-
my friend's boyfriend did the exact same thing when they broke up. Definitely take the advice already made and delete him from your facebook and stuff - looks like he probably wants you to get jealous and beg him to take you back!

Reply 9

bete noire

Cassie89

Oh my ex did that, you can set your home page feed so that it doesn't mention stuff about certain people. It's a lot easier to get over someone if all that isn't being rubbed in your face :smile:

And go ahead and make him jealous, it already sounds like he's regretting his decision a bit if he's trying to get your attention this way.

not really

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Oh no what I meant was surely, as the dumped girl, I should be trying to make him jealous to try and show him what a mistake he's made... but instead HE is trying to make ME jealous! But he ended it so why would he want me to be jealous :confused:

I have no want/need to make him jealous, he isn't the same person anymore, he's become cold, negative and only interested in what he can gain. I dont want him back, it just makes me sad that he has to be like this, especially when he kept saying how important it was for us to stay friends. I mean, I think thats enough rubbing it in :frown:

What point is he trying to prove?

Reply 11

blondie_

Maybe he regrets his descision or hes trying to have "fun" by kissing lots of girls. If you dont want anything to do with him delete his facebook from your friends list.

Reply 12

Cassie89

i am a duck

not really

If he really didn't give a **** I don't see why he'd bother trying to make her jealous...

Reply 13

randdom

It sounds like he is trying to make you jealous. I don't know why but that is what it appears to be. You could talk to him about how you are feeling and try and get him to stop it. I don't think that you should be trying to make him feel guilty just put him behind you with his game playing and try to move on with your life.

Reply 14

FadedJade

I don't think he wants to make you jealous. He dumped you and now he's going out and having fun. There's nothing wrong in that.

Reply 15

rotatoe

you are probably just oversensitive from being dumped... I catch myself making up the most bizarre motives for the actions of an ex. Shouldnt cut him out your life forever IMO