In a relationship but want another girl

Anon plz..

ive been w/ my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now. i was starting to think wow this could be something pretty serious and long term, but i recently met this girl who i instantly found incredibly sexy.. not a day goes by without me thinking about wanting to be with her..

i still love my gf looooooooooads but what do you think i should do?

Reply 1

NDGAARONDI

16

Stay with your current girlfriend.

Reply 2

dh00001

16

crushes are normal. just dont act on it, dont tell your girlfriend and itl go

Reply 3

Mr. Orange

17

get a grip and find some disciplines

Reply 4

ferry500

1

It would be harsh on ur current gf if you left her for this girl. If your only going to see this new girl for a little while forget it altogether. But its up to you in the end.

If I was you I would stay with your current gf

Reply 5

bete noire

17

Maybe its time for you to see other girls...

Reply 6

thatguynooneknows

Anonymous

Anon plz..

ive been w/ my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now. i was starting to think wow this could be something pretty serious and long term, but i recently met this girl who i instantly found incredibly sexy.. not a day goes by without me thinking about wanting to be with her..

is 3 years not serious and long term in your book?
hmm

now to the actual question
if you love your girlfriend, and you know you do
like truly love her then just ignore the feelings
they seem pretty physical and not emotional anyways

but if you cant stop thinking about someone else then maybe its nt fair to stay with your girlfriend, things like this are tricky

i think a girl should tell you what to do imo ^^

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

thatguynooneknows

is 3 years not serious and long term in your book?
hmm

Yeah i do think that is serious, but i mean, i was thinking it could be a forever thing. lik she is the one. get me?

Reply 8

Faustus Fotherby

15

Anonymous

Yeah i do think that is serious, but i mean, i was thinking it could be a forever thing. lik she is the one. get me?

Be honest now, are you ready for forever? Think carefully about it.

Reply 9

khil

15

Think of it this way - if you lost your current girlfriend now, would you think "Yay I can now get with the other girl!" or would you think "****** what have I done? I can't live without her."

Guess the possibility of losing your current girlfriend should give you a clue. 3 years is not worth throwing away for a mere sexual attraction which sounds rather shallow and temporary.

Reply 10

Liv~

stay with ur girlfriend. 3yrs, that is long and think about ur ups and downs and her when you are thinking of being with other girl.

sometimes eyes can be deceiving, maybe you just adore the other girl.. the term"sexy" sounds like,well, you just admire her.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

i agree with most of the points but what if it was a one off/one night thing..

just to get it out of my system and make me realise how much i love my girl.

Reply 12

punktopia

3

Anonymous

Yeah i do think that is serious, but i mean, i was thinking it could be a forever thing. lik she is the one. get me?

And yet, you fancy another girl. Come on, if you really loved this first girl you wouldn't even be able to look at someone else in a sexual manner. Just dump her for her own good.

Reply 13

Faustus Fotherby

15

Ah but temptation leads to the dark si... no no no wait I mean if you have a one night stand now then you'll turn to the dark si... ARGH I MEAN if you have a "one off/one night thing" then what happens when the next attractive girl comes along? Will there be another "one off/one night thing"? Gotta nip this problem in the bud! Stamp down now and you'll be much happier if you stay with your girlfriend in the future. :smile:

Reply 14

Lord Hysteria

18

Mr. Orange has bought some Cillit Bang

get a grip and find some disciplines

a bit harsh ... he only fancies her ...

Reply 15

Soulwax

the grass isn't always greener on the other side...

Reply 16

P_Ben21

10

maybe you just want what you cant have

Reply 17

username47781

20

I think you need to decide what you want, if you want this other girl then maybe you should let your current girlfriend go, but be warned she'll most likely be devestated.

Reply 18

Ang|ophi|e

12

Anonymous

Anon plz..

ive been w/ my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now. i was starting to think wow this could be something pretty serious and long term, but i recently met this girl who i instantly found incredibly sexy.. not a day goes by without me thinking about wanting to be with her..

i still love my gf looooooooooads but what do you think i should do?

If your original post had included something along the lines of you liking this other girl for more than physical reasons, I might be inclined to tell you to end the relationship with your current girlfriend. But you have no substance when you say you find that girl to be incredibly sexy. I find Ed Westwick to be sexy. Does that mean I should dump my boyfriend for him? Granted this is a bit of a far stretched example, however you should get my point.

The fact that you have been with your girlfriend for three years says a lot. That has substance. It would be foolish to end a relationship as serious as yours just to be with another girl you just met.

It's understandable that you might think about the other girl everyday. Crushes in relationships are common. Just don't act on them and don't tell your girlfriend.

However, if you find yourself no longer connected with your girlfriend physically and emotionally, it might be time to end the relationship. On the other hand, you must consider that being with the same person for three years can get boring after a while. I would suggest you try and spice up the relationship a bit.

:smile:

Reply 19

sleeptodream

Anonymous

i agree with most of the points but what if it was a one off/one night thing..

just to get it out of my system and make me realise how much i love my girl.

just about the worst idea ever ever ever.
if you respect your gf enough you should realise what that sounds like (!) and try and have some respect for this other girl as well- shes a person with feelings, not something to use to help 'get it out of my system'

you could end up making some pretty stupid, and very hurtful, mistakes if youre thinking like this :s-smilie:

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