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Teetotal?

I'm pretty much teetotal... but that's out of habit, not principle. :rolleyes:

I guess I'll just see how things go, whatever Uni I go to.
Don't wanna miss out... but I don't wanna become one of "that" group, either.
AKA the drunken idiot posse. Pointless lifestyle.

Reply 21

Adhsur

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Willa

Emma. When you come up/down for interview, let me know...and we can have a good non-alcoholic drink somewhere. After that we'll go find your interviewers and bribe them! :tongue:

Yay, that would be great. Bless you! :biggrin:

Reply 22

nabzp

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I'm teetotal, cos of religion, although I don't think I'd drink anyway. I just stick to J2O

Reply 23

Helenia

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crazydaveuk

Don't wanna miss out... but I don't wanna become one of "that" group, either.
AKA the drunken idiot posse. Pointless lifestyle.

It's not really a group thing. You do it or you don't. It's not like school where the cool kids get drunk and the rest sit around bitching but secretly wishing they got that much attention. If you don't drink it's no problem. If you make a big thing of it, it is.

Reply 24

Willa

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actually, that's a bit of a lie. Not drinking does throw up a problem. It DOES make it harder when socialising in the first week. This is because when you get to know a group of people, one of their favourite pastimes tend to involve drinking lots. Yes yes you go along with them anyway, and sit there with your coke, but it's not the same...they got all very close and friendly with each other and you tend to feel left out a bit.

dont get me wrong...you will make friends, it just make take that bit longer to get to the same level of friendship as some of the other drinkers do with each other.

Reply 25

JaF

OP

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I saw this in the news today:
Almost a third of new students at Cambridge University admit feeling under too much pressure to drink during Freshers' Week, according to a survey.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/england/cambridgeshire/3740668.stm

Reply 26

Willa

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that article is a remarkably true reflection of my general feelings during freshers week.

Reply 27

crazydaveuk

Willa

that article is a remarkably true reflection of my general feelings during freshers week.

Yeah... this is my worry.

On the one hand I think hey, it's only a week. And if I can make some good friends then, it'll be okay to ease off the stuff later.
--But on the other hand, do I want to be making these people my friends if it's not really who I am? Drink itself isn't a bonding thing. Oh, and I don't want it to be the sole reason I "pull", either! Ha.

I guess I'll just try to meet people one way or another... the last thing I want to do is become a hermit. But if there are other events, music especially being a passion of mine, then that might be a lot better.

I'll see how things go... one important point is that this is gonna be the case at basically any Uni you go to.
Not sure if Cambridge is better or worse in that respect!
:rolleyes:

Reply 28

devilschild

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You'll get on fine i'm sure- I managed to go on last weeks pub crawl and stay sober- they let me do some of the drinking games such as being fed drink through a condom with water instead of alcohol, so you can still join in! And it was very amusing watching every1 else get more and more drunk as the night went on. Not that I don't drink I just had got slightly sick of all the free cocktails i'd been drinking all week and wanted a night off. But really you don't have to drink here- no1 will make you and it won't stop you having a good time x

Reply 29

visesh

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JaF

Are there many people who go to Cambridge who are teetotal? The reason I ask is that I am teetotal and I am slightly concerned I will become a social reject when I go to Cambridge next year.

I think that quite a few people feel that those two things go hand in hand :wink:

.

Reply 30

Immortal Wombat

The trouble is that any attempt to relieve pressure (college parents saying "You don't have to come to the party, there's no pressure", "you want a drink? don't feel you have to...") generally work the exact opposite to the way they are intended, because it highlights the fact that you're 'different', that you might have felt pressurised. It's a really tricky situation.

Reply 31

MadNatSci

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Immortal Wombat

The trouble is that any attempt to relieve pressure (college parents saying "You don't have to come to the party, there's no pressure", "you want a drink? don't feel you have to...") generally work the exact opposite to the way they are intended, because it highlights the fact that you're 'different', that you might have felt pressurised. It's a really tricky situation.

Tell me about it - it's very hard not to put the pressure on! Most people actually put themselves under pressure, at the end of the day, because they feel they have to join in to be accepted - whether or not they actually do. I know I felt that way in my first week. It didn't detract much from my enjoyment and in fact it did do me good because I felt forced to come out of my shell and have been less shy since - but I do empathise with some of what people are feeling. You honestly don't need to though, as I know now :smile:

Reply 32

Aster

Yeah, I'm a teetotal too and the Fresher's week was sort of unpleasant at some times. But my main problem is that I also don't really like being around loud drunk people, so I politely skipped all the bar crawls and those events where most of the social bonding takes place. As a result, I sort of managed to establish some connection with people but very few, compared to other students. Or wait...maybe it's due to the fact that I'm a total bore who can't even speak proper English. Or a combination of both. But actally I'm not too concerned about the situation, because at least I was never forced to do something I wouldn't enjoy (like being stuck with 100 drunk freshers squeezed into a small room and spilling bear all around them and dancing to a cheesy music). :smile:

Basically I think that what you have to do is to accept that you _are_ different, at least in your choice of passtimes and the ways to relaxation. And don't try desperately to fit in and be something you aren't...
That sort of stuff.

But seriously, you know better than to accept an advice from a sociopath. :wink:

Reply 33

dreamer

Of all the Freshers in my college, the most interesting ones IMHO have tended to be either teetotal or heavy drinkers. You won't be a social reject there are tonnes who teetotal.

Come to Corpus for sobriety: our bar shuts at 10.30...

Reply 34

MadLy

dreamer

Of all the Freshers in my college, the most interesting ones IMHO have tended to be either teetotal or heavy drinkers. You won't be a social reject there are tonnes who teetotal.

Come to Corpus for sobriety: our bar shuts at 10.30...

I've heard that Corpus is a bit dull for ppl's liking.. :eek:

But the sobriety thing runs true...apparently 3/5 of the freshers there are teetotal...quite a record for students methinks :smile:

Reply 35

UndiscoverdSelf

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but getting wasted is so fun. i've had more than 4 units every night since i got here

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