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in a relationship but always look at other guys...

Please don't de-anon as my bf is on this website.

We have been together for 2 months now, and I really like him, but I can't help trying to get attention from other men i find attractive. Just now, I invited a guy to my room and we just talked and had a nice chat. I immediately felt like I had started to like him. And I get this with other guys. I always flirt with others and when I meet someone who I am drawn to, I think of taking him to bed. I feel really guilty after when I see my bf and he tells me he loves me, but I just do it anyway!! Is anyone else like this? Don't get me wrong I adore my bf but I just want thrills every single day! Is this normal? Doesnt being in a relationship mean that you don't think of sleeping with other guys??? :s-smilie:
There's a line between thinking about it and acting upon it. This is probably just a phase that you get whilst you are young - it would probably be more unnatural if you were married and behaving in this way but you are young and having fun and exploring your feelings. However whilst you are in a relationship you must keep your partners feelings in mind and treat him how you would like to be treated - so its fine talking to other guys and stuff but i woudlnt take it much further as this wouldnt be fair on him.
But dont worry - i think its natural :smile:
It's okay as long as you care about your boyfriend more and you know you wouldn't act on your thoughts. It sounds to me, that you like attention. That's not always good. Whenever you find yourself starting to like a guy, think about your boyfriend. Hopefully this will make you distance yourself from that guy.
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Please don't de-anon as my bf is on this website.

We have been together for 2 months now, and I really like him, but I can't help trying to get attention from other men i find attractive. Just now, I invited a guy to my room and we just talked and had a nice chat. I immediately felt like I had started to like him. And I get this with other guys. I always flirt with others and when I meet someone who I am drawn to, I think of taking him to bed. I feel really guilty after when I see my bf and he tells me he loves me, but I just do it anyway!! Is anyone else like this? Don't get me wrong I adore my bf but I just want thrills every single day! Is this normal? Doesnt being in a relationship mean that you don't think of sleeping with other guys??? :s-smilie:


I'm a little like this. I adore the thrill of being flirted with, complimented and pursued by other people. It lets me know that people find me intelligent, fun and attractive, and that I'm not just an "acquired taste" that any boyfriend I have happens to go for. However, there is a HUGE difference between being rather taken with someone, and wondering what they are like in bed, to actually *taking* them to bed!

Keep your kickers on, and you'll be fine.

Or discuss an open relationship with your boyfriend.
Reply 4
I, personally, am stuck to my girlfriend like glue. I subconsciously don't even think of other girls.. perhaps you're just different. You mentioned "adore".. well i LOVE my girlfriend so maybe that's the difference.
Reply 5
You need to be single and have the fun you really want