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Hate dating apps. Tinder made me realize I'm ugly.
Had Tinder for 6 months, no matches, swiped thousands of women.
I never realized how ugly I am. Always thought I was average.
Dating apps like Tinder and Bumble have made realize something is seriously wrong. Because of this, I have decided to get cosmetic surgery. Want to get it done abroad as the uk is too expensive. Thinking Thailand, Turkey, Belgium.
Need advice. Much appreciated.
I never realized how ugly I am. Always thought I was average.
Dating apps like Tinder and Bumble have made realize something is seriously wrong. Because of this, I have decided to get cosmetic surgery. Want to get it done abroad as the uk is too expensive. Thinking Thailand, Turkey, Belgium.
Need advice. Much appreciated.
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Reply 1
Maybe you're too picky. Or women think you're only looking for a hookup
Reply 2
Original post by hello_shawn
Maybe you're too picky. Or women think you're only looking for a hookup
Not really. I swipe every girl on Tinder
Reply 5
Yeah average people get matched all the time. Your pictures probably aren't that good. Black out your face and post your pictures and your profile here so we can see what's going on.
Reply 6
If you have a face like a box of spanners that will give you a disadvantage.
The good news is that you can make your body into that of an adonis. It doesn't have to be a body builder physique. Just reasonably athletic.
It's an either or situation. Where either an attractive face or an attractive body is good enough to attract enough women to you.
You are never going to be physically attractive to every woman that you meet. No one is. But you will be physically attractive to enough of them.
Then all you need is to meet enough women - preferably in real life - and then do and say the right sort of things. Which basically means trying to avoid doing anything that would place you in the category of "not for me" for any compatible women that you meet.
You can have cosmetic surgery if you want. If I had your exact same body and face, I wouldn't. I'd just get on with what I'd been dealt with with through genetics. My basic life philosophy is pragmatism over idealism. If you are more of an idealist than a pragmatist, then that's fine.
If you have the money, a dating coach might help you. Or a matchmaker. If you don't have the money, you are probably a student - in which case take full advantage of the dating opportunities presented to you on campus and through all the student social activities.
The good news is that you can make your body into that of an adonis. It doesn't have to be a body builder physique. Just reasonably athletic.
It's an either or situation. Where either an attractive face or an attractive body is good enough to attract enough women to you.
You are never going to be physically attractive to every woman that you meet. No one is. But you will be physically attractive to enough of them.
Then all you need is to meet enough women - preferably in real life - and then do and say the right sort of things. Which basically means trying to avoid doing anything that would place you in the category of "not for me" for any compatible women that you meet.
You can have cosmetic surgery if you want. If I had your exact same body and face, I wouldn't. I'd just get on with what I'd been dealt with with through genetics. My basic life philosophy is pragmatism over idealism. If you are more of an idealist than a pragmatist, then that's fine.
If you have the money, a dating coach might help you. Or a matchmaker. If you don't have the money, you are probably a student - in which case take full advantage of the dating opportunities presented to you on campus and through all the student social activities.
Reply 7
Show us your profile
i don't know how Tinder or any dating app works but listen - the reason half those girls look good is because they're all using selfie filters or whatever they're called. the ones that give you good lighting and make you look thinner and brighter. try it!!
also, think about your photo composition, i.e. the way you frame it. does it make you look creepy or flattering. what are you wearing? are you sitting on a stoop with a litre of gin? i saw some dude on here post a photo like that asking for advice. see, girls have the luxury to choose - so if you look like a slacker or a criminal it's easy for them to pass by. it might also be helpful if you have a photo of you on a casual night out, like at the pub, because it gives the impression that you have friends, you're social and well liked. just some ideas. no need to for cosmetic surgery when you can manipulate photos like everyone else in the world.
also, think about your photo composition, i.e. the way you frame it. does it make you look creepy or flattering. what are you wearing? are you sitting on a stoop with a litre of gin? i saw some dude on here post a photo like that asking for advice. see, girls have the luxury to choose - so if you look like a slacker or a criminal it's easy for them to pass by. it might also be helpful if you have a photo of you on a casual night out, like at the pub, because it gives the impression that you have friends, you're social and well liked. just some ideas. no need to for cosmetic surgery when you can manipulate photos like everyone else in the world.
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Reply 9
tinder is designed to be fake. if you aren't playing along, and using every filter, awkward pose, blur and flash technique possible, that's probably why
Reply 10
Quit Tinder - it is arguably the worst method of finding a potential partner. It is only ever used for meaningless hook-ups and ego boosting. Its also worth noting one of the many tactics Tinder uses is to intentionally ignore your swipes if you swipe several to the right - remember that Tinder only benefit from you if you are single so they can spy on your intimate messages, interests, etc...
Find a hobby
If you have a hobby then you are good to go already. Find a group that shares the same hobby as you and focus on that hobby and meeting friends via that hobby. Build your confidence via this and start introducing yourself to people sharing similar interests. Self-esteem is key to attracting a potential partner. Physical appearance changes overtime and a majority of it can be naturally adaptable if given the right techniques, such as exercising, healthy eating, sunlight, etc...
If you want a partner, then you need to actively work on being the best you that you can be. A majority of the physical stuff will not matter when in a relationship as long as you have a good personality, having the confidence to chat with a potential partner and making them laugh and smile goes more than anything else.
The cosmetic surgery idea is insanity, expensive and you will feel even more insecure if you were to do so. Avoid it.
Find a hobby
If you have a hobby then you are good to go already. Find a group that shares the same hobby as you and focus on that hobby and meeting friends via that hobby. Build your confidence via this and start introducing yourself to people sharing similar interests. Self-esteem is key to attracting a potential partner. Physical appearance changes overtime and a majority of it can be naturally adaptable if given the right techniques, such as exercising, healthy eating, sunlight, etc...
If you want a partner, then you need to actively work on being the best you that you can be. A majority of the physical stuff will not matter when in a relationship as long as you have a good personality, having the confidence to chat with a potential partner and making them laugh and smile goes more than anything else.
The cosmetic surgery idea is insanity, expensive and you will feel even more insecure if you were to do so. Avoid it.
Original post by karenfr0mfinance
Yeah average people get matched all the time. Your pictures probably aren't that good. Black out your face and post your pictures and your profile here so we can see what's going on.
I've heard Tinder stories like this before, it's actually not all that uncommon.
You appear to be a woman. "Average" guys do not get matched "all the time", most struggle on there. "Average" women yes, get matched all the time. The Tinder experience of your average man and woman is a night and day differance.
The guy should just get off Tinder imo, he's swiped literally every woman and can't get a single match.
He's not good looking enough to compete online in his location.
Reply 12
Try Grindr
Reply 13
Original post by goggleyed
post pics so that we can judge
Na Bro
Reply 14
Original post by ANM775
I've heard Tinder stories like this before, it's actually not all that uncommon.
You appear to be a woman. "Average" guys do not get matched "all the time", most struggle on there. "Average" women yes, get matched all the time. The Tinder experience of your average man and woman is a night and day differance.
The guy should just get off Tinder imo, he's swiped literally every woman and can't get a single match.
He's not good looking enough to compete online in his location.
You appear to be a woman. "Average" guys do not get matched "all the time", most struggle on there. "Average" women yes, get matched all the time. The Tinder experience of your average man and woman is a night and day differance.
The guy should just get off Tinder imo, he's swiped literally every woman and can't get a single match.
He's not good looking enough to compete online in his location.
In other words. I'm screwed
Reply 15
why dont you actually go out and talk to women instead of relying of your looks on a phone app to get you girls
Reply 16
There is nothing wrong with you it’s tinder that’s wrong. Tinder is full of fake people who’s profile pictures look nothing like them in real life. In truth they are probably just as insecure as you except they chose to hide their real selves. Don’t let this harm your self esteem and don’t feel that you have to get cosmetic surgery! Be yourself and don’t change for anyone.
Reply 17
Original post by Anonymous
There is nothing wrong with you it’s tinder that’s wrong. Tinder is full of fake people who’s profile pictures look nothing like them in real life. In truth they are probably just as insecure as you except they chose to hide their real selves. Don’t let this harm your self esteem and don’t feel that you have to get cosmetic surgery! Be yourself and don’t change for anyone.
Enough with the generic motivational talk. Fact is I can't get a match on Tinder. I know loads of guys who are just average looking and they get plenty of matches.
I'm not delusional, I'm know that I'm ugly as f***. I've got the money and the means to get cosmetic surgery. Want to change my whole face.
If something is broken, u fix it.
Original post by bratanak47
Had Tinder for 6 months, no matches, swiped thousands of women.
I never realized how ugly I am. Always thought I was average.
Dating apps like Tinder and Bumble have made realize something is seriously wrong. Because of this, I have decided to get cosmetic surgery. Want to get it done abroad as the uk is too expensive. Thinking Thailand, Turkey, Belgium.
Need advice. Much appreciated.
I never realized how ugly I am. Always thought I was average.
Dating apps like Tinder and Bumble have made realize something is seriously wrong. Because of this, I have decided to get cosmetic surgery. Want to get it done abroad as the uk is too expensive. Thinking Thailand, Turkey, Belgium.
Need advice. Much appreciated.
Switch to grindr. Some guy on YouTube said there's lots of trann*es on there. If you want head then just put a blindfold on and let a chick with a di** do it.
Reply 19
^ LOOOL
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