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Feeling lonely at Uni in first year..

I moved into halls at my uni a couple of weeks after freshers as I was ill at the time and im feeling pretty lonely as i have no friends to meet up with. Ive been to lectures & seminars and spoken to a few different people but ive found that most of them have already cliqued off and have friendship groups so it’s pretty hard to intergrate with them. Also the conversations ive had with them havent “built” a friendship and it would probably be a bit weird to ask them if they wanted to hang out. Im in a single sex flat with 3 other girls and theyre all nice but they are always in their rooms or out which makes it more difficult to socialise. Ive asked them on a group chat if they wanted to hang out and they were all busy so im feeling pretty stumped and low. I have literally zeerroo friends here and its starting to take a toll on me ~ ive barely been here a month so i hope to god it changes lol... Is anyone else experiencing anything similar ~ i reallyyyy want to be able to socialise and meet up with friends to do the things everybody else in my halls seem to be doing!

Reply 1

Rhythmical

Original post by Lizz.98

I can relate, I made friends pretty early on at university and even before but we all stopped hanging with one another etc and so I'm trying to build friendships with people. The friendships you see may be superficial and often in a few months people get sick of each other as they just stuck together for the sake of it. You need to join societies really and get involved as its the easiest way to meet people.

Reply 2

JT_888

Original post by Lizz.98

Sorry to hear about this - hope you're well. Have you tried joining societies at uni - perhaps you can meet new people from there and make friends. :smile:

What Uni you at?

Aston

Original post by So Instinct

What Uni you at?

Reply 5

Lizz.98

Thank you, I was thinking about joining societies ~ maybe ill brave it 😬

Original post by CoffeeAndPolitics

Sorry to hear about this - hope you're well. Have you tried joining societies at uni - perhaps you can meet new people from there and make friends. :smile:

Reply 6

Breeee

Original post by Lizz.98

Almost all of my friends ive met at clubs and societies. Id highly recommend joining at least one

Reply 7

JT_888

Original post by Lizz.98

Thank you, I was thinking about joining societies ~ maybe ill brave it 😬

No worries - hopefully that will help you make friends that way and make you feel better about things.

Reply 8

hallamstudents

Official Rep

Hey @lizz.98

The way you're feeling is super common and fine -- don't worry about it. The chances are those people breaking off into 'cliques' are just glueing to the people they've managed to speak to even a little, and they're just as likely to welcome you into the fold if you make the effort. Easier said than done, sometimes you just have to break out of that comfort zone!

Like a few people have mentioned in posts, societies are a great way for meeting people. You already have that icebreaker of a middle ground -- a hobby/sport/anything that you have in common to talk about. What hasn't been mentioned are socials, which are activites with your society that are a great way to break you in and have you getting to know everyone.

One last thought is that depending on your course, your seminar/workshop groups might rotate and you'll meet new people that way. I personally met a lot of good friends after my seminar group changed quarter way through the year, because I'd only ever seen them in lectures beforehand.

Good luck in university and have fun!

Josh

Reply 9

hallamstudents

Official Rep

Hey @Lizz.98

The way you're feeling is super common and fine -- don't worry about it. The chances are those people breaking off into 'cliques' are just glueing to the people they've managed to speak to even a little, and they're just as likely to welcome you into the fold if you make the effort. Easier said than done, sometimes you just have to break out of that comfort zone!

Like a few people have mentioned in posts, societies are a great way for meeting people. You already have that icebreaker of a middle ground -- a hobby/sport/anything that you have in common to talk about. What hasn't been mentioned are socials, which are activites with your society that are a great way to break you in and have you getting to know everyone.

One last thought is that depending on your course, your seminar/workshop groups might rotate and you'll meet new people that way. I personally met a lot of good friends after my seminar group changed quarter way through the year, because I'd only ever seen them in lectures beforehand.

Good luck in university and have fun!

Josh