Being bigger than your boy friend

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Bobo2020
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So I’m in a long distance relationship and it’s almost been 1 year, we met each other for the first time everything went well but there’s just one thing.

I am over weight And next to my bf I’m bigger than him he love me the way I am but I don’t want to be like this any more my weight is constantly on my mind and being in this relationship has motivated me to lose weight

BUT this is the thing, they always say you should only lose weight for your self and not no one else. So does me wanting to lose weight For my boy friend and also my self bad...?
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(Original post by Bobo2020)
So I’m in a long distance relationship and it’s almost been 1 year, we met each other for the first time everything went well but there’s just one thing.

I am over weight And next to my bf I’m bigger than him he love me the way I am but I don’t want to be like this any more my weight is constantly on my mind and being in this relationship has motivated me to lose weight

BUT this is the thing, they always say you should only lose weight for your self and not no one else. So does me wanting to lose weight For my boy friend and also my self bad...?
Firstly, since you want to lose weight for yourself I’d say no but you need to make sure you are losing the weight for yourself more than others. This is something you’d have to work on. Losing weight for yourself is always good as long as it’s done in a healthy manner.

Second, I’m glad to see your boyfriend is happy with the way you are and doesn’t pressure you to lose weight.

Losing weight for yourself isn’t bad, for your boyfriend not necessarily as it isn’t the motivating factor.

Good luck on your journey of weight loss!
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Well he kinda is the motivation because we’re in a long distance relationship and I’m motivated for the next time I see him not just because of how he will react but how much more confident I will be around him you know
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Forget about crappy cliches like you should only lose weight for your self and not no one else.

Just go ahead and lose the goddamned weight!

Or more to the point, make small changes to the type of foods that you eat as well as small changes to the amount that you eat as well as small changes to the amount of exercise (at a pulse rate of about 130 BPM) and you will lose weight, and keep it off, and generally have more strength and energy reserves to boot.
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(Original post by Bobo2020)
So I’m in a long distance relationship and it’s almost been 1 year, we met each other for the first time everything went well but there’s just one thing.

I am over weight And next to my bf I’m bigger than him he love me the way I am but I don’t want to be like this any more my weight is constantly on my mind and being in this relationship has motivated me to lose weight

BUT this is the thing, they always say you should only lose weight for your self and not no one else. So does me wanting to lose weight For my boy friend and also my self bad...?
no. you should definitely lose weight for other people. it's how you get ahead in life.
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(Original post by nonotyoutoo)
no. you should definitely lose weight for other people. it's how you get ahead in life.
Oh jesus😂

You can't tell people that, that's ridiculous 😂 If you have to lose weight to "get ahead" then the people who are involved in your life don't really care about you do they? If you need to be skinny to "get ahead" then obviously it's saying your mind and personality mean nothing to these people?
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Unless you're perfectly happy with your weight, which you are not, then to lose weight just now would not be for yourself.

Losing weight would be beneficial for both you and the relationship. For starters, you would be more confident in yourself and lose the worry of being overweight. You being happier will, therefore, benefit the relationship.

But if you don't lose weight, don't. It's up to you. I personally love chocolate too much.
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Dont change for anyone because he clearly doesnt mind your body otherwise he wouldve probably dumped you if he really had a problem with it so YOUR PERFECT THE WAY YOU ARE. Alot of boys like thick girls nowadays anyways!! Dont change for anyone girll xx your perfect xxx
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