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How to stop masturbating

16 and I’ve been masturbating since 12.
I enjoy but after I always feel regret and guilt.
For the past couple of years, I’ve been trying to stop because I feel bad, like I’m a disappointment to my family and I’m also religious. I also wish to have a big family when I’m older but I think masturbating might make not that come true.

Usually, I don’t fap for a week to a few days but when I’m by myself and get bored, I end up looking at pics online and progressively turn into masturbating and after that, I feel that I shouldn’t have done that and feel very bad.

I really want to stop. I’ve tried keeping myself busy, keeping my mind of it but everytime I get bored and I’m alone, I end up doing it. I’ve even tried meditating at one point. :frown: any help pls thank you
Masturbating apparently increases having the chance of kids also if you don’t masturbate the chances of having a child decrease by about 10% i bet your parents did it at your ages so don’t worry i assume your not sexually active so at least you’re only masturbating!!!! Masturbating can become addictive if you do it as often as 2 times a day if you feel the need to not masturbate then just do the method: masturbate tomorrow then wait till the next 2 days then wait till the next 4 days until you don’t do it for 2 weeks I’m sure you won’t feel the need to do it anymore.
PS MASTURBATING IS NOT A SIN
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Um
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There's nothing wrong with masturbation, it's natural and not unhealthy, it wont affect your offspring in any way. You shouldn't feel bad about it and you're not less of a person because of it, I don't know your family and I will avoid commenting on it because it might be related to religion and I have a very polemic opinion on that. I am, however, pretty certain that your family wont reject you for it and probably did the same when they were your age (and might still do it occasionally).

Some of my friends have stopped doing it, there really aren't many tips. Don't look at "pics" and just try and control yourself, you just need the willpower (@CTLeafez hehe) you can't want to do something but then not follow through with it just make up your mind and do it. Maybe try and get a girlfriend. You might fail a few times but if you keep trying (and I mean actually trying not just saying you want to do it and then not doing anything to achieve your goals and whine that they don't achieve themselves) you will eventually succeed.~

Not mastrubating is not bad for you either, your testosterone levels will raise for a week or two but then it will return to normal (that means that you will be very ***needy*** :smile: for the first two weeks but then it will become easier to contain yourself)
Get any religious leader to take a Jeremy Kyle lie detector test: "Have you ever masturbated?"

They will ALL fail. It's up to you if you want to do what a hypocrite tells you to.

There's a school of thought that religious leaders that say that masturbation is bad are just using that as a cheap and easy way to gain power over you. By making you gulity for something you shouldn't fell guilty about.

For my children, I intend making it clear to them that masturbation is cool and fine and natural and expected of them (to do whenever they feel like it). And that it's a purely personal matter and none of anyone else's business. And that if they don't masturbate then that's a sign that their mental or physical health or wellbeing might need looking into.
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Hey guys, i did it again :frown:
I was left home alone and boredom just took over.
I really want to stop but I don’t know how to when I’m bored or alone.
Any helps pls :frown: thanks
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
16 and I’ve been masturbating since 12.
I enjoy but after I always feel regret and guilt.
For the past couple of years, I’ve been trying to stop because I feel bad, like I’m a disappointment to my family and I’m also religious. I also wish to have a big family when I’m older but I think masturbating might make not that come true.

Usually, I don’t fap for a week to a few days but when I’m by myself and get bored, I end up looking at pics online and progressively turn into masturbating and after that, I feel that I shouldn’t have done that and feel very bad.

I really want to stop. I’ve tried keeping myself busy, keeping my mind of it but everytime I get bored and I’m alone, I end up doing it. I’ve even tried meditating at one point. :frown: any help pls thank you

Masturbating is not a sin. It will also not preclude you from having a family. It is perfectly healthy, provided it doesn't rule your life.
! ! ! DO READ PLZ ! ! !

The urge for masturbation, in my opinion, is mainly caused as a response to stress. Masturbation releases dopamine chemical in the brain, which masks the feeling of stress. However, there are other chemicals too which reduce stress and make you feel happy. These are a group of chemicals known as endorphins, which are mainly released as a response to pain.

I believe from my personal experience that endorphins can alleviate the urge to masturbate. They may or may not help you, but I strongly urge you to try.

Like I said, endorophins are released mainly in response to pain, so what we need is to feel pain. By 'pain' here, I do not mean the injurious type of pain, but I mean the good kind of pain, caused by activities such as intense excercise, taking a hot shower, or eating spicy food.

One of the best ways I have found is to do excercises which hurt. I feel a 'high' after doing them until I can not move anymore. They release enough endorphins to completely eradicate the urge to masturbate, for the day at least. So, why not you try and find out?

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That was the end of my answer, however if you need some help getting started, then these are some of the excercises which can tire you out in 10-15 mins of doing them:
Dips.
Pistol squats.
Pull ups.
Body saw.
Decline push ups.
Dumbell thruster.
Dumbell side lateral raise.

(You may take a hot shower after excercise).
Original post by Anonymous
16 and I’ve been masturbating since 12.
I enjoy but after I always feel regret and guilt.
For the past couple of years, I’ve been trying to stop because I feel bad, like I’m a disappointment to my family and I’m also religious. I also wish to have a big family when I’m older but I think masturbating might make not that come true.

Usually, I don’t fap for a week to a few days but when I’m by myself and get bored, I end up looking at pics online and progressively turn into masturbating and after that, I feel that I shouldn’t have done that and feel very bad.

I really want to stop. I’ve tried keeping myself busy, keeping my mind of it but everytime I get bored and I’m alone, I end up doing it. I’ve even tried meditating at one point. :frown: any help pls thank you


You have got a problem
Original post by Anonymous
Masturbating apparently increases having the chance of kids also if you don’t masturbate the chances of having a child decrease by about 10% i bet your parents did it at your ages so don’t worry i assume your not sexually active so at least you’re only masturbating!!!! Masturbating can become addictive if you do it as often as 2 times a day if you feel the need to not masturbate then just do the method: masturbate tomorrow then wait till the next 2 days then wait till the next 4 days until you don’t do it for 2 weeks I’m sure you won’t feel the need to do it anymore.
PS MASTURBATING IS NOT A SIN

Scientific evidence for your first claim?
Original post by Anonymous
16 and I’ve been masturbating since 12.
I enjoy but after I always feel regret and guilt.
For the past couple of years, I’ve been trying to stop because I feel bad, like I’m a disappointment to my family and I’m also religious. I also wish to have a big family when I’m older but I think masturbating might make not that come true.

Usually, I don’t fap for a week to a few days but when I’m by myself and get bored, I end up looking at pics online and progressively turn into masturbating and after that, I feel that I shouldn’t have done that and feel very bad.

I really want to stop. I’ve tried keeping myself busy, keeping my mind of it but everytime I get bored and I’m alone, I end up doing it. I’ve even tried meditating at one point. :frown: any help pls thank you




My partner and I are married we both give the best pleasure in bed sounds crazy but when am at work I go to the toilet at pics and masterbate.
I’m literally going through what your going through right now as I’m also experiencing those feelings and I think to myself will I ever have a family of my own when I’m older and it really worry’s me to think that I won’t due to the fact that masterbating is having a negative impact on my sociable skills and relationship skills but I found that talking to people close such as family is important as they will understand and doing sports is great as being active and doing something with your time makes you forget about masterbating a little. I apologise if I’ve not helped or said the right things but trust me you will find somebody in the future just try doing sports or talking to family about the situation and I can see you getting better but you got to remember that it’s totally natural but doing it to much isn’t good
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I’m 16 too and I am in the same situation I hate it but when I’m alone that’s when my mind goes to porn I have beat it a couple of times but not a lot I am religious too I feel so much guilt knowing I have fallen into temptation again I would like to ask for help and how do I live a better life with God.
Reply 13
Some (occasional) masturbation is healthy. I’m also religious so I try to (and do manage to) stay away from it around Lent and “reward” myself with some wanks at other times. That’s more than a month so requires a bit of determination. And you feel better when you have to do it. You can adapt this around other religious festivities if you’re not Christian. Basically delayed gratification.

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